before marriage. and were madly inlove and when they get married the love decreases and slowly their life gets bad.
whats the reason? and what are the ways to keep the love warm forever?
Practicle views and comments :o)
2007-12-23 18:29:59 · 7 answers · asked by freeman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People do not realize that love does not stay in the 'honeymoon' stage forever. Love becomes familiar and comfortable. People settle in and get cozy...some people stop trying to tempt their mates because they feel they have already 'bagged' them. Some people view a marriage contract as an ownership thing...like they bought a new car that will never quit on them..so they just don't think about trying as hard as they did when they were just dating and having to be worried that the person could up and dump their butts.
Keeping love warm forever takes romantic gestures...being a good listener (and talker)...sharing duties, toils, trials, and tribulations...and being the person's best friend...a soft place for them to land when things are getting tough...and there is always more...that is why the experts write the books about this stuff.
2007-12-23 18:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by Nae 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The people that you are talking about were probably just in lust and lust always wears off. Love means so much more than just enjoying sex or partying together.
When two people love each other, some of the passion does naturally wears off, but in its place grows a deep abiding love that keeps them closer than any passion could.
Communication is very important. Being kind and considerate of each other is very important also. Respect is necessary. Taking time to spend alone together helps too. Doing special little things to surprise each other, such as flowers, cards, gifts, etc... keeps an element of newness to the relationship too. Always make love to that person, not only when you are in bed, but by touching, complimenting, noticing and mentioning things that they do, and showing appreciation for the things that they do. All of these things will make your partner feel loved every day, not just when you want sex.
2007-12-23 18:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is because there is so much more involved. You have bills to pay, your jobs, and even children. You get so caught up in all of that and forget to take time for each other. Also some people seem to figure that they are married now they don't have to take care of themselves like they did when they were dating. The appearances start to change, the sex isn't as frequent, little things they did when dating start to be less and less. Some people don't realize you have to work and a relationship. It doesn't mean it can't be fun. It's kind of like a roller coaster as is life.There are many ups and downs. I am technically not married but I vowed to my fiance to be by his side. To love and cherish, honor and support him. I promised to love only him for the rest of my life, not just when things are good, even when life throws us that darn curve ball. We never go to sleep without a kiss and an "I love you". In fact we say it often throughout the day. We write each other little love notes and he calls me on his lunch break at work. I love him more and more each day. I didn't think it was possible to do, but each day proves me wrong.Here I am rattling on, your question appealed to me I only hope I was able to help you out.
2007-12-23 18:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by BEAUTIFUL STRANGER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my theory> while dating, yo do have some freedom and time away from each other. When you get married, you think you need to be with each other 24/7. Yu start to get on each others nerves, etc and eventually you know all there is to know about someone and there is no more mystery. It grows cold and lonely. I believe honest outside relationships with friends should continue and that it shouldnt be just the two and no body else
2007-12-23 20:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only the ones that are both in love that stay together. The ones that end up separating or divorcing are the ones where either one or the other are only in lust.
2007-12-23 19:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the relationship interesting by making sure there's always passion. constantly do things that remind eachother why you fell in love with that person.. physical attraction and good sex are important
2007-12-23 18:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by internet nickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to wish for the Bible translated down to five simple rules.....not possible. Or, is it?
2007-12-23 18:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