Call him, wait for him to call,or is he not into me?????

Question

I have been with this guy for about 8 weeks. We have only seen each other 5 times but he had been calling 2-3 times per day up until the 19th, said we probably wouldn't get together till after the new year. Well I called him 2 days ago,left message. Should I try to call again or should I assume he is too busy and not interested in me? Does he not want to bother with me??? I feel a call from him wouldn't be asking for much, but I guess I am wrong with wanting a call, to see him what? What did I do wrong? Should I wait for him to call or call him? Help!!!!

Hey guys I forgot to say we are both divorced 48 and I work every weekend and he is a cop working extra hours with his kids and grandkids in town.(but I do think hes only into me for sex as he wants me to do group sex and swinging and I just don't know on that)

Answer 1

Why did he not want to get together until after the new year? Does that mean he's not spending New Year's Eve with you? That is a bad sign. That means he's dating other girls and has not picked you to spend the big date night with. I wouldn't call him again. And start looking for someone else to date.
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NIXAY on the group sex!! Don't go for that. A guy that age who's been divorced and is into group sex is JUST out for fun. Please don't give him your time or your heart. Respect yourself enough to stick with what is right for you. Yuck, I've seen guys like that 100 times.

Answer 2

Hi Elizabeth A.,
It's difficult to be a young woman who is into a fellow when he's not sending clear signals. The fellow you're interested in may actually be into you but scared for any number of reasons - most of which have little to do with you. The most important thing you can do at this point is not take a position one way or another regarding this young man. If you do, you stand to lose it all. If you maintain your own personal dignity by appearing to not care whether he calls you or not (after all, you have a lot more going on than just this one guy, right?!?) you have absolutely nothing to lose. If, however, you choose to act as though whether or not he returns your phone call is a matter of national security then you stand to lose not only your own dignity but also any shot you have at a decent relationship with this person. It is ill advised to begin a relationship with a person with a deficit of personal dignity and that is what is at stake at this moment.
Hang out with a girlfriend, laugh about silly boys, and be happy regardless of this person. You deserve every happiness in the world - don't sell yourself short.

Answer 3

It seems very strange that he would be calling you 2 and 3 times a day and then suddenly nothing. Of course it is not too much for you to expect him to call and the fact that he hasn't shown the courtesy to return your call would also be troubling. This behaviour makes me suspicious, and I hate to hurt you, but it sounds as though he may have another interest. Something isn't right here. If I were you, I would NOT call him again and if he finally gets around to calling you, I would be aloof, polite, but indifferent. Make him chase you a little and if he doesn't, then at least you know that he isn't interested and you can move on and meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Answer 4

it sounds like he's been the one doin all the callin.
1. give him another call. guys need to be reassured of your feelings the same that you need reassurance of his. if he was calling that much before, i'd say he really likes you, but you need to carry some weight too before he gets the wrong idea.
2. it's the holidays and he's probably pretty busy, so don't get too upset. however, if you call him again soon and he doesn't answer, then you wait a couple more days and call again, and he doesn't answer, it's time to leave the ball in his court for good.

Answer 5

Just wait for him to call you. He has already told you that he wouldn't be able to get together with you until after the new year. Listen to him. Don't be needy and try calling again. Be patient because he is evidently busy. Look at your last questions.....don't ever tell him you asked all of those because it makes you appear really needy and clingy.

Answer 6

Calm down?

If you already called and left a message then calling again before the New Year is kind of nagging.
Wait it out, as hard as it may seem. If, after New Years he still hasn't called then call him.

Answer 7

I'm a guy so here's my answer. I would suggesting calling him again because guys tend to forget if you called him or not. If he doesn't pick up leave a message or text him. It's ok. Now if he doesn't respond after your message then give him some time. Good Luck.

Answer 8

are you guys officially together, or just talking?

if you aren't official, then just assume he's busy and wait for him to call you. I'm sure holidays have him busy

but if you are official, then again, you have nothing to worry about. he likes you obviously, and just tell him next time you talk to him that he needs to respect you a little and atleast call you to tell you he's gonna be busy so you don't worry.

i'm sure he likes you. you just need to wait and see what he does. i know it's hard to be patient like that, but it's all you can do.

Answer 9

Evidently, he had plans for the holidays. Be careful, this guy may be married. He may have to be with his family until then. If you plan to call at all, do it after the holidays, but as I said be careful.

Answer 10

ya know, that's a pretty good question. personally, i think you should try at least one more time. then Wait it out for a while, at least until a lil bit after you are supposed to hook up. don't Wait too long though, life is too short to spend it waiting. *A*