Family & Relationships - 23 December 2007

how do you know your in love and if they love you back?

2007-12-23 17:15:16 · 65 answers · asked by person 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok here is the situation

I was asked to go to my cousins house and he wasn't there. Thats fine that he wasn't there however, my car does not want to start so I call him. He says he'll be there in 5 minutes because he's almost done with whatever he was doing. But... he doesn't show for 45 minutes so I am pissed because he clearly explained that where he was and what he was doing it should not take more then 5 minutes to get there. Now I was like alright forget this guy i'm walking home. This isn't the first incidence that he has clearly let down me or a family member especially when your stuck. So then after walking he calls me an hour and half later saying that hes there now. Well let me tell you after that I let him have I cursed him out and everything. Because it wasn't the first time this has happened. Now then he comes into my home and threatens to kill me to my mother. Who is at fault at getting yelled at here in this situation and who do you feel got totally snubbed?

2007-12-23 17:12:21 · 15 answers · asked by Slick Vic 3 in Family

My fiance has suggested that we move in with his parents and i dont know what to do. I've got another year before i can start working full time. I reside with roomates and he lives with his family. The thought of me moving in with them makes me want to not get married besides i dont think his parents are too excited about me. We cant afford to support them and live on our own right now but if we did we would be dead broke especially trying to keep up the lavish lifestyle that they are accustomed to. Any ideas, suggestions? There are other family members that can chip in but they dont, so all finances rest on us, should i suffer it out or put my foot down, I have a feeling if i was to agree to live temporarly in the house my fiance would get comfertable and would never want to leave

2007-12-23 17:12:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

There is a pregnant 6TH GRADER at our school and I think that is just terrible.
I also know a pregnant 8th grader, and one who has had a baby.
I'm 13 (14 in a few weeks) and I think think it's irresponsible to have sex so young, and I think I want to wait until marriage or at least until I'm positively in love because it's supposed to be sacred and all. All of these girls are just throwing their virginity away like it's not worth 2 cents, and it bothers me.
Am I the ONLY person who thinks it's right to wait, or does it just seem like I am.

2007-12-23 17:11:34 · 90 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend has suffered some severe emotional abuse from me, at first things were great but then after about a year of us being together I started having extreme mental health and emotional issues like rage and depression and I'm so messed up on the inside, and because of me my guy has be drug down low. (I'm not making an excuse, I'm just explaining how I am). There have been some messed up things that have happened in the past. Things aren't even half as bad right now as they were like a year ago, and I know he's an adult and he chose to stay but I but now he is so messed up because of me and I just never owned up to getting myself to change until these past couple of months. I don't deserve him, I hurt him so much. I just want to know if it's possible to save a relationship after so much damage, because we both love eachother very much, he's so messed up about it beacuse he wants to be with me but not how it is while I'm in this messed up state hurting him all the time

2007-12-23 17:11:05 · 13 answers · asked by Southern Girl 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

is it right for a girl to get married after the age of 35 if she so desires. and what is ideal age of a life partner for this age.

2007-12-23 17:09:25 · 19 answers · asked by goldielamplit 1 in Singles & Dating

I have known my man for almost four years. We have been together for three. We haven't been as close as we use to be. Things change his hours change at his job. I still keep the fire going by sending him erotic pictures(email) of myself which he can't wait to open. Sometimes I think he wants me to have his child. The fact is he is married which I can care less. I have a feeling we will ultimately be together. I just need some pointers from guys on how to speed up the process.

2007-12-23 17:09:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know you couldnt care less when it comes to just sex.

Im talking more about a long term relationship.

2007-12-23 17:06:59 · 5 answers · asked by Sonja 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay I ahve a five year old brother and a ten year old sister. They annoy me SO much I will just be talking on the phone or soemthing and they will yell from the bathroom "RACHEL GET ME TOILET PAPER" and well I don't want to go in the bathroom while they are sitting on the toilet. At the moment I am on a family vacation staying at my grandparents. Of course they get there way over EVERYTHING its not even funny! So, my brother and sister will be spying on me hitting, kicking me and I get in trouble. I just want to beat my grandma up! She also keeps threatning to take my cell phone away or will pin me and let EVERYONE tickle me. She also ALWAYS locks us out of rooms or shoves us inwhen I was 9 she still tryed to force me into bathes with my sister. She also is very rude she called my sister and I big tubs of lard. What kind of grandma says that? I need help!

