Family & Relationships - 27 December 2007

My father quit on me when I was 6 years old to be with another woman and help raise her 3 children. Up until that point when he left we were very very close, in fact he used to sleep with me in my bed sometimes because I was afraid of a monster in my closet. I know people say guys should be stronger mentally, but every since he left me like that as a little boy it really me. I'm 20 years old now, and I still need him. I don't feel complete. I actually write him 3 times every month in my journal as a way of expressing my anger towards him. I had actually saw the female who he left us to be with a few months ago, and she gave me a very dirty look. I don't know whats going on. I don't trust men, because i feel if I get to close to them, the'll just end up leaving me like he did. I am now on antidepressants, and i take medication for a weak heart, because I am constantly under high stress trying to find him, or trying to find a address to write him to reunite. I need advice.

2007-12-27 23:58:37 · 5 answers · asked by sam j 1 in Family

2007-12-27 23:57:36 · 11 answers · asked by lies_she 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-27 23:49:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

ok like i just wanna go to sleep and not be bothered after sex and she wants to snuggle and stuff and i dont wanna do that. how do i get her to leave?

2007-12-27 23:47:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when i moved n w/ my dad i was very depressed sucidal faling outta school anytime i heard a guy say something sweet id completly fall 4 it i was always drugged up not caring about life..2 years later im 17 last year in h.s. im honor roll student i work (not because my parents make me it was my choice) i have my own car that i bought i make my own decisons dont listen 2 what others tell me ....sorry...long story short i changed my hole life around w/ not very much help but im 17 w/ a 10 cerfew on week nights 11 on weekends no if ands or buts if i want to stay the night over a friends my dad told me he wants their address and home phone (really my dad is a super cool guy) and his g/f instigates everything so it makes matters worse i am very responsible but my dad dosnt see it all my friends tell me my dad is to strict but im kinda unsure about the situtation i need help if i sound like im wining just tell me or if u think i should have more freedom what should i say to them???

2007-12-27 23:44:51 · 8 answers · asked by i just do what i do 1 in Family

My partner and I have been together for approx 2 years.

He always has these crazy ideas that I'm cheating on him. It gets tiring hearing it over and over. I do so many lovely little things for him just to remind him how special he is to me, yet he still accuses me of being unfaithful. Sometimes I think that deep down he knows Im not, he just likes to reassure himself. How can I reassure him without being hounded all the time?

He also gets angry when I talk to his male friends, it makes me feel as if I cannot be myself around them or even be friends with them which is sad because we hang out with them alot.

One of his mates used to be my best mate (met my partner through him) and he hates me talking to him. When I do he asks everything we talked about and what we did etc

Hes always telling me what to wear, or how to wear something so that I don't get any attention. But I just want to feel sexy (not sluttly), thats ok isnt it?

What can I do?

2007-12-27 23:35:20 · 11 answers · asked by staralise 2 in Singles & Dating

he was coming home from work every night. we were everybody's ideal couple. i thought we talked about everything. then we had two kids together.things got frustrated and i did to.i started nagging a thing i didnt do before and the sex life slowly declined and we stop telling each other what was on our mind.byt all the while i still loved him and then he did the unthinkable and cheated on me.and think we could have worked it out before he decided to cheat. even though things wasnt right, i didnt go and cheat and i dont know if i should take him back.

2007-12-27 23:34:07 · 15 answers · asked by dangerously in luv 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 23:32:27 · 12 answers · asked by zwanamer 1 in Singles & Dating

I have been with my fella for nearly 2 years and we are getting married in July 08. I love him deeply and cannot stand to be apart from him, but he sex does nothing for me. I have a high sex drive and love oral sex (giving and recieving) but he is boring. We only have sex in bed (I love oudoor risky fun), which is a good idea at home as his 2 girls (3&9) live with us.....but never anywhere else. We have sex 3-4 times a wk, but its over in 5 mins with nearly always no foreplay. I have tried everything to spice things up, even sending txts to him at work saying what I want him to do tto me, but no luck. He has never given me an orgasm

Any ideas?? Would you ladies spend the rest of your life with a man knowing you will only have an orgasm if you DIY??

