I'm tired of people think they can take advantage of me (and succeeding), I'm tired of giving people 3rd, 4th, 5th chances only to have them hurt me over and over again.
I always try to see the best in people and I get burned for it.
Is it possible to toughen up without becoming a cow? Every time I try it, and I finally do the right thing and tell someone I've had enough of the way they treat me, I feel horrible and I get told I'm a nasty person.
How does one find a happy medium?
2007-12-23 18:30:48 · 7 answers · asked by . 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I really do understand where you're coming from, because I "suffer" from the same predicament myself. Well, there is some good news and bad news about it. The bad news is when you put your foot down and become aggressive about the situation, you are bound to piss someone regardless, cause remember that person is not getting their way. Here's where the problem is solved for you....just keep in your head that it's their problem and not yours. This thought helps me out a lot. The good news is when you start taking care of you and then try help others, second, you start to feel a whole lot better, and also gain the respect of those who found it was okay to disrespect you in the first place. Eventually the guilt wears off and you find yourself in a more comfortable place, cause you know when and how to pick your battles.
2007-12-23 18:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by toknomskim 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that you being a trusting and kind hearted person makes you more likely to have your feelings hurt. But you shouldn't try to downplay your nice nature. You should always give people trust until they prove themselves untrustworthy. What you can do is let people know that are giving them chances but if those chances are abused you will remove your trust and if that is the case there is a chance that the trust will not be restored even despite their best efforts. But just so you know, there's nothing wrong with cows. I mean what's better than a big juicy cheeseburger?
2007-12-23 19:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ramis W 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maximum human beings have some very damaging self-communicate (the flaws you're continually thinking to your self on your head) occurring. attempt to make your recommendations up what yours is. often, it rather is what you finally end up thinking on each occasion issues go undesirable or you're freaking out. as quickly as you recognize what it is, probably the final thank you to spoil it is to instruct it right into a comic tale. visit a mall 2 cities over (the place you're no longer likely to fulfill all people you recognize) and introduce your self to a hundred strangers by announcing your call, shaking their hand, and announcing your damaging thought as though it have been your profession. when I did this I stated "hi, my call is Jonny, and there is no think approximately attempting." persons are going to snort at you, and quickly you would be guffawing at your self too, which exhibits you're shifting forward. by the point you end the a hundred, your epidermis would be thicker.
2016-10-09 03:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by alban 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our ego makes us say and do anything to "protect" our false pride. Ego is a false persona that has taken us over and needs to be under our heel. When ego goes, so does the thin skin. Ego is our undoing. It is our main weakness and enemy. We must conquer our ego. A conquered ego is acquiring the thick skin you desire. Emotions and ego are 2 different entities, though we may confuse them together sometimes. Let your ego go. It won't die quietly, but it will go if you are persistent. In other words, how badly do you want to be rid of it.Thick skin grows as the ego goes.
2007-12-24 00:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always take the road of self respect, people will try to mainpulate you out of it to get you to do what they want, like telling you are nasty and hoping you believe it, then they disarm you that way. You have to know well enough yourself if you are being nasty or not, then no one else can dictate to you what is right or wrong.
2007-12-23 18:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
trust everyone to a point!!if they mess over you thats it dont trust them anylonger unless they earn your trust.if you let people mess over you several times its no longer there fault because they are doing what is exspected of them by you.if you toughen up (as you put it) on someone DO NOT feel bad its there fault and you dont need someone like them.
2007-12-23 18:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by monteb b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Meh... its best to just get so jaded you really dont care...
2007-12-23 19:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