Family & Relationships - 23 December 2007

I split up with his mom when he was 3 years old I have always been a good father and spent as much time as I was allowed by the court. I owe a little back child support. If I have him live with me I told his mom I don't want her money for child support. I just want my son to be happy. hes doing bad in school under his moms roof. she say im not responsible and that is not true what so ever. I used to drink a lot when I was younger I made my mistakes in life. I have a good job and a nice place to live on the Lake. Im sure his mom is going to bring up the past 13 years ago, Im a loving father and always have been there for my son. I did get a couple of DUIs over ten years ago. does the judge look that far back. I dont even have a speeding ticket in the last 10 years. His mom is threatening me with the past. his mom does not work and wont drive him anywhere becouse she says she has a medical problem with her eyes or somthing. his step dad is gone at work most nights. help

2007-12-23 21:19:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

iam 24years old n am married 2years ago.iam blessed with a cute kid last year.am gettin frustrated sitting at home no work only looking after my baby all de time no time for myself.n so getting irritated now n then.wat should i do?I really need a break

2007-12-23 21:15:32 · 7 answers · asked by J lo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

They're doing it openly on their Facebook accounts, and she knows he's married, so it's not like it's a secret affair or something. But I feel really pissed off... am I too possessive of him?

2007-12-23 21:14:45 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was talking to a different guy in an msn convo with him who ive been friends with since i was five. I tried texting him but his phone is off, I tried emailing him but he hasnt answerd and i tried getting my friends to talk to him but he hasnt signed into msn in a while and we're on holidays. Yes btw im 13 ... big deal i can still like some1. Anyway I dnt no what else to do! Please help

2007-12-23 21:12:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i've been married for over a yr and i can say that i'm happy my husband is great and i love him he's nice and i love his fam... i love the way that he treats me with respect and gentleness... but i can't seen to forget my x i've tried to do that but i doesn't work i could go on without a wk then puff i remember him either a song and little phrase that i hear it reminds me of him....but i love my husband why can't i forget my x..and this just happens when i'm with myself when no one is around out of the no where i find myself thinking what's he doing or if he's ok...but when i'm with my husband my mind doesn't even cross by him why is that???????please help me

2007-12-23 21:09:06 · 3 answers · asked by rosalinda 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel like I'm screw up. I try to do everything right, but I don't and I get yelled at. I try my hardest but I guess I just can't do it. And I try to say the right thing but it never comes out the way I want it to. My parents are always yelling at me because I 'screwed' something up. So is there anything I can do make me better? Or is there something I can say to my parents?

2007-12-23 21:07:00 · 15 answers · asked by Eugene's Girl 2 in Family

Do you call at all if you're not interested?

Just curious.

2007-12-23 21:04:09 · 15 answers · asked by cb2222 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 21:03:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

family. We spent $20-35 on each kid. There was only one person to buy for in my family and he made me feel guilty for wanting to spend $50. I was wrapping them and I ran out of tape. He went out to get the tape and brought back double-sided (I guess he wasn't paying attention) tape. I said, "Oh, no! This is double-sided. Come look. What should I do?" He says I had a "bad tone" to my voice when I said it. So, we ended up in an arguement. I don't want to go see his family anyway. We agreed to only buy gifts for the kids and he bought his mother's bf a $50 lamp (???). He says he owes his man because 5 years ago, he helped him with his roof after a bad storm and he's better to him than his own dad. His dad IS pretty sorry, but I don't think you have to "owe" someone for forever and the guy is shady. Anyway, I don't want to go to his family's house for Christmas, so I told him to go alone. It is a long drive. Should I go even though I said I'm not?

2007-12-23 21:03:32 · 3 answers · asked by When are you going to learn? 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

July 07 my mom and dad got drunk and blasted on my husband in front of our daughter who got soo upset that she was literally sick. This has happened to me before in past with promises that will never happen again. My dad starts drinking and all out of no where will become crazy voilent and start yelling and cutting down the person who hes with at the time... even wanting to get physical!! since my mom to whom i was very close with has never stood up to him and then always blames something else for his actions she is just as bad!! well i am having my sis niece and other family over christmas eve and now she starts calling my sis for a guilt trip.. she is only 5 min away from me and this will be their 1st christmas alone and YES i do feel horrible but they have caused so much hurt in my life and my childs that why should i even feel sorry for them!! maybe if they would have gotten help over summer and realize how truley hurtful my dads words r then it would b different.IS THIS WRONG OF M

2007-12-23 21:02:15 · 7 answers · asked by Hope h 1 in Family

I answered a question a while ago (How should men treat women). My response was that she should be treated with love and respect. But I added that most women don't seem to like this. Paraphrasing my answer, I said women seem to (emphasize seem to) prefer being ignored, cheated on, sometimes even beaten. I base this on pretty much any woman I've come across so far who has a boyfriend.

