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my mother in law takes the child behind our backs all the time and treats her like a 3 year old she is infact 9 and is a grandmother to another 4 other children., she lies to us and very selfish my husband because its his mother says nothing

2007-07-09 03:27:13 · 17 answers · asked by sandra f 1 in Family & Relationships Family

17 answers

NO she has no rights, tell your husband to tell her to butt out, or you will do it, and you won't be polite either.I had an interfering mother-in-law who used to make my life a misery, then I lost it one day and told her where she could go and what she could do. Its fine now and she respects me and doesn't butt in .

2007-07-09 06:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 0 0

I think your making a problem where there is none. Your mother in law is spending time with her grandchild. I do not see why she needs to ask your permission since the child is living with the mother? Also, so what if she shows this child more attention due to the circumstances. Rather then be upset with her and this child why not have the issue with the man who cheated as that is what the real issue is here.

2007-07-11 06:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0 0

Are you upset that the Mother in Law takes the child behind your back or that she has anything to do with the child? One night stands happen and so do pregnancies from these. (I have personal experience of this). Why shouldn't the girl spend time with her biological Granny? I am not sure but I doubt very much that your M.I.L has legal rights, but I do believe that your partners daughter does have a right to see her Gran.

2007-07-09 05:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Think if it's her gran she should see the child although in law she wouldn't have any rights. Confused by your question as I don't understand when you say'he had a one night stand' Is the child the result of this? If so you married and seems you are still together? Or are you saying your husband has had a one night stand with someone else?

2007-07-09 10:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0 0

I am assuming this much from your question. The child must live with her mother, is that correct? If the child's mother has custody and your husband has visitation, then the child's mother can let her go with your MIL as often as she wants. If you really feel that your MIL is a detriment to this child, your husband will either have to speak to the custodial parent or take it to court to stop this.

Your husband can get joint custody but I believe in most, if not all, states, the child's mother can still let her go with the MIL whenever she is with her mother.

2007-07-09 04:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0 0

If she takes the child behind your backs, you should get a restraining order. Also notify school/daycare that they are not to release the child except to you or your husband (or maybe a neighbor in an emergency). At 9 years old, she can also be instructed to inform you or dh if Grandma tries to take her. These are things you can do on your own, if dh won't stand up to her.

2007-07-09 04:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy Girl 2 · 0 0

There are no such things as grandparents rights. They have none at all. Next time she takes ths kid, call the police for kidnapping. Tell the school, or wherever she gets her grandma has no authority to tak her.
If necessary, get a restraining order on her. You have to take a stand and put grandma in her place.

2007-07-09 07:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0 0

Your husband has legal rights to the child, his mother has non except out of courtesy

2007-07-11 04:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by mr_scotsguy 3 · 0 0

His mother haas absolutely NO RIghts. As a grandparent I am aware that it is a privilege not a right to have dealings with them. The ball is in his court

2007-07-09 03:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Scouse 7 · 1 0

basicly ur man needs to get a spine. i stopped my mum from seeing my kids because how she was with my wife and she wont ever see them. ur the parents start acting like it. as for rights she dont have any.

time to ask who is the parents here?

2007-07-10 00:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by gixer rider 2 · 0 0

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