My mom treats me like I am nothing.She talks to me like Im her worst enemy.I can't take it I tried to leave but she threatens to call the police on me.Im only 17 what are somethings I can do to leave.What could I do to fight back.I know it sounds horrible,but sometimes my mother pushes me so far and taunts and bullies me so much that I just wanna crack her in the face.Everytime she screams at me I clintch my fist.Im a horrible son,I know.She makes that point everyday.
2007-07-08 21:57:06 · 9 answers · asked by Travis T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't go to normal public school.She pulled me out when i was 14 for getting into a fist fight and getting kicked off the Wreslting team and out of the school.Put me in a charter school i have no church,or conselour,and my dad is of no help because he just lets her do it or just helps her out with the slurs.
2007-07-08 22:06:59 · update #1
I have no idea what prompts your mother to be this way but there is no excuse for it. You didn't really say if there was anything you have done to make you feel that you are a horrible son but if you are starting to feel like you want to inflict any kind of violence you need to talk to someone right away. Don't be afraid to talk with your doctor as he now has no right to even tell your mother about it because of your age. Worry about yourself right now and get it taken care of because if you are starting to have these feelings it is possible they eventually will come out of you and not just on your mother. Please take the chance and trust someone other than asking the question here. I wish you all the best.
2007-07-08 22:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by wishyouwerehere1@rogers.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 is a hard age for parents. Sometimes they have major control issues and they don't want to give kids any freedom or let them make their own choices. But by 17 the kids should be making their own decisions about most things, while still abiding by the house rules while they live at home.
You don't say what it is you are fighting about. My advice would be to be respectful if you expect to be respected. Act like an adult if you want to be treated like an adult.
It sounds like your mom has a lot of problems of her own that you can't do anything about. All you can do is control what you can do. Can you go to your room, or find some space to yourself when she bullies you like that? A 17 year old needs their own space, and everyone deserves to feel safe and respected in their own home. You might tell her in advance, at a calm time, that when things get out of control you will take a walk, or go to your room until things calm down and you are both not so angry so that nobody gets hurt.
She may cut you some slack if you can show her just a little understanding. If she knows that you realize she is stressed and not just thinking of yourself.
Try saying soemthing like: 'It must be hard to have to deal with______. That must be very frustrating.' Say this at a time when things are calm, in conversation.
Try using a statement like: I feel____ when you _____ and I wish that _______. Saying how you feel instead of accusing your mom.
Helping out around the house without being asked is also one key to a mom's heart.
It isn't easy being a mom. There is a lot of stress and a lot of guilt when things do not turn out like you think they should. Which adds to the stress, which makes you more crazy, which gives you more guilt, etc.
You might also talk to a counselor at school or join a support group, especially if there are substance abuse issues in the family.
Your mom might not even realize that she comes across this way. (I accidentally recorded myself when I thought the camcorder was off, and it was a wake up call to me.) In her mind she might just be trying to help you by yelling at you all the time to prevent you from making mistakes.
Have you graduated, and are you on the way to moving out with a reasonable plan to do so? If so, just try to get through this last little bit, and keep a relationship with your mom for the future. Things will calm down once that transition is over.
2007-07-09 05:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by semi_genius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The legal age for most states is 18, in some states it is 17, you can also request from a judge to become legally emancipated which would allow you to move out at 17, I am sorry you are going through this. Are your parents still together, if not you can contact your father and ask him if you could move in with him for a year until you get enough money together to start out, if your parents are together, then if you have any Grandparents still alive, you can also request to move in with them, the best thing sometimes is to get other family members involved, even if it is just to get them to listen to you, believe you and discuss the situation with your mom. Especially if you are being driven to rage that could potentially cause irreversible damage to your relationship, what ever you do, do not hit her. That is not the answer and you know this and you are not a horrible son. My brother moved in with my Grandparents when he was 17 and he was like a changed person. He became responsible and at peace with himself. It is amazing what a loving environment will do. Constant criticism is abusive and demoralizing, and I wish that you were not going through this, nobody deserves abuse in any form. Good luck and take care
2007-07-09 05:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by carpathian mage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, YOU aren't horrible (at least from what you have stated here) no one should have to go through any type of verbal abuse. It can be very trying to maintain your composure so kudos to you for not taking your situation to the next level.
Have you contacted a counselor at your school? Pastor? Friend? Where is your father? Is he any help to you? Have you graduated already? There are several options available to you. Try calling an attorney or legal secretary.
good luck to you!
2007-07-09 05:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by LISA G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing you can do is leave home as you can do this at 16.have you got a friend you can stop with .report to the police and go to social to ask for help ,there is places young people can go to live and get loads of help. good luck
2007-07-09 05:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor at school or your family doctor. Either of them will be able to guide you to the proper resources. Good luck.
2007-07-09 05:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not a horrible son...she is...Im sad what i have seen..:( I wish i can help but the best thing u do is go to the police station if ur mother is hurting you they can help...i assure you!!
2007-07-09 05:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by klaus baudelaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know that you are really something great! first you hold back your anger and don't retaliate. she needs professional help. check your phone book the are teen hot lines to help you through different things.
2007-07-12 20:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not horrible shes horrible no offenc to her if ur gonna care but tell the police wat she dos if she threatns u
2007-07-09 05:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