Family & Relationships - 23 December 2007

My gf broke up with me cause she lost feelings. 3mths (I 29 she 25) She said it was not fair for me to being so giving and her not return it. She said we had a good relationship but just she wasn’t feeling the romantic spark. She does care for me and I feel the same. She just got out of a 2 year relationship which ended in a retraining order cause he was verbally abusive to her. One month after she met me and things flew. We felt that things went to fast. Talking marriage etc.. She used to tell me she wanted space but was doing it so that things would not get messed up between us. Well now we are done and I have asked her back but she states she needs to miss me and time will tell. She is unable to tell me that she would be back w/ me in a month or so, but wants to be friends and hang out.She thought i was the one. I am confused how things changed. She was the first to tell me that she will marry me. She kept saying she coulnt change me but i was always good she liked it What can happn

2007-12-23 19:23:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i really like this guy and im not sure if he likes me back. he is sending me mixed signs, so im not sure if he likes me back. im not sure if i should tell him or not. i dont want to ruin any of the very small chances i have with him. should i tell him i like him????

2007-12-23 19:17:55 · 9 answers · asked by . 2 in Singles & Dating

I broke up with my ex on 24th Nov and I just saw their pictures dated 6th Dec posted in Friendster. They were very close. There's even a pic in the dressing room. I feel so hurt by that. The thought of her getting so close to my ex is causing all the heartaches u could never imagine.. The thought of them making out etc is killing me. I want to get over this guy and I want to learn how to ignore all these stuffs. Pls help.

2007-12-23 19:16:19 · 24 answers · asked by theng 3 in Singles & Dating

This tends to happen when I watch sports or when I'm working on something and it doesn't go smoothly. My gf doesn't like me swearing and I want to stop, but it seems impossible to do.

2007-12-23 19:12:48 · 23 answers · asked by AlexNP 2 in Singles & Dating

so my mom has been really rude for quite some time now, every bit of money I make she takes it,when i was working for her ex all last summer i only saw 2 or 3 of my paychecks, she took the rest, she always says im selfish, but im the one who goes to her every need and want, she NEVER cleans the house does dishes, all she will do is the laundry, and complains she has to do that, i am stuck with all the animal chores, we have alot of animals 4 horses a goat 3 geese 2 ducks i have to haul water to them every night and i ask her for help and she will say "no I told you todo it and I expect you to do it" she is always putting me down now she is shipping me to go live with my grandparens in florida,i recently lost my horse to colic, when we had to put him down she said she would take care of the bil and I could get a new horse if I wanted to, so I sold my arab mare a little before he died, i had already made plans to get her out here, my mom took my money for her and said i dont thnk you

2007-12-23 19:07:36 · 3 answers · asked by Amaloo 2 in Family

Please have a heart for just one year?

2007-12-23 19:04:20 · 11 answers · asked by theartisttwin 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My Boyfriend and I have been together for three years and have known one another since we were 12 years old. Well We were engaged which I called it off cause he cheated, thinking he would stop the games I stayed with him. We have been through everything with each other. Well I had a guy friend whom happened to be black and since my boyfriend was ignoring me and pushing me away i started building a stronger friendship with one of my guy friends. Well one night I had told him I couldnt talk to him anymore because of my then fiance, he started telling me how he felt and to be honest I loved him as a friend but nothing more. Well the boyfriend went through my phone when I forgot it and found out bout me telling my guy friend I cared for him. Well he went nuts, he threw it in my face that he was going to ask me to marry him again tonight at 12:01. I have broke down and I dont know what to do. I love him and care for him, but not sure if its worth fighting for. I'd like some advice please.

2007-12-23 18:59:28 · 15 answers · asked by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I mean if a guy in a suit and tie was talking too you, would pay more attention, than someone dude in a t-shirt and jeans. Please, I want too make a good impression before I even say a word.

2007-12-23 18:57:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My Mom is always inviting her nephew over. He always come during the weekends, when my married sister is with her husband for the weekend. All he does in the house is eat then leave. On some occasions my mom let him sleepover. At first, I was okay but now it is getting annoying. To me, he is a freeloader in the house(eats then leaves). He has his own house, why can't he go there? How can I tell my mom that she needs to stop inviting him over and over?

Both of my sister's agree that my mom got an "obsession" with her nephew (he's about 30'ish).

P.S. My father is out of the house because my mom found out that he is cheating on her.

2007-12-23 18:54:14 · 3 answers · asked by jit3893 2 in Family

2007-12-23 18:51:53 · 3 answers · asked by moonlight 2 in Friends

What, if anything, could your spouse or bf/gf do that would instantly end the relationship with no chance of reconciliation?

Short of killing you of course.

