My husband is planning a biking trip with his ex-girlfriend. I feel pissed off and jealous. Am I out of line?

Question

They're doing it openly on their Facebook accounts, and she knows he's married, so it's not like it's a secret affair or something. But I feel really pissed off... am I too possessive of him?

thanks Free_Angel, that made me laugh

Answer 1

I would be skeptical also. I don't think your out of line to be upset. But then again, I would love it if my wife would trust me enough to do something like that.

Answer 2

I would be pissed off too! If he is so determined to go on a biking trip, then he can go on one with you! There is absolutely NO reason for he and his ex-girlfriend to be doing anything like that together.. In fact, sounds like he needs to stop talking to her all together. I mean, I don't care if she "knows" he's married.. She is agreeing to go on a little adventure with a married man.. That is wrong! She is direspecting you as much as he is.

I'm not trying to say that people should tell their spouse what they can and cannot do... but if I were you, I would not stand for this!

Answer 3

I think that you're definitely not over her. She is going to see STRAIGHT through this. I mean, come on. If I worked at a bar, and I saw my exboyfriend had come in with 9 strippers to my work place, and requested me as his waitress? Sounds pretty set-up. I'd be flattered, honestly. My ex-boyfriend was really upset and jealous after our breakup, and continually tried to get back at me and bring me down to his level. I think the true way of getting revenge, is by moving on. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. When you can look back on things, and realize that it doesn't bother you anymore, then you know you truly got revenge. This is just you going down on her level and acting out of spite. I wouldn't. Sounds really immature.

Answer 4

Are you not invited? Why is he planning it with her? Even if it is innocent, this connection can very easily turn into an affair either emotional or physical. I don't think you are being too possessive. I think you are being wise. Check out marriagebuilders.com regarding how affairs start.

Good luck!

Answer 5

There is always something to be feared when your partner does something like this with an ex. I think that you should tell your husband that it bothers you that he is going with his ex and you can ask if you can accompany him on the trip. I don't think you're out of line.

Answer 6

Noooooo, not at all !! Does he want a divorce?? Cos he's going the right way about getting one. Tell him the biking trip isn't happening unless he takes you along with him and ditches the ex!! Stand up for what you believe in girlfriend. Speak your mind or it will surely drive you mad.


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Answer 7

Not at all! That sounds like a pretty natural reaction to the situation. I would not like it if I was in your shoes. I hope that God gives you strength to deal with the situation, especially if your husband is so out of touch with your feelings that he can not see that this decision to hang out with his ex sucks !

Answer 8

You are not out of line. Your husband is a married man and his ex needs to respect that and he needs to respect you enough not to go with his ex.

Answer 9

No. He is out of line. He has no business going off with another woman while married to you. Tell him he can go, as long as you go along too, and see what he says. If he objects, divorce him. Then find a new guy who is more faithful.

Answer 10

I don't think you are. He should know better than go on a trip with an ex. Tell him you know and tell him how you feel. If he still goes, well, you know how he feels about his ex.

Answer 11

Yes you should be jealous. Your husband should respect the boundaries of your marriage and accept the things he gained with the vows he took and the things he lost with them.