How do I deal with:
Grandparents
Siblings
WITHOUT being mean

2007-12-23 17:06:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-23 17:05:40 · 15 answers · asked by janey 2 in Singles & Dating

I talk to myself sometimes. No, I'm not crazy, but it just makes life so much easier for me, maybe not so much for others. I can have conversaitons in my head, rehearse them, then it feels like i don't need to talk to others. Strange, I know.

A couple of weeks ago, I went to a family party. Surprisngly, there was this guy from my high school, (same grade) that i never knew existed. So i was tryign to figure out who he was, and was going through some comversations in my head. I'm not sure, but i think i was staring at him too much. I didn't mean to, but i was zoning out.

ANyway, does anyone have any adivce or psychoanalzyses? LOL thanks;)

2007-12-23 17:05:34 · 10 answers · asked by Kalia 4 in Friends

2007-12-23 17:05:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-23 17:04:34 · 11 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Singles & Dating

I have been with this guy for about 8 weeks. We have only seen each other 5 times but he had been calling 2-3 times per day up until the 19th, said we probably wouldn't get together till after the new year. Well I called him 2 days ago,left message. Should I try to call again or should I assume he is too busy and not interested in me? Does he not want to bother with me??? I feel a call from him wouldn't be asking for much, but I guess I am wrong with wanting a call, to see him what? What did I do wrong? Should I wait for him to call or call him? Help!!!!

2007-12-23 17:04:27 · 18 answers · asked by liz 1 in Singles & Dating

u think it would affect the relationship, or do u think she would rather have someone else that would please her in bed?

2007-12-23 17:01:32 · 12 answers · asked by Jrm 3 in Singles & Dating

He's unemployed and no one will hire him because he's 'overqualified' (went to college and can't find a job in his field)
She's a homemaker but she's getting a job down the street to make ends meet.
They have a child together, but they rarely talk to each other. They usually ignore each other and go about their day doing various things, taking care of the child separately.
He runs to his parent's house across the street every other day to cry about how terrible she is.
She feels angry half the time because he's always depressed or complaining about something.
He refuses to go to couples therapy or take antidepressants.
He ignores her when she tries to argue out their problems, threatens to cut off his family then blames it on her, saying that she's trying to keep him from his family.
He drinks and refuses to quit no matter what she does and becomes whiny and irritable from the alcohol.

Is there any way this relationship can be put back together? The flames have died.

2007-12-23 17:01:09 · 22 answers · asked by Agnostic 2 in Marriage & Divorce

this guy i like is so secretive. he refuses to tell me some stupid things like his parents' names.

2007-12-23 17:01:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im in my mid 20's and my family is completely dysfunctional.

I've stopped looking to them for the traditional family roles, at this point, mom as mom, sister as sister, dad as dad. Thats just not them, apparently.

I dont use this as a crutch, at least I try not to, but Ive been let down a lot in my life.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this, and if so. How do you make it, how do you help yourself be happy and satisfied? I dont want to fall into the same cycle as they did, where nothing is ever good enough for them, and they cant let themselves be happy. It's not a way to live! I want to be happy!

Even one of my friends noticed, that there's no light in my eyes, in pictures. Its like im smiling, but its not coming from inside, its just on the surface?

2007-12-23 17:00:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

to pretend that it doesn't bother me & hold my feelings inside.
or is it better to let them out & agrue back to let ppl know how I feel?

2007-12-23 17:00:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Im a 20yr old single male. The women that im going after Ive already slept with her. She is 20 yrs older then me. How do you feel about a couple that is that far apart in age?

2007-12-23 16:58:28 · 43 answers · asked by Adam K 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and have yet to have an arguement. I know awesome right? WRONG, cuz now I fear saying anything that'll remotely start an arguement. Like I've been in abusive and destructive relationships my whole life and he's the first to be my friend first and honestly never degrade me. I love him so much, but now I'm afraid I say something is wrong and it'll come to a major problem. He says the only thing that would split us up is being unfaithful and/orabusing each other. He'd love to see me one day become his wife and he doesn't understand why when we were friends I had no problem saying what I felt. we were friends for a year before we got together. Now I just cry and say I can't tell him cuz I can't lose him. We've been through hell together and we've healed each other's broken hearts now we're loving openly. How do I say something without ruining a great relationship? Or am I just trying to hard to prevent the little arguements and starting big ones?

