What is the point of moving out?

Question

I am almost 30 years old, single, straight, work full time, go to graduate school and I live at home with my parents and other adult siblings. I have absolutley no interest in moving out and getting an apartment or house unless I have to. I don't have to pay any rent or expenses except for some incidentals like gas and entertainment. Sometimes I don't even have to pay for entertainment as our parents treat us to vacations once in a while, etc. The way I see it is that it's the least they could do for us after all the years of joy we have given them in raising us! LOL, they get a kick out of that when I say that. Anyway, I digress, we all know how to cook, clean and pay bills, we just don't have to as of this moment. Our parents say, "You will have the rest of your life to do that, no need to do that now. Focus on your education!" Our parents are not dirtbags like some parents are; they don't try to "give us hints" or marry us off. In fact they think it's wise that I am single.

I have never had a girlfriend nor have I even experienced my first kiss yet! LOL! I have just been enjoying life too much and been very busy with school and working on establishing myself in my career. So here is the question, which is three-fold: What is the point to moving out when you have the option to live at home virtually for free (encouraged by parents), why are my peers so jealous of my life when they could have clearly done the same if they just established good relationships with their families and why are girls saying that my lifestyle is a "turnoff" when clearly I am the total package with a lot to offer?

Answer 1

Hey dude, chicks like guys that can fend for themselves. It's probably a turnoff because it shows your not so independant. You say you can pay bills and all that but when you say you live at home it doesn't sound like it. If it works for you and your family that's cool....I guess. Little weird, I'd tell my son to go get a damn job but that's just me and my s/n describes my personality.

Answer 2

Let me tell you something. If you lived outside North America and Europe you'd see that parents want to hold on to you as long as possible. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents at 30 or 40 or 60 etc. if you don't meet a significant other to spend your life with. Most kids move out today for 2 reasons:

1) They want more privacy and freedom

2) Parents want more privacy and freedom (usually financial)

For some people privacy and freedom are not nearly as important as having their parents or children around. Everybody is different. Of course culture has a big influence on our midsets as well. But just remember don't let others decide your life for you; because if you do and then move out and end up being unhappy and depressed then it's your loss along with your family's and no one else's.

Oh and all details about your being a grad student with a full time income is all secondary and insignificant at this point because you and your parents want you at home. When you do get the sense that you have to get out only then harp on those details.

Edit: There are pros and cons to everything. Your friends who live by themselves have a lot of experience under their belt. You'll have a tough time to cope with that but you'll get used to it. And (I am assuming you are a guy) there are women out there who live at home in their 30s as well. They won't judge you.

Answer 3

You'll never live life screw ups, till you can show you can own something like a house. Because yes having it all is great but your spoiled unless your in japan. Its free cause they are your parents, yet if you have saved up over 100k on your own then good. Otherwise you dont have connections like u would if you were to move out. Thats probely y u haven't been on a date because of this idea of not going out on your own. When you find someone who wants to be with you that means they want what you have to offer, house, pets, attitude, car or you. Not your parents. So if you like single and dont mind seeing that sappy stuff on tv then stay there. Other wise just take a small risk that don't involve your parents in some of your directions and you will find what you choose to crave in this one life you have spent 30 years in.

Answer 4

your not a total package you have tey to experience life on your own u have no real life experience and that is why girls say its a turn off i mean who really wants to date a 30 yo who lives with mommy and daddy still and doesnt even help pay the bill untill you become a real "man" you willnot get all those reallife experiences that you are missing some of them we all dont want to deal with but all the positive one soooo make up for the negative ones maybe its time for all of you to get out and enjoy life in a much better way you may be ood looking you may be well educated and have a promsing future ahead but the way its going now u will have no one to share it with but mom and dad and is that all you want in life i doubt it soo think long and hard about maybe getting out in the world and btw your parent sound like very good parents but they should be encouraging you to live your own life in a dif way not tying to keppyou all for yourself theres someone out there for you and you will miss them if you continue on the way you are

Answer 5

I think it is good that you are single if you are going to graduate school. College is a time to study not necessarily have the issues that come from having a family too.

But, let's be serious about this mate. I see two things wrong with this picture. So, two questions.

Do your parents have control issues with their children?

Do you feel OK about being thought of as a 'mommie's boy'?

Answer 6

I guess if the arrangement works for you and your parents, thats awesome and go for it.
If I had that arrangement when I was in college.. my grades would have been much higher becuase I wouldn't be spending 40 hours a week at work just to pay my bills (and for college..).

Just be sure and thank your parents.:)

Answer 7

I'd be saving up for when you do need to get on your own. I think its more fulfilling to know you are fully supporting yourself when you've "moved out"

Answer 8

GREAT STAY THERE YOU ARE BETTER OFF AS LONG AS YOUR HAPPY