My partner and I have been together for approx 2 years.
He always has these crazy ideas that I'm cheating on him. It gets tiring hearing it over and over. I do so many lovely little things for him just to remind him how special he is to me, yet he still accuses me of being unfaithful. Sometimes I think that deep down he knows Im not, he just likes to reassure himself. How can I reassure him without being hounded all the time?
He also gets angry when I talk to his male friends, it makes me feel as if I cannot be myself around them or even be friends with them which is sad because we hang out with them alot.
One of his mates used to be my best mate (met my partner through him) and he hates me talking to him. When I do he asks everything we talked about and what we did etc
Hes always telling me what to wear, or how to wear something so that I don't get any attention. But I just want to feel sexy (not sluttly), thats ok isnt it?
What can I do?
2007-12-27 23:35:20 · 11 answers · asked by staralise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy seems to have some insecurity as well as some control issues.
He's your boyfriend, not your mother -- so he has little if any business telling you what to wear or who to talk to.
It's not you, it's him. He's insecure and he needs to control you -- that's why he thinks you're cheating and why he tries to tell you what to do and what to wear.
Hope you don't mind me saying so, but this is a huge red flag. I can even see his insecurity and control-freakishness escalating into something more serious. I mean abuse.
If I were a woman and my BF were treating me that way, I'd sit him down and tell him to do whatever he needs to do to work out his control and insecurity issues -- go to counseling, whatever it takes. Otherwise, this relationship could be in serious jeopardy.
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2007-12-27 23:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's either really controlling or he's cheating on you. It's funny how we always seem to want to project our own shortcomings on someone else. If you've never given him reason to think you cheat on him, you show him you love him all the time, and he's going to accuse you of cheating and get mad when guys talk to you, he's probably upset because he knows what he does when you're not looking. Not only that, but it's pretty clear he doesn't trust you. Trust needs to be the cornerstone of your relationship. If you don't have that, do you really have a relationship with a foundation sturdy enough to build anything on? 2 years is a long time, but honestly where can this possibly go? He doesn't trust you, right now it's just boys. Later it will be money, information, boys, kids.... It's just a quality that makes for terrible relationships. Time to find a new boy toy.
2007-12-27 23:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong relationship to be in. Get out now because if it has been 2 years and he has not changed is only going to get worse. Would you like to have a child with him and if so think of how supportive he would be. If he accuses you of cheating don't you think he will accuse you of having relations with someone else and say the baby is not his. Is obvious he is insecure and needs some help but if you don't get out of the relationship it can get worse for you. If he is willing to get some help along side you it will be very difficult for you because chances are he won't see that he has a problem. Consult a therapist and ask them what you can do because in here all we can do is give you general advise and maybe not the right one for your case. That's why there are professionals that can help you consult one before you make a decision, but from what it looks like you do need to get out of the relationship with this individual.
2007-12-27 23:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by wiseornotyoudecide 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He is a control freak, and it will get worse the longer you see him. As far as accusing you, he may be feeling guilty about something he is doing. Maybe that is why he does not want you talking to his friends. The next step in a control person life is pushing, then hitting. don't stick around and wait for that one. Use those red flags to warn you right now of what could happen to you if you stay with this jerk!! Take it from someone that has first hand experience.
2007-12-27 23:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that your boyfriend is cheating on you. I say that because I have been in a relationship with unfaithful men...they usually get really controlling and mental when they are the ones doing the bad stuff. He has a guilty conscious and it will kill his weak a@% if you did half the stuff he is probably doing. Sorry to break it to you.
This kind of man is only going to get worse...if he has control/anger issues, I can almost guarantee you the problems are going to escalate...possibly to violence. Get out of this relationship while you can. There are too many abused women around for you to take this lightly.
2007-12-27 23:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by CoBo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a control person that wants to keep you down and maybe he has a guilty conscious from something in the past with you or someone else I think unless you like being in prison you need to move on .
2007-12-27 23:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by datsleather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has got some insecurities he is dealing with. Do you make him feel special when you are with others? Do you let others know how special he is to you when you are around others? Do you brag about hin to others? Show the world he is your king and he will feel better about himself. Do you think you are better than him? If yu care about him why would you not be respectful and not show off yourself to others. Hope I have helped. Best wishes
2007-12-27 23:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 04:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away from him. I'm serious. Besides, those who are jealous without any reason are usually unfaithful in relationship
2007-12-27 23:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by timekiller finaly wireless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is trying to dress you in rags..ugh
I HOPE he has the brain to let you dress nice
just tell him that if he loves you, he can trust you because if he doesn't trust you it's really hard on you. And if he loves you then he doesn't want it to be hard on you.
2007-12-27 23:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