Ok so my arrogant, and highly annoying attitude sister comes to visit. At first i'm like yes, and was happy. As soon as she shows up and starts her bragging, than cutting down on me when i'm 5 years younger, and have just yet become to have important stuff going on in my life, she than feels the need to compare how successful she is ( or thinks she is) and how i'm not compared to her. I of course am like kiss my *** and yeah i start a fight with the self centered *****.
She then has the nerve to come into my room, look at pictures and play with my dog roughly to were my dog throws up. I'm in the bathroom and what do i hear? "Adam come clean this up"...like what the hell? You did it, but it's my fault? I than get mad after her and my mom laugh about it. I ask her to leave and she says no, it's not your room it's mom's and you don't own it. I than freak out after the defiant little ***** thinks she can come into my house and not listen to what i say. Am i wrong or right?
2007-07-08 19:47:56 · 17 answers · asked by Curious mind 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have a half brother like that, i got a restraining order against him and go on with my life...he can brag til the demons come to get him...i dont need him.
2007-07-08 19:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by JEN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong, no matter who's home it is it does not give her the right to disrespect you or your personal property. Your mom should have told her to leave the room and stop acting so juvenile. The way that I see it is that as much success that your sister claims she has she its still jealous of you for some reason. There is something about you that she does not have that make you successful and she is intimidated by it so she feels the need to tear you down and you fall for it. Hold your head up high you have something that she does not and that is respect for you and other and they respect you in the same manner. No matter what you do or don't have you will always have respect form people that see you as a good person that you are. When she approaches you again turn away and hold your head high and say do you respect yourself? and do other respect you? God is blessing you and you should not feel bad for the things that she has because she will never have as much as you.
2007-07-08 19:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I.m an only child but so I dont fully understand but it doesnt sound like she has much respect for you. Dont let her bragging get you down though. She is proud of what she has accomplished and your parents are too, most likely. Dont be jealous, you're starting to come in to your own. I would just try to establish respect between you and your sister because the two of you will likely know each other for a long, long time. Love her and forgive her. Thats what family is about.
2007-07-08 19:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's obvious she wants your attention and approval for all her accomplishments. Apparently, your opinion matters to her greatly or she wouldn't have continued to get your attention after you fought with her. And, you started it, as you say.
I think you're wrong because you started a fight with her on her first day home - you should have just sucked it up and later told her that her behavior was disrespectful to you. It's a better way to make her feel ashamed of bragging like that - which is not cool, I agree.
You've got to set guidelines for how she talks to you and treats you - hope you're mature enough to follow through. She bullied her way into your private space and she is wrong but the only way to deal with that is with maturity, not fighting. Good Luck!
2007-07-08 19:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that really stinks. No, it was not right of her to go into your house and belittle you. However, with her being the guest you would have to give a little leeway and clean up the dog-mess. It's part of that whole hosting thing. Sucks sometimes doesn't it? She does NOT have the right to make herself seem so wonderful though. Especially with such an age difference. You haven't had as much time as she has to make your life as "wonderful" as hers.
2007-07-08 19:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by stolenstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an only child I can only go by what people tell me, and that sounds like a typical sibling thing, comparing who's better, ect.. But that still doesn't make it right. It sounds like your sis needs to mature quite a bit and learn to show respect for you and your privacy. Don't let her get to you and don't lower yourself to her level. Thats just what she wants. Good Luck!
2007-07-08 19:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by no longer here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom laughs because she loves you both.
there does seem to be a lack of respect from sis according to your view.
you should get acquaintance over before not seeing that your shoving your sister out so you can be big boy .
your all wrong or your all right .
satisfied ?
2007-07-08 19:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by martinmm 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry at her. I really don't know how to deal with it though (my older sis is the same way.) I'll be checking back to see if anyone else comes up with any ideas. Anyway, good luck.
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2007-07-08 19:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Indy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good old bratty sisters. you guys should be a little older now. more mature. used to it by now. you guys just gotta play nice.
your both right and wrong.
2007-07-08 19:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by stoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk, she's your sister, expect her to be like that, no matter the situation.
besides, she's family, you can't ask her to just leave.
and if she's going to come back and brag, just shrug whenever she throughs anything in your face, she lives for the reaction you give her, just ignore her and eventually it will stop.
my younger brother has yet to figure this out x]
2007-07-08 19:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Crystal L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