2007-12-23 18:51:17 · 16 answers · asked by I_Walk_Point 3 in Marriage & Divorce

how can i ask one of my best friends if she wants to be friends with benifits with me?
we are super close and i know if we were to be friends with benifit nothing between us would change.
i can talk to her about anything.
we always talk bout sex and stuff and it never gets akward.
and we were talking one time and she said that if i got her a friend with benifits for christmas that would be the best gift ever. and i told her that i think that would be the reatest present ever too. and i dont know if she was dropping a hint or something.
i want to ask her but i dont know how to ask her.
what are some ways that i can ask her to be friends with benifits with me?

2007-12-23 18:50:29 · 7 answers · asked by blah127 1 in Friends

2007-12-23 18:43:31 · 4 answers · asked by Ilo R 2 in Singles & Dating

We'd known each other in the past and been close friends, there was some kind of unexplainable bond but it never went any farther than friendship even though we might have cared much more than that.

Life went on, I'm out of a relationship for over a year now, he's in one currently...we hadn't talked for a couple of years but now we've been e-mailing about twice a week regularly for several months now. He's mentioned his girlfriend once or twice, basically to tell me he has one; but past that doesn't breathe a word about her.

We don't talk on the phone, and haven't seen each other, we don't flirt with each other - but there is this real connection and like, emotionally intimate feeling to our e-mails.

He's always been a pretty gaurded guy, and runs deep anyway, and it was implied that something about me freaked him out emotionally in the past and he didn't act on anything.

I haven't crossed any boundries and won't. He says his girlfriend knows he has female

2007-12-23 18:42:50 · 2 answers · asked by Cedar_2006 3 in Friends

My last two girlfriends killed my confidence...how do I get it back?

I am a good looking guy, I am no model, but girls do compliment, and they're always surprised that I am single. It's like I don't know what to do on a date. I still flirt alot with girls, and the last few dates I've had, the girl is actually the one that's asked me out....cause of my flirting I guess. But then the date happens, and it's like I am scared to get into a relationship; I won't even kiss first, or hold their hands it's so bad. It's like I am going through the motions of dating but my head isn't there.

Is it my confidence that is down or am I just scared of getting hurt again?

2007-12-23 18:42:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 18:39:49 · 14 answers · asked by Buzz 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

If you had to leave your significant other to go on a 2 week long business endeavor and you came back to a "new" man or woman, how would you feel? My SO will be back on Wednesday (yeah, he is missing Christmas :-( ). I quit smoking about a month ago, and since then I have started working out and taking yoga classes. I have started feeling better about myself, so in turn I walk taller and hold myself up better. I also have actually started wearing foundation and pretty makeup (which, after a year and a half of dating, my SO has only since on me once). I have been taking care of myself and I feel GREAT. How do you think he will react? We are in early twenties. Will he be happy and instantly want me (LOL I hope!), or will he think I am trying to impress somebody else and not him and get suspicious? Just curious.

2007-12-23 18:39:47 · 7 answers · asked by Wondering 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband moved out a year ago. We see eachother, but go back and forth about what we want. He's insisting that I sell my house and buy one with him. I don't think that I should have to sell my home to keep my husband. I asked him to leave a year ago because of the way he spoke to me. Now he won't come back to my home. what to do?

2007-12-23 18:37:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm tired of people think they can take advantage of me (and succeeding), I'm tired of giving people 3rd, 4th, 5th chances only to have them hurt me over and over again.

I always try to see the best in people and I get burned for it.

Is it possible to toughen up without becoming a cow? Every time I try it, and I finally do the right thing and tell someone I've had enough of the way they treat me, I feel horrible and I get told I'm a nasty person.

How does one find a happy medium?

2007-12-23 18:30:48 · 7 answers · asked by . 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

before marriage. and were madly inlove and when they get married the love decreases and slowly their life gets bad.
whats the reason? and what are the ways to keep the love warm forever?
Practicle views and comments :o)

2007-12-23 18:29:59 · 7 answers · asked by freeman 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i have already said something to my husband about his parents being rude to our neice. he said he will say something to them the next time, but everytime we are over there he tends to zone out and not even pay attention to what is going on. my husband has talked to the girl's mother who is his sister, but she doesn't do anything either or when she does say something to her parents it falls on deaf ears. it pains me to see that this young child is being shunned and treated rudely. example: i was teaching her how to knit and she went and showed her grandmother and in a dramatic and sarcastic tone she said, "well, whoopee". i was very bothered by that because this girl is only ten years old and she was doing very well. i personally was offended because i felt as tho she was blowing off our skills because she doesn't know how to knit. this girl isn't an angel, but she behaves well with me because i respect her, but they don't. i don't have a personal relationship with his parents.