I have yet to find a girl with a boyfriend who isn't being mistreated in some way. I know they exist, but the fact that they are so hard to find would suggest they are in a minority.

I know a lot of good guys who just want someone to care about, and they are usually alone. If they aren't alone, they usually wind up being so soon after.

If women want guys to treat them right, then why do they almost always go for the loser who treats them wrong? When there are so many nice guys out there, why go for th bad ones? And why do you then complain there are no good guys?

2007-12-23 20:59:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Heres a question for the girls,
Do girls like to be told they they are/look "hot"?

2007-12-23 20:59:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

its a long story but in short we've been flirting for quite a while and we're really good mates to. but we finally admitted our feelings to each other and i said that i didn't really want to tell her at the moment because I don't really know how i feel and i didn't want to hurt her (which i told her). But i ended up telling her anyway, i told her i definately have feelings for her but not like i used to, i like her one moment and then not at another.

she said fair enough and we decided we can still be good mates because we pretty much knew we like each other before anyway.

but now she seems she feels she has to get back at me, she's flirting deliberately with other people right in front of me and saying insults to me or about me to my other mates. But then at other times she will be really nice to me.

its especially hard because i still like her a lot of the time.
i still can't stop thinking about her

also what can i do to forget about her?

2007-12-23 20:53:30 · 17 answers · asked by Ed 1 in Singles & Dating

Actually, how long do you THINK a woman should wait? My answer is atleast a month.

2007-12-23 20:52:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There are so many kinds of love:

*Puppy Love
*Love at First Sight
*Love at First Met
*Love at First Voice

and so many more...

To myself, I know that this is LOVE...
but when I ask others, they say that it's just "INFATUATION"...
I'm not confused, I really know that I love this GUY...and not just ADMIRE or INFATUATED...

Any advice?

2007-12-23 20:49:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Hey everyone. My story with my sibling is a really long one so I'll try to shorten it. My sister is nineteen and still acts like she's 5. When we were kids, she treated me terribly and beat the crap out of me all the time. She gave me two concussions and my parents just don't seem to give a damn. :| Now we go to the present, she gets pregnant and has a baby.

She couldn't go to school so she comes back and moves in with us because my parents are too 'nice' or something. They didn't think about me and what she used to do with me. At the most random times when I'm trying to be the nicest, she turns into a complete biatch and makes me want to knock her lights out. I might seem like an asshole, but really I'm not. She's ALWAYS giving me reasons to hate her! I've even told my parents upfront that they need to kick her out before I try moving out, but they just told me: "She's our daughter why do we have to kick her out." Uh, they have another one too! That person's me!

What do I do..?

2007-12-23 20:48:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My friends roommate is a big cry baby, he complains about everything. my friend buys a 30 pack of beer comes home from work and there might be 7 beers left. he buys pepsi well that gets drank all up too. my friends roommate has a son and now the son must come over every weekend and be on my friends computer and internet from 6pm Friday till 4pm Sunday the house is already paid for. electric and water is all my friends roommate pays. my friend does have the cable in his name because his roommate owes $200 from a past bill. My friend wanted to move December but his roommate cryed about not giving him notice. well this is quite funny when my friend wants to move and everything is paid up, his roommate comes with the I need a 30 days notice speech. but if he don't get his rent on the 1st he's all about you gotta move soon speech. now the rent is cheap but my friends roommate acts like it's $3000 dollars when its only around $300 bucks a month. I could understand if he was 3 months late????

2007-12-23 20:48:35 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-12-23 20:48:03 · 2 answers · asked by tom 1 in Friends

I hang about with girls all the time and I hang about with boys sometimes but very rarely and I don't think of girls as being weak or anything like that, I think women are capable of anything men can do apart from peeing standing but then women are able to give birth so but for some reason I feel like I have to protect my mates just because they're girls and I'm the only boy and I don't know why?

2007-12-23 20:46:33 · 14 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Singles & Dating

I am 16 year old kid but i look like im in my 20's. Anyway that's not the point. The thing is im very lonely. Not that i dont have any friends but i dont want to give them the impression that im really desperate becuase they never call and i always have to be the one to call them. I do call a couple of friends though and they too call back but the ones that are really fun to hang out with never call. This boredom is really driving me crazy.

