Family & Relationships - 23 December 2007

In regards to a lying, cheating, two-faced, coke-head, that I happen to be in love with STILL.

I love him for who he is and aside from those things....hes funny, charming, witty, kind, intelligent, fun, wonderful taste in music, he's pretty much a millionaire, the sex is great, we were really good friends first too. BUT HE LIES TO ME AND HURTS ME OVER AND OVER

My rationale was that i love him& he will come around and realize. i know he feels bad-i can see it hurts him to see me hurt, but not enough i guess. I've been patient, understanding, and forgiving. I bite my tongue- grin and bare it....yet he continues. I've trying yelling, crying, fighting, talking....WHAT WILL WORK??? even if he never changes and I leave him with no explanation...do you think he will one day wake up & feel bad for everything he has done to me? If anything-i just want2 know that he will hurt atleast a little if I go. Knowing that, I may have the strength to go-ive just been scared bc i know he wont follow

2007-12-23 23:54:52 · 13 answers · asked by Michelle Bell 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 23:52:54 · 10 answers · asked by Timothy N 1 in Singles & Dating

Todays indian woman enjoys a lot of legal protection and legal rights which the earlier generation of indian woman could only dream of, has this changed the psyche of the indian woman for the better or for the worse ? Express your views on the changing family values of indian woman ?

2007-12-23 23:47:56 · 11 answers · asked by Pramod R 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-23 23:42:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Like I sometimes just lie about the stupidest things with no reason at all. Like if somebody asks me how long I lived in Los Angeles I say 5 years, whereas I have only been there 3 years. Then later people realize something does not add up and I look retarded. Do you do This, WHY DO I DO THIS?

2007-12-23 23:39:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok. so i like this guy, and he likes me too. But what now? Just because we like each other doesnt mean anything will happen. Should I go with the flow and see what happens? Or push for something to happen, arrange something?

2007-12-23 23:38:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He has some friends who are totally useless, they call him out to drink! there is nothingelse they call him for. I dont like them. they are not even to his standard.
I have tried telling 2 of his friends about what happens when he come home from drinking, they told me- dont worry we wont call him out anymore which lasted for 1 week only and after that they keep calling him out.
I just dont understand why he has to go out and drink with his friends. I have tried to stop him by blackmailing him to choose which he wants.. his wife or alcohol.. but still after few days he is back to drinking.
Can someone tell me some trick that i can use on him.

2007-12-23 23:36:42 · 40 answers · asked by DJ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Because I am The Special One, I don't have to rush around at the last minute shopping and I certainly don't get stressed out or anything like that.

I just sit back and relax and take everything in my stride.

You see her indoors does all this for me, in fact as I am typing this question I'm totally stress free. She came in from work at midday and is now away to asda doing all the last minute shopping etc.

But I don't think that I'm that selfish, because I gave her a £10 tenner to buy her own Christmas present while she is out doing the shopping. I might wrap it for her.

I can just imagine all you women out there thinking how lucky she is being married to me and wishing it was them.

That is why I'm The Special One and Perfect aswell.

2007-12-23 23:32:10 · 12 answers · asked by The Special One 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

if you make a shy guy cry and he shows his true side, emotions and all what does this mean?
is it a good or bad thing?
i was just talking to him about things, getting all technical. really trying to get through to him.
i think he took it the wrong way.
he wouldnt talk to me after that and was just silent and on his bed, trying to hide away from me. did i say something to upset him?
i felt as though i was spilling my guts out and telling him everything that i hadnt been able to for a long time. i felt good and bad at the same time.

i dont think he likes me anymore. he liked me at the start i think and since then his whole personality has changed, because i mentioned that we should just b friends. he is kind of ignoring and avoiding me.
what do i do?
should i just leave him?
help!

2007-12-23 23:30:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

what the heck am I thinking to just blurt things out sometimes?

2007-12-23 23:29:43 · 5 answers · asked by jacquie 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 23:27:39 · 14 answers · asked by Angela G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 18. untill 16 I use to have many friends, always somebody to hang out with and I was really popular. I have moved far away right after my 16th birthday because my dad got a job in another state. I was really sad to leave my life behind, I have just started to date at that point, I was at the top of the world. the first year after leaving I made no friends. I was so sad for leaving that I refused to make friends, it just seemed pointless. But after comming back the summer when I was 17, on vacation, I realized that people did not miss me as much as I missed them all. I got over it now, but I have regrets now. I still did not have a girlfriend, you know, just somebody to hang around with and to care about. My family is really nice and I do well at university. this keeps me going. I met a few new people, but its not nearly as fun as before. I hang out with these people just not to be alone. I have become shy and rearly come up to girls, and when I do it doesnt go well. WHAT DO I DO?