2007-12-27 23:29:44 · 44 answers · asked by cavviecath 3 in Weddings

yesterday my crush said yes to me to be in a relationship....
i m very happy now... but i feel to shy in talking with her...
advice me how to impress her nd on what topics i should talk with her.
its my first relation and i dont wanna lose it...
reply all

2007-12-27 23:26:17 · 14 answers · asked by ☜☆☞ 1 in Singles & Dating

i mean people might say that i'm just young but i mean it's difficult you know, highschool, and i see all my friends with either boyfriends or admirers and i have never heard of any guy liking me or even close to having a boyfriend. to the guys i just seem like a friend, never more. is it that i am just ugly? picture provided.

i know it's pretty lame to turn to the net for life's answers, but well no one else would answer me.

well here's a picture of me. http://i123.photobucket.com/albums/o317/LCKY94/IMG_2376.jpg it was taken only a few weeks back.

your answers would be much appreciated, thanx(:

2007-12-27 23:18:46 · 14 answers · asked by Leanne C 2 in Singles & Dating

I am not looking for joke answers.

2007-12-27 23:15:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Does it mean that they would like to have some

2007-12-27 23:09:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anarchy 3 in Singles & Dating

Do u ever wish you could just become a cold hearted *****, so u didnt have to feel pain, love,hatred ???I just want to cut out my feelings cos i cant stand the pain of not having him ad so much more... does anyoe know how to do this like hypnotherapy or something?? I know it seems drastic but i feel it would be worth it !!!!

2007-12-27 23:08:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What would you say a good number is for a woman who started at age 16 and is now 18? What about at age 30?

2007-12-27 23:02:33 · 11 answers · asked by jenny 2 in Singles & Dating

i'm in my first L-T relationship w/ a man few yrs older than me, everything feels right, we've not fought, together for almost a year. He has expressed he wants a future, shown me so indirectly. We always have a gd time together, we can talk openly about many things, he is so caring.

But,I feel he is un-intentionally unreliable, I've been patient but, it is irritating me, sometimes I feel I am there when he can fit me in...there are always things, like work or he is not feeling well - I know him to be truthful, I understand and let him do what he needs. While things have progressed positively,we seem to dance around each other, when we are together it feels right, we only have our good side to show.
Eg, he was waiting for me and i was waiting for him coz i thought he was busy to meet up and vv..

Are we too selfless to each other? am i selfish for wanting more from him and him to want more from me? should I just wait since it still feels new relationship? all views appreciatd :)

2007-12-27 22:58:42 · 8 answers · asked by dsarkdsamned 5 in Singles & Dating

Im working as software engineer earning 50K per month in India. I have working since 4 years. I am in love with a girl from 4 years. We to love each other. We decided to marry each other. When we spoke to the girl's father there was a strong refusal from. The reason for the refusal is the caste. We both are hindus but not same caste. Their parents are cruel and dangerous and they will do anything for the caste. They warned me that will kill my parents and me if i continue love with her. I am in very tensed situation from 3 months. Now the girls parents are searching for a boy to get her daughter married. So we have decided to marry wothout informing them. We dont have any other option, we tried to convince them a lot, but there is no use. The problem is what their reaction would be after the marriage. How can i stop them from harming me and my parents. I am in very tensed situation. please help me out.

2007-12-27 22:57:58 · 12 answers · asked by Pradeep 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-27 22:56:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

and why do gals like to say something when they actually mean another??

2007-12-27 22:43:55 · 20 answers · asked by KANASAI 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't know how to move on aftr a long time of being kept hanging on... My ex told me that he wants me 2 stick around coz im the only one w/ whom he can be open 2 about everything... id love 2b a friend and a listener, 7 just hope that the friendship will bloom in2 something else again... however, many of my friends told me 2 not stick around anymore, coz he's just making me his "reserve"... you think, i can still stay as a friend and just hope for the best that someday, he might like me again? Or not anymore, and just leave him? If your choice is the latter, how do i start moving on??? How do i teach myself to live with the situation? Please help me...

Man, i've been like this for 3 years.... Coz there really were times when he acts in little ways that only a boyfriend usually does... (holds my hand, getting too close, etc.) That's why i've never really lost hope... his actions had double meanings.. Help me please... I dont wanna be stuck anymore, and I just don't know how to begin

2007-12-27 22:42:24 · 5 answers · asked by pxyraeghll49 1 in Singles & Dating

i know it sounds bad but if u know how many men she slept with more than u and i can count on our fingers and toe together and still calls like none things even happens i dont want have anything too do with her

2007-12-27 22:41:41 · 20 answers · asked by greygoose9805 2 in Singles & Dating

how long do you wait before you know that this really is love and it is going to last?

