Family & Relationships - 23 December 2007

okay so i dated this boy jimmy for 2 years, he wasnt really a good bf at allhis friends were always more important and he never had time for me...he never took me out, i always had to take him out and pay for all th dates, he ignored me and did w/e he felt like and didnt appreciate me, i begged him to change but he wouldnt so i had to end it...he was my first love and i loved him unconditionally and put up with alot of things i shouldnt have because im too nice...after we broke up i tried to date other people i just couldnt bring myself to do it..me and jimmy still talked several times a week...then i started ignorin his calls cuz how am i supposed to get over him if i talk to him still right? so i did and started talkin to my bosses little cousin & now we are datin, he just asked me out 3 days ago.but now my ex wants to change and be diferent, it sounds so convincing&i still love him but dont wanna hurt my new bf because hes treated me like gold.idk what to do,shuld i go back to jimmy

2007-12-23 04:55:16 · 26 answers · asked by Brooke J 2 in Singles & Dating

i am 18 this year. i think i am a girl who likes attention and i feel very 'bored' and left out when i'm in a big group and nobody is paying attention to me. the funny thing is, i don't like too much attention either and i don't like to be in the spotlight all the time because i don't like the idea of me being talk 'bout by people, especially people whom i am not very close to. it seems to me like i build my self-esteem and confidence on how much attention peope gives me. i am talking bout good attention here, not tha kinda unwanted attention. if i don' get enough attention, i feel like a loser, i am not attractive or something. it's like the youngest child syndrome. how can i deal with this?

2007-12-23 04:51:52 · 4 answers · asked by jane★marple 2 in Singles & Dating

The other day, my aunt "suggested" that my husband and I should have a child soon because the longer you wait, the harder it is to concieve. We've been married for 4 years, and I'm 22. I've done my research and to my understanding, sometimes it becomes hard to conceive after you reach 30-35. I'm only 22! Not to mention, I have faith in God that he'll do things right for us, and we'll have kids when the time is right for us. Where do people come up with this stuff?

2007-12-23 04:51:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

this was the first and only time i said things like this to her. i am a bi female. i apologized to her sincerely many times but she can't forgive me. we are broken up now. this conversation was over the internet. i had a problem with being hyperthroid, which causes irratibility, but i don't want to blame it on that. i put myself into psychotherapy. i was upset with her bc she didn't give me anything for my bday and bought her friend dinner for hers. also, i just left her a few days before and she didn't want to get together again for 2.5months so i was pretty upset.
have you ever gotten angry and said things like this? do you think these things are worthy of forgiveness?
"you have so many reasons but they're all BS excuses to me", "i really don't give a sh*t," " i just think your mind is utterly strange", "you are so full of cr*p" "I think i love you but that pisses me off so i'm going to stop"

2007-12-23 04:49:57 · 3 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Singles & Dating

When ever I hear a woman refer to her husband as her "hubby" it just drives me up the wall. I don't know why... I guess it just sounds too much like, "tubby." Therefore I imagine the womn's husband as some fat, drunken, red neck, white trash couch potato, sitting on the sofa, drinking bear, watching tv, and occasionally grunting.

I guess that would be ok if you really think nothing of your husband, but otherwise it's not very flattering.

It's just a silly, random pet peeve I have. Does this word, by chance, annoy the crap out of anyone else?

2007-12-23 04:49:56 · 17 answers · asked by Laibach 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-23 04:45:05 · 8 answers · asked by Balaji kry 1 in Marriage & Divorce

they always need a man in their life and if not, they are considered a lesbian, even if not.

2007-12-23 04:42:21 · 3 answers · asked by E E 2 in Singles & Dating

i bought my 10 year old sister hannah montana tickets, and she said " Hannah Montana Is So 2 Minutes Ago " im so angry they cost me 800 for each ticket! and i bought 3 tickets! what is wrong with her?!!