2007-12-23 23:24:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It's been many many years since I've had a date. I came across a girl I really like the other day and I'm not sure what to say or do. I tried to ask her out and then she just laughed at me and said, no not with a guy like you silly. Then I had a girl slap me when I complimented her on her hair. Now she's dating one of my bests friends. A guy who tells me all about their intimate encounters together. I fear that because it's been so long I just don't know how to talk to women anymore. Year after year goes by with nothing but horror stories on how another one got away. I really don't want to spend another 15 Christmases alone. I've tried the getting out there and meeting girls thing and it's not working. I feel like after 15 years of searching and then as I was told not to search, went by. Now I've lost the ability to do anything. I don't want to spend another year alone, but 365 days ago from now I was sitting here in the same place saying the same thing.

2007-12-23 23:18:16 · 8 answers · asked by Hilow H 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay so at the moment i'm dating a latino guy in a gang he's 21, the rest of the gang don't know we are going out.You see 3 years ago, my family and i moved from Ireland to San Diego CA,USA.I'm 18 now.I'm 100% Irish and i have a thick irish accent...and i'm afraid this is the problem.I'm afraid that the rest of the gang will be angrey at the fact he is dating an irish girl and not a latina.It could cost me my life if they found.Do you think they would take it badly? or would it not matter to them?
I really need advice.

Thank you so much.

2007-12-23 23:15:16 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think I may be Bipolar I know that I need professional help. The cycle I go through is this. I will be fine and then I will start arguing with my wife and in the heat of the argument I will start thinking what are some things that I can say to her that will make her feel like crap. Now as I am thinking these things the argument is still on going and then I start to say the things that I thought of to hurt her now as I am saying this I start to say to myself you need to stop its not right but I cant stop myself and I say it and then she starts to cry and I have mentally abused her again like I said I know I need help I am just asking on here because I would like to know if anyone has any advice or tips or maybe even a preliminary diagnosis for me so I can see what I am up against.

2007-12-23 23:13:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

No bf/no gf, and happy!

2007-12-23 23:13:51 · 12 answers · asked by Digital Age 6 in Singles & Dating

Im about to go 2 austria for 10 days shud i ask out a girl i like before or afta i go??

2007-12-23 23:12:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Are they lying?

How can I find out whether they are sincere or fooling me?

2007-12-23 23:12:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 23:08:32 · 15 answers · asked by Red F 2 in Singles & Dating

Who would you date? Two guys had exactly the same nice personality... both were equally as good for you and suited you. But one's really really hot and handsome and sexy and the other's really not good-looking, big nose, few missing teeth, bald etc. Who would you choose? Just answer the question honestly. And don't say "it doesn't matter..." bla bla bla. Who? Hot guy or not hot guy?

And vice versa for men... Hot girl or not hot girl if they had the same personality.

2007-12-23 23:08:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So he is always trying to get with different girls, not have sex with, just be with. Every time he talks to me its about another girl, i dont like him but it drives me insane! Than even though he is always trying to get me to help him out with talking to other girls for him, he tells me he likes me! how does this work? he says that he talks to me about other girls to cover up who he really likes(me), i think its BS. cause after he tells me that im like im only ur friend, and he goes back to talking about other girls. Some help here, is this guy strange?

2007-12-23 23:07:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My dad left me when i were 2 because he didnt want to pay for me. Well my boyfriend and me have been arguing and he said your just like your dad i never new him, OH neither did you! he left you to i wonder why he left you! and i cant believe he said it. Why did he say this? To hurt me? Im 14

2007-12-23 23:02:51 · 12 answers · asked by ILoveYouLewis [: 1 in Family

They have told me that her mother has every right to see her, and by law she is aloud a minum of 3 weekdays and 2 nights per week, since she hasnt done anthing illegal. do you think this is corect or should i be calling a different lawyer. my daughter is 15, and even though she refuses to see her mother, (kye has no respect for the women that abonded her when she was 1 month old, and i dont blame her, but i have never influnced her choice about this, i have never ever spoken a single bad word about her.) my lawer said that if i do not allow her mother, and force my daughter to see each other, that lana could sue me. any help please??

