My 15 year old son lives with his mom and step dad he wants to live with me now but his mom wont let him?

Question

I split up with his mom when he was 3 years old I have always been a good father and spent as much time as I was allowed by the court. I owe a little back child support. If I have him live with me I told his mom I don't want her money for child support. I just want my son to be happy. hes doing bad in school under his moms roof. she say im not responsible and that is not true what so ever. I used to drink a lot when I was younger I made my mistakes in life. I have a good job and a nice place to live on the Lake. Im sure his mom is going to bring up the past 13 years ago, Im a loving father and always have been there for my son. I did get a couple of DUIs over ten years ago. does the judge look that far back. I dont even have a speeding ticket in the last 10 years. His mom is threatening me with the past. his mom does not work and wont drive him anywhere becouse she says she has a medical problem with her eyes or somthing. his step dad is gone at work most nights. help

Answer 1

when a child turns nine they are leggaly allowed to choose where and who they want to live with, the mother has no say in his decision should he choose yout o live with, she can threaten you as much as she likes i have been working witht he family courts for nine years,the boy would be put into your care if he wanted to live with you, your past does not matter to the court as that is what it is the past, the only time it would be relevant was if you had a past of violence towards your son, otherwise nothing else stand in the court. and your son being fifteen there would be no court hearings because he is of legal age with whom he wants to live with. if your son wants to live with you then take him and sort legal advice so that you know where to from there, you will have no hassles with this mothers and exes will always try to make it sound bad and they feel they have the world at there feet and are in control when there not

Answer 2

First, pay what you owe; that will matter. Second, your son is fifteen and due to be a defiant, ill-mannered and all-complaining teenager..his hormones are rampant and he is bothered by a lot of feelings he can not explain or understand yet..and someone is going to get the blame! So take what he says about his mother and step-father with a pinch of salt unless you know it to be true. Do not encourage him to behave in a way he will regret in a few years time unless you want to be blamed for all of it then......whatever his and your legal rights, the important thing is that your son should continue to have and to feel the benefits..if there are any..of his extended family and I think it would be a good idea if you sat down and talked to the other adults involved in that family as well as to your son. You might try and persuade the mother and step-father that if your son stays with you during the week and them during the weekends for a few months trial, without involving any lawyers, you will all be in a better position to assess the realities of the situation without having done anything hurtful..and that your son will benefit more in the long run from seeing the adult in his life consult each other and make compromises than by having them fight over him.

Answer 3

Most of the time since you have not had a DUI or speeding ticket in 10 years that would look good on your part. If your son wants to live with you then he can tell to courts that. He is 15 there for should be able to tell them which parent he wants to live with.

Answer 4

If you have a good job, then you have no excuse for being behind in support. It's nice that you have a good place to live, that also shows that you come first. Are you getting the idea, that's how the courts look at it. Get everything caught up, and then check into the law, as to how old a child has to be in his state to decide whom he wants to live with. It is different in every state. The fact that he is doing bad in school, is an issue that needs to be addressed, insist that he buckle down and get his grades up.

Answer 5

If he's living with a family that threatens him then this is a matter of child safety. If the child doesn't feel safe where he is living then he's not safe. You should bring this to the attention of child protective services. They may try to find someone who will be willing to foster him. The environment that this child is living in is unsafe because this is where he will be more likely to do anything to get away from these threats. If this child is very depressed and if that worsens, then you might have to look out for any attempts of suicide. I'm not saying that he will do that but it's a possibility of what might happen if this situation isn't taken care of.

Answer 6

Catch up on your support NOW. That will hurt you more than anything. Once you do that, take her to court. He is of the age where he can decide where to live. I'd contact an attorney now to see what can be done.

Answer 7

honestly speaking she can't make him live with her he can just move in with you. She can call the police if she wants they can't make him go back cause you pay child support. But to do it peacefully lol just go to court for shared custody / visitation and make sure he tells the judge who he wants to live with. If i were your son I'd just move in with you and say sorry mom i still love you but i wanna live with my dad now. I bet she is used to that monthly check. He is 15 old enough to know who he wants to live with.