2007-12-23 18:29:25 · 3 answers · asked by lookingforanswersandquestions 4 in Family

my divorce isnt final yet, but me n my stb ex-hubby are just now starting to talk (directly, that is). since the beginning, weve been communicating only thru our lawyers. but as u know, it can get pretty expensive. aside from the obvious financial burden on us both, i guess its because weve come to our senses? perhaps, we both realized our faults and are just trying to get along for the sake of our children? whatever it is, im kinda feeling better about things now. although we do hv a court-ordered agreement, we said that we would only resort to it on things we cant agree on.
am i reading too much into things? or could this actually be a good thing? id appreciate opinions or experiences.
please, no sarcasm.

2007-12-23 18:29:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am 27 and I have been dating my g/f who is 29 for about 2 years. In early November, I told her I wanted to end the relationship because I didn't feel it was going anywhere and I though I was falling out of love with her. She took it REAL hard and so after a lot of begging, pleading, crying, promising, etc, I agreed to give it another chance. Well, things havn't really changed much. It's nothing with her personally, she's a nice girl, I just don't feel the love that I once did and I don't want to keep going in a relationship that I don't think has a future. Anyway, today she dropped a bombshell on me. She told me she's 12 weeks preg accedently and she's keeping it. I was planning on breaking up again but after New Years (I was gonna spare her the heartbreak over the holidays) but now I don't know what to do! She's been on the pill the whole time we've been dating so I never thought to wear a condom. Should I stay with her now or not? I can't see myself ever loving her.

2007-12-23 18:29:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We're like family, and all of the sudden she stopped answering my calls. Usually when I call my friend, she always answered the phone and nowadays they aren't answering. I know they are home because that's all they do is stay home and drink. However on my last visit with them, there was a strange feeling in the room. It's that feeling you get when you know somebody has just finished talking about you. When she left for work, she basically said bye to everyone except me. She doesn't look like she is upset with me, but I have a gut feeling my presence is no longer needed.

I used to hang out with them everyday, largely because I used to drink with them. (Thank you to the Yahoo Answeres by the way/ I've been sober for four months because of your advice.) Ever since I started losing weight and stopped partying with them it seems like the are more stand-offish with me. Am I hallucinating?

2007-12-23 18:27:45 · 5 answers · asked by yayaquack 4 in Friends

and I have liked him for like 4 months! He knows I like him but he likes one of my best friends a LITTLE. I really really really like him but he tries to act like other people i know and it's really annoying.

Also he might like me a little but the last time i hung out with him and some friends at his house i avoided him the whole time and when he put his arm around me a walked away. I walked away because he flirts and does that to all the girls and I just wish I knew what to say to him.

I know this is probably confusing and please tell me if you cant understand what im talking about....but if you have any ideas about what i can say that would be great :)

♥ Thanks A Lot! ♥

2007-12-23 18:20:05 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Broke up with my ex of 13 years, 2 sons. Been fighting in court for 3 years for unsupervised visits. in that time i've seen my sons 1.5 hours per week for the last 8 months. She was upset the relationship ended & told C.A.S. i was abusive...NOT TRUE! they didn't check into my history i was guilty just because she said so...i have no criminal record. this is the third Christmas without my boys!

2007-12-23 18:17:36 · 3 answers · asked by chefsugar 1 in Family

2007-12-23 18:17:22 · 17 answers · asked by Scraggle_aggle_baggle_laggle 3 in Family

My friend has had a bf since high school. However, he is 28, she is 24. She has a good job, and finished college while caring for his two sons, but he still hasn't finished high school and is selling drugs in order to support himself. He does not pay child support. He has a mental illness that makes him have rages, but will not take his medication. She lives with her parents because she will not let her children be around him alone with drugs/anger issues around, as when he was much younger (years ago) he was physically abusive.

Now for the problem - she has wanted to leave him for ages, but every time she does, he refuses to see their children. She gets very upset because their son starts asking for him and cries. He follows her around secretly and snaps photos or videos. She's convinced that her children NEED their father, so she reluctantly gets back with him.

Is there any advice I could give to her? I'm not a mother, maybe she's right? She seems to be wilting inside

2007-12-23 18:15:09 · 13 answers · asked by drusillaslittleboot 6 in Friends

can i make my own? and how much does it cost just something simple Pink and brown?

2007-12-23 18:11:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

whenever i see a hot guy, they dont approach me or say anything to me.. maybe a look but nothing more but an old gross dude who i want nothing to do with will start talking to me?! why wont descent guys my own age(20) talk to me in a public setting and why are old men hitting on me??

2007-12-23 18:02:49 · 2 answers · asked by hellen 1 in Singles & Dating