2007-12-23 20:46:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I cant tell if my mom is suicidal.she is on oxycotin and they our now taking her off becuz she took 2 entire bottles and almost died.they say she didnt no what she was doing bcuz of anoda drug(my mom is and ill woman)but i think she was in the right mind since i had talked to her minutes before she took the drug.I went to bed and wook to find my grandparents taking her to the hospital and the pumped her stomach.About half an hour ago i started getting curious so i searched the play room where she spends most of her time and found a plastic bug with a prescription drug in it..I searched the web and found the name of the drug(Taztia).So now i am even more worried.
And before this she called me and my brother out to the playroom at 1 in the morn to tell us she loved us.happened(we did not no what she had done at the time)but idk if she was truly in the right mind,She wanted me to wake my father so he could lay by her in the playroom but change her mind.
I am going insane so plz help me.

2007-12-23 20:45:56 · 8 answers · asked by robmasta11 1 in Family

He works 2nd shift. he usually gets out at 12 a.m. but tonight he called around 1 and told me that his car started acting funny and that he was going to spend the night over at his friends house. he knew that i would not be able to go pick him up because we have a 1 year old that has a cold right now and its freezing outside. the really shady part is that he told me that he needs to go into work tomorrow morning which is suspicious because tomorrow is the 24th and a lot of corporate places arent even open tomorrow. it all seems a bit not quite right to me, so am i just being a crazy overreacting wife or do you think that he is doing something bad?

2007-12-23 20:44:07 · 38 answers · asked by bubulubu 2 in Marriage & Divorce

When it is none of their business.

2007-12-23 20:40:59 · 16 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

Ive been working at my job for about three weeks now and I really like one of my coworkers. I think she is the most wonderfull woman in the world but she has a boyfriend. We talk and joke around all the time, and we have a great working relationship. I was thinking about getting her a small "See's" chocolates box as a christmas gift because I know she loves them, but Im worried that this could make things strange between us. What do you think?

2007-12-23 20:38:41 · 5 answers · asked by Jlnwhly 1 in Singles & Dating

I always do nice things for my friends. Today I really needed this friend to show that she cared because I felt that it was just me giving and her taking.

I work nights, but I still find time to bring her soup when she's sick, coffee randomly in the morning at work, lunch randomly as well...She always appreciates it.

She told me she was out tonight, I wanted her to get me a coffee on her way home. When I called she pressed "ignore" on her phone and I got her voicemail (you know, the one ring and then right into the voicemail)...I told her that I felt really crappy and that it would make me feel so much better if she could get me a cup of coffee. I dind't get a response, so I texted her twice....still no response. She's told me that she doesn't pick up or call back if she doesn't feel like it.

On top of that, I spent an hour today looking for a cd that she couldn't find. And I got the stupid cd too. I am really mad at her right now. Do I have a right to be mad?

2007-12-23 20:38:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Okay well she's on Birth Control Yasmin.. She takes it every day. The condom broke..Is she Preg?

2007-12-23 20:38:20 · 8 answers · asked by Robert J 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 20:35:08 · 11 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

so whenever a guy likes me, i get scared about it and i start to avoid them... even though i'm friends with them...why do i panic about it??? i don't mean to do...

2007-12-23 20:31:23 · 11 answers · asked by (F)abulous (O)reintal (B)reunett 1 in Singles & Dating

2 months ago i saw one of my old friends M

we used to go to the same school, and we kept in contact

while she was here i went to sanity and bought an AFI cd

every since she read the lyrics of some of there songs, she absolutly completey HATES them

hates the message she thinks there trying to send out, where she is completely wrong

anyway, that wasnt too big of an issue

a few days ago on msn, i asked her to listen to one of there songs, and she said NO and made it perfectly clear that she doesnt want anything to do with them

i say look, its just a song i dont lke niklebak (her fave band) but i would listen to one of there songs because i respect that you like them

then it has turned into a whole Y cant you accept that thats te kind of music i like

now i dont noe wether to apologise or cut it off, cause we never really talk without nothing to talk about

what should i do. i kinda vaue her as a friend, but it burns me up that she cant respect my choices

2007-12-23 20:24:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

If so, then do you stop cheating or continue and hope you don't get caught? Or does the guilt keep you awake at night and then you confess?

2007-12-23 20:22:34 · 8 answers · asked by sunoverla 2 in Marriage & Divorce