2007-12-23 04:38:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

have you ever dumped a girl you was with for over a year cos you fell out of love


did you ever realise u did wrong and go back to her?


if so how long did it take u to tell her u dne wrong

2007-12-23 04:35:09 · 6 answers · asked by St*r 2 in Singles & Dating

I am so hurt by my husbands of 19 years. Once again he hasn't bought me a Christmas gift. My birthday was in October and I got nothing, so he promised to buy me a gift for Christmas. I know that he hasn't because I asked and he said no. My gifts for him are under the tree. I don't have to have something that costs a lot of money, just some thought and care from his heart. Over the years he has bought me maybe 12 greeting cards for various holidays, and I cherish them. He knows this. A card from the dollar store is .50 cents. He could throw in a gift for a dollar. That would make me so happy. I know he had the money, but he chose to prioritize repairing his stupid car first. I have told him how much this hurts me and he just hangs his head and says "I'll get you something, don't worry". I don't believe him, or if by some miracle he does, then it will be a forced gift. Am I being unreasonable? How can I resolve this? Your help would be greatly appreciated.

2007-12-23 04:31:35 · 29 answers · asked by checkthisout! 5 in Marriage & Divorce

On a scale 1-10, rate my long lost friend, I started knew her since 2003 when I was in army, she's Indian Singaporean.

http://item.slide.com/r/1/50/i/kCLv_OSLxz91q-PVOgMs9i97WZNH-uA4/

And how do I make her smile with teeth in photos? She loves to smile, but she doesn't smile much often in photos. By the way, she has beautiful white straight teeth.

2007-12-23 04:30:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I ordered a Wii for my wife about two months ago for Christmas. About two or three weeks ago, my wife left me and our kids(it's a long story). Now the Wii just arrived today and I know this seems trivial, but I'm not sure what to do with it.

Do I give the Wii to my wife? She keeps saying she wants me back and I don't want her to give her any false messages by giving a gift to her, but it just makes sense to me that she should have it since she's the one I bought it for. Or should I maybe give it to my kids? They're six and three, I'm not sure whether this would be appropriate or not.

I'd REALLY appreciate any help! We exchange gifts tomorrow because we volunteer on Christmas so unfortunately, I've got a time crunch working against me. Thanks in advance! :)

2007-12-23 04:27:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

welll i have known my friend for about 2 yrs now and he has autism. at first he was fun to be around and we talk to each other almost everyday but now for a couple of months he has just gotten so distant from me and we hardly talk at all. i feel kinda hurt by him but i try to remember that he wont connect with me as much as i want him to. now though sometimes i dont really want to be is his friend that much any more cuz i dont feel as if he is trying to open up to me. what should i do should i throw in the towel or try alittle harder to get him to open up more

2007-12-23 04:25:35 · 8 answers · asked by Nicole M 2 in Friends

sexy and hot but not a good personality?

2007-12-23 04:22:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there is a girl who is mentally sick,our school physcologist and her parents told us that ..she keeps cutting herself and cursing herself,and she keeps saying bad stuff about herself,,and she compares us to her. (.ex : look at you !! you are too pretty and smart...everything im not ! im so damn ugly and stupid,everybody hates me !!! )
she is also too sensitive its really hard to deal with her,shes insane ! everybody gave up on her even her parents and her sisters,,me and my friends tried,and tried so hard to change her into the better..but everytime she does the same exact thing : she betrays us and talks behind our backs,and spells our secret with a spicing things up !! a few months ago when we werent her " friends " and with having no one standing by her side she was about to commit suicide ! i saw her with the mother of my eyes,i told her to put the knife down,the police was there,it was INSANE !!and now with only us standing by her side,i GIVE up ! do i have to put up with her ?!

2007-12-23 04:13:42 · 15 answers · asked by Dreamer 4 in Friends

my best friends step brother has recently died in a terrible car accident. she was kinda close to him. ever since he died she has been kinda a b**** to me. me her and her sister have been best friends for 4 years but she has been acting really weird since her step brother died. her sister is still my friend but we cant hang out cuz its really weird when her sister is around. but like shes been really b*tchy and shes been sprendin rumors around the school about me but then she asks me why im mad at her and she trys to be my friend again but the next day at school she acts the same way. its been like this for like 2 weeks and im really tired of it but i dont want to give up on her cuz i know its just been really hard on her. should i just give up and move on or should i just keep tryin to be really supportive and deal with all the drama?