2007-12-27 22:37:59 · 16 answers · asked by LBB 5 in Singles & Dating

Hi,

Me and my ex were unimates and we have been together for more than a year. He broke up with me last night because he says that he doesn't see us in the long term, and he is attracted to another girl who is his colleague. He has graduated and is currently working, while I am in my junior year. But he doesn't want to discard our period of relationship and regret it, so he is giving himself a week to figure things out. He keeps saying he doesn't know what he is doing, and he needs a little time. What does this mean? Do you think I should give him another chance? I was very serious with him, and we are staying in the same house, but in different rooms. I would deeply appreciate any advice and opinion/ perspective.

Thanks.

2007-12-27 22:37:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

okay so this guy never texts anyone, not even his best friend, and if you text him, he'll just ignore you

but a few days ago he texted me first and we talked for 3 hours through text and then after that we have been texting randomly and so idk i've liked him for awhile now so i'm sure he knows it and i also told he's best friend that i like him, and he said that he would ask him if he likes me back whenever he gets the chance, but the best friend hasn't yet so i'm stuck sitting here and wondering

but yeah i'm just really confused, or am i over analyzing too much? anyways, do you think he likes me? oh and the best friend even said that him texting me first was really strange that he did that cause he never talks to anyone, and he also said that it was a good thing

2007-12-27 22:35:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When speaking on yahoo messenger or MSN do you find more easy to give a naked picture of yourself to a strager from another country ?

2007-12-27 22:33:50 · 9 answers · asked by vietnam_ro2005 3 in Singles & Dating

its really frustrating!

2007-12-27 22:28:57 · 7 answers · asked by DXC Runner 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

my guy is 60 i am 33, we have been dating 2 months just 2 months he told me he didnt like doing all the heavy lifting in this relationship, paying for dinner it has only been dinner and it has only been 2 months,he knows my situation & that i have 2 kids its hard i told him give me sometime he said how much time u need and all that stuff, i havent treated coz i dont want to just coldnt afford it like he can all the time. he told me i wasnt going to change i would always be like this i just thought he wasnr being fair or was he

2007-12-27 22:27:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 16 years old and I have been going out with this girl for nearly 2 1/2 months now. It is the fastest relationship growth I have ever known. We met on 06/09, she had a bf, we fell in love by 15/09, 1st kiss 22/09, my feelings for her were growing so fast i couldn't control them so we decided to try to take it easy, she dumped her bf. 16/10 we started going out.

Basically, we have grown together so much it is inconceivable that I could spend the rest of my life with anyone else. Our roots have become permanently entwined. We have fought many problems and difficulties already and have decided mutually, that we will be together forever.

Yesterday, we discussed getting engaged. I really really want to, but, I am only 16. She is 17. If we were to get engaged I would receive so many lectures saying that its too soon to commit to anything, that you can't know a person well enough at 2 1/2 months, to make that decision.

I know in my heart that I will be with her forever. Is it too soon?

2007-12-27 22:26:22 · 24 answers · asked by Jeff 1 in Weddings

ok i have these:
funny
tan
knows when to talk and shut up
likes doin random things
adventurous
likes to party
brings gifts but not too much
loves music
doesnt embarrass or get embarrassed
lets you have what you want but say what i want too
aggressive lover but doesnt "push"
smart but a lil dopey
cute
doesnt get jealous but wont let another man get between- relationship
make you laugh when your sad
confort you when your crying
great with parents
loves allot but doesnt suffocate
works out sometimes
wont let you quit
sometimes drinks but not to the point of being a jacka$$ or passing out
occasionally smokes weed but doesnt let it controll me and is not a "pusher man"


lives with parents 14 years old



do you think i'd be a good boyfriend

2007-12-27 22:20:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm not in this situation now, but I know I will be eventually. How does a girl deal with a moody guy? Sometimes if a girl reaches her hand out to help, he'll just bite her. Especially if she's the cause of his pain (whether she did anything wrong or not). So guys? How can a girl help the man she cares about without agitating him?

2007-12-27 22:18:09 · 4 answers · asked by YearoftheRat 5 in Singles & Dating