2007-12-23 16:57:49 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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2007-12-23 16:57:41 · 14 answers · asked by Chamillitary Mayne 6 in Family

support them ( no WELFARE) and it can get pretty expensive and i wanted to give them a better future instead of making kids and it becomes harder to take care of them. I know i did the right thing but i feel so bad and a lesser woman i guess i don't feel whole anymore. Am i crazy? for feeling like this?

2007-12-23 16:57:05 · 19 answers · asked by christine 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ever since I've met my sis in law 10 years ago, she is constantly starting arguments with her family. She's verbally attacked me and my husband all because she misunderstood something, &never apologized once she realized she was wrong. She's rude to her mother, she bosses her boyfriend around and everyone else in her family. She is starting to make it to where no one wants to get together for the holidays. Her family usually sticks me and my brother in law's wife, C with the cooking at their own houses. Then they insist everyone be there at a specific time because the sis in law wants it that way. This year, me and C bowed out gracefully to try to get her to understand how it is to plan it around everyone. She was hateful again saying she was "ready to get this shite over with"! After she was the one causing the uproar about where to have it and what time again! Should I suggest she get on some medication or is she just a ******

2007-12-23 16:56:43 · 6 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3 in Family

My mom gets so easily offended that it's hard to even talk to her sometimes. For example, some creepy guy she used to work with was giving my sister and I the eye... (the last time he saw us we were very young so it was very gross). Anyway, we kept joking about it later and she got mad and said "I can't do or say anything right." uh... it had nothing to do with her. She worked with the guy YEARS ago and it's not like they're friends. We were just joking around and she flipped. I almost just left... what do you say to that? She stormed off. It's so annoying.. like she's 10.

2007-12-23 16:54:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I asked a girl out and i started talking to her brother and she got freaked out that i was stalking her or something. she is in my first period class and we didn't talk to each other for two weeks. i started talking to her again and we are on good terms now. i still really like her and she knows that. What do i do now?

2007-12-23 16:54:15 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i've been in love with my best friend for 6 years. he's really, really shy..and he's never had a girlfriend before. we're both 17 now and senior year is next year, and then we're going separate ways to college. lately, though i'm just as shy and could NEVER think of doing this for real, i've been wanting to tell him. just go up to him and say "i love you" and tell him. he's so awkward and weird about that he'd be soo scared off, but i don't care. now honestly, even if you all tell me to totally do it and he might have the same feelings and we could fall in love or something, i probably won't do it after all anyway. i just need some reassurance that if i do it, it won't ruin both of our lives. and that i won't be making a huge mistake. has anyone ever had to tell their BEST FRIEND they were in love with them?

2007-12-23 16:53:54 · 13 answers · asked by . 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-23 16:53:43 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Whats with my friend's recent attitude?
So me and this girl have been freinds for like 7 years and we never liked one another just friend thing. After I broke up with my ex she really helped me get over her. Last week we went out along with another couple of friends and I guess I had feelings for her at that night and I flirted a bit and we looked at each other a lot. After that day everything feels different now when i speak to her online. She seems more cold and even now after i got over her she seems to one word answers and not even want to converse really anymore. I asked her if she wanted to go out and chill cuz i was gonna head out anyway she said no thanks i ahve work next day which is normal. Then I ask her if there is anything i did lately to piss her off she said no silly. Then just said bye...i dunno is it just me.. and I KNOW for sure she doesn't like me that way and has a bf too.

2007-12-23 16:52:43 · 3 answers · asked by yahoo 2 in Friends

I bought one of my closest friends a plane ticket in August to attend a wedding. She moved across country last yr and her niece was getting married, we thought it would be a good time for all of us to hang out but she didn't have the $$ for flight. I offered to pay for half but she still has not paid anything.. She has two kids and is single which of course always lends itself to expenses, but I told her I NEEDED it. Now, she rarely is calling, only left a message saying she is depressed and having problems.. Oh, and working overtime! So with the O/T why can she not pay up? Would u all be mad?

2007-12-23 16:51:29 · 25 answers · asked by Elle 3 in Friends