Luckily I have siblings. I don't believe that ailing parents are my responsibility. It wasn't me who chose to have them like they chose to have me. I really hate that idea that I should give back to them because they gave me life and raised me, oh please, that was their choice and responsibility. I had no say in that one and if I did, guess what I'd choose. I'd go back and get my mother to abort me.
I'm asking because I was talking about this with my husband and he may one day agree to take care of his aging parents. I don't understand the drive is it a guilt thing or what because he agree with me, if he could go back, he'd ask his mother to abort him too!
And don't tell me to commit suicide, I've got life, now I'm stuck with it for what little it is worth. Even in moments of joy and love, that is my burden.
2007-07-08 20:34:29 · 24 answers · asked by qwertatious 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh, I won't be having children of my own for various reasons. Basically, I think it's immoral. But because of this, I'll be able to have a sweet retirement fund and set myself up in a posh nursing home if need be! :)
2007-07-08 20:42:15 · update #1
No, both my husband and I had happy childhoods and supportive, intelligent and bonus! wealthy parents.
2007-07-08 21:01:32 · update #2
You're a selfish moron, aren't you?
2007-07-08 20:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You're pretty selfish arent you.
Family should be your #1 priority, family always comes first.
Your a dumbass. Obviously you wouldnt choose never being born, dont be such a smartass.
Put yourself in their place. Old folks homes are terrible terrible places. Friends/Family rarely come to visit you, you cant leave in most cases, your stuck on 1 floor with the same old sights for years on end, you spend all day watching TV, and doing boring activities.
I'll probably put my parents in an retirement home, but a super super nice one. Only once they are unable to care for themselves. But I'll see them everday, and take them out lots :)
They cared for you. Stood by you for all of lifes ups and downs. Loved you. The least you could do, is do the same for them.
2007-07-09 04:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't agree that children should care for their parents either...unless they really want to. I don't believe it's an obligation. My own mother herself said that a parent's job is to raise their child so they can make it on their own and never ask anything in return. My husband will probably want to take care of my in-laws because he's extremely attached to them. My parents and I have almost no relationship so it's a foreign concept to me. I try to be sympathetic to the way he feels but it just gets me because his parents feel that their children owe them something back for raising them which, IMHO, is BS. I don't get along with my in-laws so it's a situation that I'd be very uncomfortable with. But his two married sisters and their families have yet to move out of his parents' house so maybe they won't have to worry about living alone.
But to answer your question, no. My parents are very independant people. My father is married and if his wife dies before him, I know he'd want to live on his own and die in his own bed. My mom is the same, although unmarried. She just wants to be left alone to her own devices and I'm just fine with that. I was their responsibility but am no longer. They however, were never nor ever will be my responsibility.
2007-07-09 03:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kara 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's sad that there are people like you in our world. If you won't take care of your parents, I don't even want to know how you treat others. Do you seriously think a "posh retirement home" is any substitute for a family?
2007-07-09 05:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband must not have had too good of a childhood. As for me my parents had problems as well but ,my dad died of cancer 1 week ago and if I could bring him back I sure would.I would also let him live with me and be glad too take care of him. I also think you need some self esteem if you think you life is worth so little.
2007-07-09 03:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by chris d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When im older i will be taking care of my parents because no matter what they are still family and families should stick together and help each other out. You may not owe them and you may not want to help but thats your choice. If the situation were reversed wouldnt you want to be taken care of by people who love you?1`
2007-07-09 04:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by sallybinkey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi your totally selffish and ignorant about the feelings of elders.also you lack the experience of having parents with you.it has its own joy and sorrow but more of joy.imagine a situation where you are left alone without your hubby who has passed away and your so called sibling donot want to take care of you just as you are doing now, when you are feeling down and miserable.no shoulder to cry on and nobody to share your feelings.at that time my dear you will realise what it is to take care of your aged parents i wish and pray to GOD that such a situation doesnot befall you but nevertheless be prepared for it.
2007-07-09 04:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by nat g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did take care of both my parents ln their old age and would not have it any other way. Why you ask? Because I loved them and it was a joy to have them with me. I miss them every day.
2007-07-09 10:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you never plan to have kids. If your attitude towards your parents is like this now, I can only imagine how your kids attitude will be towards you. So what life is tough? Don't put all the blame on your parents for giving you life. If you attitude towards life is negative then your life is going to be negative. Maybe you should change your attitude and appreciate your parents while you still can and before it's too late. I will definitely help with my parents, not out of guilt because they took care of me but out of love and respect for the people who made me who I am today! :-)
2007-07-09 03:47:32 · answer #9 · answered by Shell 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
the worry for taking care of aging parents shows fear of future shock if your children do not care for you..
but do not worry now.. Only thing is that Love your siblings as much you can do and care for your parents as much you can .
You can live in present time and moment.
future you can not control nor you can change the past.
act now. and see the change
2007-07-09 03:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jhentee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a selfish person.
Fortunately karma's a *****, so you will also die alone in an old-folks home.
I'm currently making plans to buy a house where we can all live when my parents retire. They took great care of me, so I couldn't be like you and leave them out in the cold.
2007-07-09 03:37:49 · answer #11 · answered by puppies.sunshine 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