Earlier on this year I went out with a lovely boy after he asked me out, but the relationship only lasted about a month. I broke up with him as I felt the spark we had, disappeared (this I found later on was mainly the fault of our exams). The breakup got out of hand & we were not on speaking terms for around two months. Eventually I plucked up the courage to talk to him again & now we're alright again.
He's now going out with a girl in my form who has hated me for the past five years since we knew each other. She likes to subtly flaunt the fact that she is going out with my ex-boyfriend.
Recently I've been thinking about the moments me and him have had together - and I think I'm beginning to like him again. Is it just jealousy? Or not? How can I stop it and sort myself out?
If you tell me to go and find another boy, boys in the past who I have liked only seem to want to be friends with me.
I don't know what to think or what to do. Help would be much appreciated - thank you
2007-12-23 04:06:09 · 21 answers · asked by sigsall 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we always want what we cant have.
plus when we look back at past relationships, isnt it funny how we only remember the good times? the bad memories seem to fade with time....hmmm
2007-12-23 04:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may have some jelousy problems about this other girl, but that's a pretty normal pattern for women. Give yourself some time, and things will probably just go away. Maybe your just feeling like this because it's the holidays and you don't want to be alone. Why don't you splurge, and take yourself out for a nice date. Go have a facial done, and a nice relaxing massage, manecure, ect. Don't try to find a guy right now. You need to relax before problems start getting worse.
The problem with other men, maybe you could be a little more flurtacious. Maybe they are looking at the fun side of you instead of the feminine side. First, make sure you straighten out yourself before looking for another guy. Good luck.
2007-12-23 04:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Maybe you never really fell out of love, but maybe due to circumstances (your exams), brought a little tension in the relationship. The problem is now someone else got away with him. There's not much you can do about that, unless you're the type of girl who is out for trouble and will try at all cost to get him back.
I think this will be one of life's big "lessons learned" situation. Once you're in a relationship you have to learn that you can't always have everything the way you want it. It is a matter of give and take, and you have to learn to make difference in important and less important things. Most of the time we fight and quarrel with our partners on minor issues. Let it go for once like he wants it. If later it turns out to be the wrong decision, he'll appreciate the way you handled it, by giving more importance to your relationship than by having things go your way (even if it WAS the best way).
About your current situation: if you really want him back, try winning him back. But not by putting his girlfriend in a bad spot. That way no one can ever blame you for stealing him. Earn him back. That way you'll be sure he wants you for who and what you really are.
Good luck, and tell me how it went. Bye!
2007-12-23 04:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Venetian Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably only started to like him in this way again because this other girl is with him now,and it will make you feel more intense about him cos she's obviously flaunting it for your benefit. Some people don't want them,but the minute they see him with someone else, they don't want others to have him either,as strange as that sounds,but very true.
Put him out your mind and move on with your life,just think,if he left her for you,you'd always wonder in the back of your mind if he'd leave you for someone else,he'd have done it once,so whats to stop him doing the same to you.
He's your past,so let it stay in the past,you've been there and done it and it didn't work out.
2007-12-23 04:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. Even though you had exams at the time of when the spark went away...it still went away. Maybe it was meant to go away. You never know. I would drop the idea and stop thinking about b/fs and focus on other things. Usually when you do that a boy comes along so don't worry about it and just move on.
2007-12-23 04:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks. you know it really is possible that it's just jealousy. i know, i've had the same thing (well close to the same thing) happen to me. be friends with him and yes i'm gonna tell you to try to find someone else. i know everything seems limited but trust me when you find someone you'll know and so will they. its all about trusting your heart. i know that sounds cheesy but seriously try it. maybe you havent found the right person yet, its just a matter of time. be patient and not to eager. i know thats hard but God has someone really amazing out there for you and you should look forward to that. sorry if that wasnt the answer you were looking for. it was just and honest one. good luck
2007-12-23 04:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by classyree88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there not more fish in the sea? There is a tendency to like
and know those who are sharing a job, or a school, or a neighborhood or in your case a previous relationship.
Be careful to define yourself in terms of who you are.
Whether he likes you or his girlfriend doesn't , doesn't matter.
Be true to who you are and your values, thats what makes you unique. As per the other guys option. Be more assertive
if thats what you want to do.
2007-12-23 04:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ahab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be depressed over small things like that, plus you need to realize that, that other girl is picking up after you. Indeed, it shows how little she appreciates herself because she is going out with the guy that her "enemy" dropped. Wake Up!! there are worst things that can happen in life, and guys are not the best thing that can happen to a woman.
2007-12-23 04:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Golden Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have they been going out now? why dont you try and get back with him? by flirting.. if you guys are on good terms now.. maybe ask him to hang out sometime.. "just as friends" but really you think something completely different. yeah, what you're going through is jealousy.
and if you dont want to go with the advice of taking him back.. then you need to go out with ur friends and have some fun.. keep yourself busy.. to keep him off your mind. that's the best way! and you can't sit at home and pitty yourself!!
2007-12-23 04:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Babies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could never prevent relationship problems, and the consequences of them, so we must potect our feeling and dignity by preventing them from happinig from the start, like muslims do. its forbidden for a gal to go out with a guy.. unless they r going to get married with some presrvations.. very pretective, right
2007-12-23 04:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by nad m a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