Am I alone in thinking this, or am I just being prude?

Question

There is a pregnant 6TH GRADER at our school and I think that is just terrible.
I also know a pregnant 8th grader, and one who has had a baby.
I'm 13 (14 in a few weeks) and I think think it's irresponsible to have sex so young, and I think I want to wait until marriage or at least until I'm positively in love because it's supposed to be sacred and all. All of these girls are just throwing their virginity away like it's not worth 2 cents, and it bothers me.
Am I the ONLY person who thinks it's right to wait, or does it just seem like I am.

Ohh..and I'm not judging anyone that has done it early.
It's not fair for them, considering I probably don't know them.

Answer 1

aw i agree. completely. 110%.

Answer 2

I think you are not only doing the RIGHT thing but the SMART thing as well. Yes, what is it worth if their isn't love or even commitment [marriage] involved. Do you know that having a child at such a young age puts a wear on the body and not only that it also takes away a good future for you and the child because you now have to raise that child and that is about 99.1% of your time just on that child.
So where is your education, fun being a teen, and college, along with hanging out goes? I really feel sorry for those girls that you know because their lives are gone they will never have the chance to take thier time and grow like young teens should. So give GOD, the glory that you have the wisdom the be able to understand what they have done and not wanting to make the same mistake yourself. Don't know you but I am proud of you and your parent[s] should be as well.

Answer 3

I agree with you, but there are many other reasons to wait that are more important than the sacred/virgin thing. These girls are not old enough to take on the responsibility of parenthood. They can't even be responsible enough to have safe sex. What if they get an STD, and what if the baby gets the STD? And is the baby going to have the involved father it deserves? Even if they plan to give the baby up for adoption, they are affecting that baby's life due to the high risk of complications in teenage births. To get pregnant at that age is just plain selfish, and to have sex is to risk getting pregnant.
You are NOT the only person who thinks it's right to wait, both my daughters do and they are 13 and 16. You'll be so much better off if you wait until you are older, wiser, more educated, and in love. Trust yourself.

Answer 4

The main thing that you need to remember is having a child that young means responisblility that those teenagers are not ready for mentally or emotionally. I am convinced that most teenagers should wait. I know that it is hard, but we all can practice self control. What is great about being human is a mind to think. It is important to not have sex until you are ready for the responsibilities it entails. Now will these teenagers be good parents? Sure I think so, but it will take a lot of growing up and work. I also think at 14 and 15 teenagers are losing a part of growing up and having to grow up way to fast.

Answer 5

One of the things that comes along with having sex at an early age is irresponsibility. That's why the girls you spoke of are pregnant, they didn't think about birth control only immediate gratification. That's why they're pregnant. It's too bad for them though, because now they have to be responsible for the baby they are going to give birth to. You thinking that you want to preserve your virginity for the right time and man is admirable. It's also admirable that you aren't judging anyone, but making a very good observation. You sound mature beyond your age. Keep that up and you should do well in life. Kudos to you. ';-)

Answer 6

Of course you're not the only person who thinks it's right to wait. Although it may seem like a huge amount, there's really only a small percentage of people who throw all their cards on the table so quickly in life, so to speak. I think 8th grade is outrageous, let alone 6th grade, but they may also be dealing with emotional and insecurity issues within their families, relationships, and bodies. They should probably get some doctoral exams and psychiatric reviews. Random pregnancy is not the initial problem; there is an underlying source of their mishaps. It's also possible that they were raped, and may be aborting the children, so I would offer my condolences if I were you, regardless of the situation.

Answer 7

Wait. Wait and wait some more.
I’m old enough to be your parent and I am sure that they would tell you the same thing.
But I will also tell you this. I did not wait. I succumbed to peer pressure. A lot later than most be I still failed. This last summer I met a wonderful woman who has saved herself for marriage. We talked about it a few times. I admired her and felt the same way about no sex before marriage. But more than once I would grow quiet withdrawing into my thoughts that I was not worthy of her. I remember there were a couple of times while I was driving that the subject came up. I was glad I had sunglasses on. I realized that long ago I had been unfaithful to the woman that would someday be my wife. I glanced at her and knew that someday I would have to confess to her. I had to look away from her as tears silently slipped down my cheek. I know that God may forgive me but I could not. And would she be able to? I could never bring myself to open up and talk to her about it. That may not be the reason but she is no longer with me. She is still chaste. I wish I could say the same for myself.
So yes wait. Not just until you feel you’re in love, but wait for marriage. If he loves you he will wait. The older you get the rarer and precious your virginity will be.

Answer 8

No i totally agree with you, i am a guy and totaly agree! yes there aren't far to many girls giving it away, it is trashy, and you do not want people to look at you that way. It is a sacred thing you have...hold on to it until you are sure about the guy. 6th is just wrong, that should of never happend, i didn't know 6th graders thought about sex. But yes ur 13 and that is way to young...way to young! Ur still a kid, don't worry about things like that, its not that great that you need to do it so young. Let all them girls go around and be trashy, in the end you wont be the pregant one, and the guys will want you more. We don't want to date whores! Keep ur virginity for now, and stay inocent!

Answer 9

Sex is a two way street. Pregnant but is there a father known?

I would hate to have my 17 year old son get a girl pregnant and think they would live with me or that the girl would have wasted so much of her life between 13, 17 and early 20s due to having a child.

But, when the hormones are raging, only an education in safe sex is going to help out.

I feel very sorry for ' children having children' and all that they will lose in their early lives.

Sarge

Answer 10

You are definetly not the only person who thinks this way. Sex is a very sacred thing, it's something of a treasure that you give to your husband or wife. Having dignity and respect for yourself by waiting until the time is right is an excellent choice and those girls probably don't hold very high standards for themselves. Sadly enough young unwed mothers is becoming more and more exceptable in our society

Answer 11

I think it commendable that you have such a good view on life and the way things should be. Try not to judge others though. Be very careful with expressing your opinions to others in your circle. Gossip spreads like cancer and you don't want any part of that. Yes, you should wait until you are mature enough to handle the consequences of such behavior. Continue in school and go to college. Once you have a great career and are settled will be a good time to have children. Remember, being active can result in pregnancy so if you are not ready for children be careful and use protection.