2007-12-23 22:57:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I would really like a boyfriend to take my mind off things at the moment but i am too shy to. some people might say i just want a boyfriend for the sake of it but honestly - i dont. also my mum doesnt let me go out much so i wouldnt be able to go anywhere anyway.

but my sister is 15 and cant have a bf because she cant go anywhere with him
my mum thinks that because she (my sister) doesnt have a bf i shouldnt be interested in boys

i want to ask someone but im afraid of refusal and because i have to sit next to the person i want to ask and will be REALLY embarresed if he says no.

please tell me what you think i should do?

all answers appreciated

2007-12-23 22:57:04 · 3 answers · asked by Confused! 2 in Singles & Dating

My gf left me because i was caught flirting over the internet, we struggled for 3 months to try to make it work. She left me once but came back and said she couldnt stand a day not talking with me that she misses me so much, but a week later she left me again. She broke up with me in person when i came to surprise her and she seemed really mad and said she doesnt love me anymore and everything i did meant nothing to her. Did she say this out of anger? We have been broken up for a little over a week without communication. I sent her an email expressing that she will always be the only one in my heart. But she didnt reply. On christmas eve she sent me a msg saying that, Its almost christmas, and as a friend i wish you all the best. I gave her space but she replied me with that message, i will never let her go i will fight for this relationship with everything i got. Can some girls give me advice on how to win her back? please dont say move on because i wont. She loved me so much.

2007-12-23 22:57:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have 2 family members left but they live overseas. None are left alive in this country. I feel that around this time of year when I'm off work and just sitting around watching TV or reading books or playing video games. Whatever it takes to pass the time, that women seem to look down on me for not having a family. I feel that sometimes when a girl wants to meet my Mom and Dad and then I explain they can't because I don't have a family they seem disappointed. Then lose interest in any kind of relationship. I've been an adult now for 10 years and have noticed that it doesn't seem to bother girls that want a one night stand. But it seems to scare away any girl you'd want more than just to have sex with her. I can't see any reason but it's just a pattern I've noticed over the years.

2007-12-23 22:54:43 · 6 answers · asked by Hilow H 1 in Singles & Dating

Its a purple, mesh v string. Is it worth 11 bucks?

2007-12-23 22:53:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My name is Jennifer and I am 14 years old. I think there is something wrong with me. I hate going out and partying and I don`t care for other teenagers my age. I stay home and study all the time, I make perfect straight As. I am in the ninth grade but I may be skipping up to eleventh grade next year. People tell me I am dependable, smart, and responsible. They also always tell me what I should be doing, things that don`t intrest me. Like going out and that type of thing. I`m not into that. However, I have this obsession with becoming a mother. I know it is crazy, that`s what they all tell me. Every time I see a woman with a baby I go nuts, I just want my own so badly. I have babysitted but it isn`t the same. I have OCD, if that makes it worse. I`m worried because people have told me how hard of work babies are. I have seen the shows on tv where they make them care for the baby for a week and they have a hard time. Won`t change my mind. You will all probably call me crazy, but ok.

2007-12-23 22:52:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My boyfriend who is of Indian background with parents living in India, will not tell his parents that we are in a relationship. I have met them, but he introduced me as a friend. He says that he wants to finish his studies before telling them, as otherwise they would blame him for not studying well, on the relationship. He has told his friends in India about me, but hasn't really allowed me to interact with them, which he says is because of the fact that he hardly talks to them himself and sees no point in me just talking on the phone with them.
We have been dating for more than 1.5 years and have talked about marriage and kids. He says he can only tell them just before he gets married to me...which is similar to my situation too. The only reason why my parents found out, was because they saw me and him together.
Does anyone have any idea what is going on his mind?
Especially anyone of an Indian background? I'm not an Indian, but from the subcontinent myself.

2007-12-23 22:49:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friend just told me hers was $800!!!!! I didn't know people could talk that much!!!

2007-12-23 22:49:48 · 20 answers · asked by Jani J. 1 in Singles & Dating