Actually, how long do you THINK a woman should wait? My answer is atleast a month.
2007-12-23 20:52:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I'm a grown woman over 20 who is asking OTHER women how long THEY wait. I'm not asking how long I should wait...
(and waiting until marriage is WAY extreme!)
2007-12-23 21:07:43 · update #1
with me.............8 seconds
2007-12-23 20:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Scraggle_aggle_baggle_laggle 3 · 3⤊ 4⤋
haha The virgins ALWAYS say - "til marriage...
Or there's "3 months"
Or the man has to "EARN" it.
How about the US radio show host who says, "Sex on the 3rd date - or drop her."
I wonder if anyone realizes how nutty these ideas are. It makes sex into prostitution by equating a "waiting period".
I think that anyone who asks this question, as a reference point, needs to reevaluate their values. It depends on the circumstances - you could have sex at the first meeting, get married and be happy forever. Os you could wait until marriage and find the guy is colder than a halibut on ice.
What's the point of "waiting", in your mind? So you won't feel "cheap" or "loose"? Maybe you have issues with self-esteem, and you’d be better off to stop playing games behind the scenes of your relationships, and promote better dialogue, and hopefully, better relationships.
If a guy thinks you are cheap or loose based on how soon or how long you wait, then he’s the WRONG guy, and as screwed up as you give indication to be.
Why are you seeking relationships that have inherent communication difficulties? And, why is sex so bad that you cannot enjoy it with a compatible person, except with the promise of commitment and, ostensibly, marriage.
(You’ve already indicated that sex is ok, so it’s apparently not a moral issue…)
If you were "complete", and in a healthy relationship, you'd not have to ask this question.
2007-12-23 22:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by geeksball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
until you are married.
but I have not been dating for a very long time and do not get sex either. I have married a man I have known for 2 1/2 years but as he is in another country we do not get together much I will be with him in January.
I will admite when I was younger I was to willing to get involved with men. I was pregnant when I got married and the marraige onlt lasted a year I have 2 children from that and another relation ship which lasted about 8 years I have a son from he is now 19 and in irland with his father. we are still in regulare contact in fact I am on his compouter now. he is at uni in teh uk as is my other son
2007-12-23 21:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what YOU want out of the relationship. If it's only sex you're after then the sooner the better, but, if you really like the guy and want him to hang around, you'll find that he will keep coming back if he likes you and hasn't got everything that he wanted. This will give you both time to find out if you care for each other or not. Men love a challenge, give him one.
2007-12-23 20:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no specific time limit. You should wait until you feel the relationship has progressed to a level that you feel comfortable with having sex. Rushing into anything is ill advised. Wait until you are sure that you are ready, and that he is being sincere.
2007-12-23 21:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have intercourse before 10 dates its too fast. A man has to earn it of course. After you make him wait, you will have to give him cookie if that is what he needs quite often. Women must have more self respect. After that you can bring out the coffin and rock the night away. In our family we find the farm to be a wonderful place to have fantasies fulfilled privately. Unless other people are required.
2007-12-23 20:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by DwightTheDragon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Until you're comfortable with them to take the relationship to that level. I don't think theres a set rule. If you see each other every other day, then you're gonna get to know each other faster than only seeing each other for a formal date once a week.
2007-12-23 20:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Donna B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jacob waited 14 years. I have waited five years but never got the certificate.
2016-05-26 02:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him wait till the time you yourself are ready...I mean you are committed mentally to go forward. If you are prepared, there is no reason why you should make the guy wait.
I am sorry...I answered although I was not supposed to.
2007-12-23 20:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by Amitabh_Rai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a virgin so I don't know but when I meet a guy that I want to get serious with I will make him wait at least 3 months. That may be long for some but that's just me.
2007-12-23 20:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Heartfelt 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
that depends on how long i've been without it,ha,ha
No unfortunatly i tend to act on my feelings/lust(as i'm not one for comitment.So i've had one night stand(if not really interested in them for more)But it's always been a few days at least if it's been anyone i was interested in(&did have relationships with)Too quick,you say.Well again,i did have the mind set of a not to serious&(definatly not permanent)........funny how things change..been with this man comming up to 8yrs&i was with my sons dad for 7(before you lable me)
2007-12-23 21:02:17 · answer #11 · answered by fighterfish 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