PLEASE HELP I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO

2007-12-23 04:11:04 · 25 answers · asked by jessica_smlsn 2 in Friends

she said she wanted to work on our sex life and then last night fell asleep before sex.. should I be upset or let it go

2007-12-23 04:10:08 · 24 answers · asked by J F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Last night I had friends and their children round. Two of the girls I see regularly and we all went on holiday this year as families. The other girl I have know since school but I haven't been in much contact for the past few years - odd night out, phone call but not much else. The old schoolfriend has just split up with her husband and was quite drink. She really upset one of my other friends by making constant side remarks. The friend left and took her children. The girl who had upset her was not even aware. My dilema is we were going bowling with kids tomorrow with a different friend altogether. The friend who has been upset says she will not go if the other girl is there as she couldn't be civil. I have had to lie to the old school friend that the lane has been double booked and we are no longer going, although we are. Feel terrible - have I done the right thing? By the way, the school friend has always been stroppy so not result of the split up.

2007-12-23 04:09:37 · 11 answers · asked by Ally 5 in Friends

This is my situation, I met a wonderful girl through my friend and we talked for a bit now. Friday night I took her out on a date and all went ok. I'm really starting to fall for her but the problem here is that she thinks I do not like her after that date on Friday night. She says I don't talk to her the same, and she says she gets the vibe that I do not like her. I really like this girl and I do not know what I'm doing wrong but I want this out of her mind. I told her I like her but she is not believing it. Wed. we are sapose to hang out in the morning. What things or what should I do to let her know that I like her and I'm real about it?

2007-12-23 04:08:39 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am almost 30 years old, single, straight, work full time, go to graduate school and I live at home with my parents and other adult siblings. I have absolutley no interest in moving out and getting an apartment or house unless I have to. I don't have to pay any rent or expenses except for some incidentals like gas and entertainment. Sometimes I don't even have to pay for entertainment as our parents treat us to vacations once in a while, etc. The way I see it is that it's the least they could do for us after all the years of joy we have given them in raising us! LOL, they get a kick out of that when I say that. Anyway, I digress, we all know how to cook, clean and pay bills, we just don't have to as of this moment. Our parents say, "You will have the rest of your life to do that, no need to do that now. Focus on your education!" Our parents are not dirtbags like some parents are; they don't try to "give us hints" or marry us off. In fact they think it's wise that I am single.

2007-12-23 04:08:25 · 8 answers · asked by Jack C 1 in Singles & Dating

You own your own home, and say you were in a relationship with a man that also owns his own home. You home is the newer of the two, but smaller. He does not wish to 'get rid' of his 'big' house to move in with you. You do not wish to leave your house. You do his laundry and he takes most of his showers at your house. Does not pay you for the water, but does take your garbage to his house. You really do care for this man, but on the other hand, you know that things are not going to change. Would you want out, or would you stay in this type of relationship?!

2007-12-23 04:06:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Earlier on this year I went out with a lovely boy after he asked me out, but the relationship only lasted about a month. I broke up with him as I felt the spark we had, disappeared (this I found later on was mainly the fault of our exams). The breakup got out of hand & we were not on speaking terms for around two months. Eventually I plucked up the courage to talk to him again & now we're alright again.

He's now going out with a girl in my form who has hated me for the past five years since we knew each other. She likes to subtly flaunt the fact that she is going out with my ex-boyfriend.

Recently I've been thinking about the moments me and him have had together - and I think I'm beginning to like him again. Is it just jealousy? Or not? How can I stop it and sort myself out?

If you tell me to go and find another boy, boys in the past who I have liked only seem to want to be friends with me.

I don't know what to think or what to do. Help would be much appreciated - thank you

2007-12-23 04:06:09 · 21 answers · asked by sigsall 7 in Singles & Dating

wondering about the jamie lynn spears pregnentcy and if it will set a bad example to other teen girls out there .

they will see it on tv and think its an ok thing to do when really its not and they don't have the money spears family has to support all these kids .

so what do you think ? bad example to teen girls or just odd celebrity news ?

