ok so my uncle just passed away and i cant get over it at all..next weekend is his birthday and i just dont think i can take it..i have tried to stop thinking about it but i cant!!..i never got to say goodbye..we were very close!!..what should i do to stop thinking about it?
2007-07-08 17:00:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My Grandmother just passed away today, just a few hours ago and you know what. I'm so very happy! She has gone to heaven and is with our Lord. I know I am going to miss her but I have that knowing of she is still alive in heaven. Maybe if you talk with your Uncles relatives and find out if he was a Christian you will feel better. Please find Jesus so when I die I will see you their.
2007-07-08 17:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen to me when I was younger My great uncle which happen to be my moms guardian so he was like a grand father to me pasted and the night b4 he died all my cousins got to say goodbye actually pretty much everyone said good bye but me oh how I hated my mom for not coming to get me that day I still have a hard time when I think about that how I never really got to say goodbye to him I mean I went to the funeral but it is not the same as actually telling someone goodbye. Well from that point on when I would think about him i would start to think about all the good times we had together instead of thinking about how I never got to say goodbye .
2007-07-09 00:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg the same thing happened to me....i just tried to hang with friends be with my family. i did anthing that would remind me of him and then when that wasnt quite the solution i watched home videos of him and i took all the presents he ever gave me and kept them i hav pictures of him in my room and i look at them whenever i can. i stayed with his family when it was his birthday and also on the anniversary of his death. i never got to say goodbye either. i was 1 of the last people he talked to though but i didnt get to tell him goodbye. he was in the hospital for 4 months and it was really hard to believe that he was going to live. he died in the hospital. he didnt die the way he should have. he was a great man and im sure your uncle was too. i was 1 of the last people he talked to though but i didnt get to tell him goodbye. he was my best friend and i loved him so much. its better to try and remember him instead of stopping all together. trust me its better to keep him as fresh in your mind as possible. remember his voice, his smell, his laugh, and his kindness it will help you get over this rough patch. it was really hard at the funeral and always on birthdays and such but now that i think of him i know he is much happier wherever he is now than he was in the hospital for those months. if you ever need any1 to talk to i am here.
2007-07-09 00:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by *♫* £a£a *♫* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about the loss, and everyone goes through what you are. But what should end up getting you through is remembering you will be in a better place with him one day. Instead of mourning him, you should be celebrating him. Remembering times you spent with him and not ones you could of. And get out, spend time with friends. They will take your mind off it. Once again, I am sorry. Good Luck.
2007-07-09 01:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to me too... Uncle died , just POOF and he was gone..... It knocked me for a loop..... but, after grieving for him, for about a month, crying all the time, I just one day decided to stop acting like that, and to turn it around..... I decided to start respecting his memory and all the good times and celebrating the love we shared..... I think of him often and those memories get me thru some very hard and rough times......... God bless
2007-07-09 00:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never got to say good bye to my mother, so I understand how you are feeling.....she has been gone 4 yrs now, and I can be driving in my car to work, and just think about her and get really sad......the real bummer of it all is we can't do anything, but when we think of them, try to think they sure wouldn't want to see us depressed and unable to function. That sure wouldn't Honor them......You shouldn't stop thinking of him, but when you do, try to cherish the time you did have with him....
NO it isn't fair that he isn't here anymore....sure your angry, and your heart is broken....but he wouldn't want you to feel that way, and you know he wouldn't....You could make a "Memory Book" of him, so you can laugh through the tears, and remind yourself how wonderful your time with him was....Your hurt will never go away, but dear, it will lessen in time to not hurt so badly.....I promise...It just doesn't seem that way right at this moment........
2007-07-09 00:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Why should you stop thinking about him? To think about him, cherish your memories is to honor him to keep him alive.
You just lost someone very close to you. Someone you loved....grieve for your loss, grieve for his family, grieve for your family..........that's a process that you have to go thru---either alone or with counseling hon. Talk to his family, your family, his friends---they're hurting and grieving too.
And on his birthday---celebrate him, his life, his love, his energy, his sense of humor, his intelligence--whatever it is that you love about him.----And maybe you can't do that this year, that's okay too.....go at your pace, not someone else's idea of a timeline for grieving.
2007-07-09 00:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is really anything else you can do.
just try to make plans with people and keep doing something almost every day for a while.
maybe staying busy will kinda get your mind off of it.
but you will always think about him every once in a while.
its normal.
you'll pull through it.
this has happened to me and im fine.
:]]
2007-07-09 00:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by whitney t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your never gonna stop thinking about him ny dad died 10 years ago & hes always on my mind I still go to his grave & I still ball!! You dont want to forget just think about the good times & if he was in pain hile he was alive just think hes in a better place now with God (if you beilieve) and hes healthy now hes without pain... Celebrate his life not his death NEVER stop thinking!!! pray to him he's listening
2007-07-09 00:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will take time to grieve his passing, why don't you light a candle and put a rose in a vase, near a picture of him for his birthday, say a prayer and tell him how much he meant to you and that you miss him dearly... he will hear you and smile
2007-07-12 20:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