2007-12-23 04:05:37 · 10 answers · asked by R.S. 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

can be hair, makeup, clothes... no sick answers or i will report it.

2007-12-23 04:05:06 · 14 answers · asked by Allie 2 in Singles & Dating

My girl friend (maybe ex) called me and starting saying my ex husband tells me what a wonderful woman I had, you on line talking to these women (never went out with them. Now you tell me how much you miss me, after the fact. A man she ment on line, now doesn't call her, because he's going with old, wrinkled whore. After the fact. If he calls Im not going to speak to him. I listen, and told her Im sorry, but never went with any women. I care and love her and will not sway. I've learned my lesson. Was it good that Iisten to here vent. Was it good what I told her. I bought her a nice xmas gift. a qct diamond pendant, on 14 ct white gold. She has it already, and for her birthday, I got tickets to see Wicked. what do you say

2007-12-23 04:03:41 · 1 answers · asked by napolee_nj 2 in Singles & Dating

Well its complicated. My ex and I broke up like 10 months ago but I still love her. I've been dating other girls since then I even think I have fallen in love with another girl, but I still can't seem to get my ex off my mind. We are close friends now but I still love and care for her the same. And now she is pregnant. I want to be there for her but at the same time I'm very upset and hurt. I haven't really shown it because I don't want her to be upset. I'm so confused on what to do.

2007-12-23 04:03:11 · 4 answers · asked by big baby 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I love a girl but we're just friends(have told her more than a year ago but she said just wanna be friends, but she has changed toward me). But she teases me often and often do funny things, like pointing out her tongue to tease me and doodling on my paper. She seems to treat me differently by teasing me a lot and sometimes pretending to be mean to me. But she's kind to me and helps a lot. We're in a lot of same school stuff. There are actually a lot of funny sweet memorable things that she did to me (like those teases). A few times I asked her to join me in school clubs/stuff and she agreed.

But there's this other guy who likes her too and sometimes they talk although the conversations reduce over time (they talk more a few months ago). They talk not much but she seems to be interested in talking to him, though she doesn't make attempts to see him and be with him and don't joke around with him. I'm not sure if she texts or chats with him.

Today I got the news that that other boy is planning a hanging out with my class (me and that girl in same class). From his class only a few join. I heard from a friend that the girls in my class are joining and I assume that he asked her first. Should I come? I hang out with her in groups quite often though...

What should I do? I decide not to join...is it right? And say she agreed, she really likes him?

2007-12-23 04:02:39 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Like, if your on the train or something, and you see this guy/girl you really like and like, your really like "wow she/he's really fit/pretty and cute! and looks like a kind caring person" ...and stuff like that.

Well...how would you end up asking them out or going out with them? I don't get it, i know i'm only 14 and that...but i'm just wondering, wouldn't it be embarrasing just going up to them and going "Hey, can i have your number?" or "Hey there, your really pretty" ...and then say he/she just walked off.

Cause, all relationships don't start from both people already knowing each other, do they?

Thanks, Merry Christmas everyone, Happy Holidays.

2007-12-23 04:01:32 · 16 answers · asked by Lala 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 03:59:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife was never spanked as a kid, but me and my sister were beaten by a bully of a father. Anyhow the wife got this idea that her old folks could look after the kids for a while and take them away and they could have some fun and while they were away, we could have some fun too. Well she wanted to play this game. I didn’t like the idea but I went along with it. She was to play a cheeky little girl and I was to spank her. I don’t know where she got the idea from, but it was all planned out. She told me exactly what to do and I had to ignore her acting but only to stop when I heard a password she invented, which she would shout if she banged her head or something.

Well I was doing all right and it went something like –leave me alone you pig, you cheeky little brat, you wouldn’t dare, just watch me--, and I was actually getting into it when she yelled please-daddy-stop and I froze and I remembered the brute who used to beat the crap out of my kid sister.

Can anything be done?

2007-12-23 03:58:04 · 15 answers · asked by Teenage nerd 3 in Marriage & Divorce