Family & Relationships - 28 December 2007

I was wondering if anyone here was ever in the same boat as me and how you coped with the situation....

Recently my partner of 8 years left me for somebody else she met whilst at work (within the space of a week). Her reasons for leaving were that she wasn't very happy and that this new guy made her feel as though she could be herself. I was shocked and still am shocked that she has gone as I was very happy in our relationship.

What is really eating away at me is the thought of her starting a new life (right this second) with this new guy. The intimate, effectionate and sexual moments we shared together (not three weeks ago) Its killing me and I was wondering how others haved coped with the love of their life gone and in love with someone else.

2007-12-28 23:57:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Its been the same story for years. my parents don't get along. my mom constantly wants to divorce my father because he is emotionally abrasive and hates her family for no real good reason. they are always fighting..my siblings are married and live in their town, but i am away at college. I really can't stand to come home to these problems..i listen to them talk trash about each other, but honestly the stress gets to me..and most of the time i can't wait to get back to my college city and my apt.

ive been home for about a week and half but its felt like months. i cant wait to get back on the 2nd so i can pay my rent and start school the 6th, but my dad makes faces at me that im leaving earlier than the school start date...i need a vacation too! i want to see my fiancee! i have a life too. they seem to think that i have no life because im a student.

they wake me up early , open my door to let the light in. they don't understand my clock is off from finals! i need rest!

2007-12-28 23:53:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My husband cheated on me a few years ago. That was the greatest shock of my life. Until now I can never forgive him. I always thought that divorce is the right choice for me as I don't love him anymore. I stay because I don't want my kids to suffer but I suffer more stay in the same house with him. What should I do?

2007-12-28 23:48:01 · 17 answers · asked by tiara 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents are 55 and 47, they really love each other, but they don't sleep in the same bed, and sometimes even sleep inseparate bed rooms.Believe me they really love each othetr and get along very well.Do you think they have sex.If you don't think so given this scenario, is it normal?

2007-12-28 23:43:24 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He left me two years back to marry a girl his parents had choosen for him.He says he still loves me and want to spend a day with me.He says he won't bother me again and that he will spend the rest of his life with those memories.He said pack a lifetime in that time.

2007-12-28 23:29:56 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I tend to stuff things out of sight. It's very hard for me to throw away anything. My closet is bursting at the seams,along with kitchen drawers, pantry shelves, storage cabinets etc etc.. He says I have destroyed his entire home with my clutter and crafting messes. It is so hard for me. Also he HATES me having our dog in the house, this is the hardest of all, because this dog means so much to me. She is my source of affection and I love her insanely.. My husband now looks at me with disgust in his eyes. He is hateful and mean along with no respect. We have three teenagers, a 5 bathroom home, and I feel like I'm cooking, cleaning and doing laundry all day to impress him when he walks in the door, and then when six oclock gets closer, here I am stuffing things out of sight again. My question is, Does this seem like conditional love? And is this really a valid reason for divorce? We've been together 14 years with full custody of his three kids,18,16 and 13 whom I consider my own.

2007-12-28 23:27:48 · 23 answers · asked by plantasmile 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A friend of mine just showed me a picture of a girl,she is beautiful, she told me she is 15 like me,she is sagittarius(like me) and i have her messenger ID before i add her want to know how to start to talk with her...

please?

one more thing she does fencing and i did fencing too :)

2007-12-28 23:20:49 · 11 answers · asked by Naked In The Rain 1 in Singles & Dating

He has a reputation of being a player. He called me up 5 minutes ago and told me that he was bored so he is writing on girl's walls on Facebook. Girls that he barely knows. Saying "Hey, how are you doing? I am having such a great winter break." He has written that exact sentence on 5 different girls' walls. What do you make of him?

2007-12-28 23:19:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've know this guy for a year and we have been messing around for 5 months now on and off and I fell in love with him and he says he likes me but he hasn't asked me out yet. we haven't been clear on where we stand right now like if we are just friends or friends with benefits.I don't know if he is just playing with ma feelings and I am just a bootycall to him. I haven't told him that I love him just that I like him a lot and I lost my virginity with him in the begining. he usually calls me everyday but he stopped callin for more than a month now but we keep in touch over the internet. please help me by answering my question thanks!

2007-12-28 23:16:45 · 11 answers · asked by traviesa 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

now i keep calling his cell and he is ignoreing me he said he wasn't going to bother me but he was the one acting lke a ma ma boy running to his mommy every time we had problems and she would let him stay there he is 43 and i am 33 now she says he can stay he has no respnsibility so i ask for him to come home leaving several cell phone calls he never calls or ask to see me?

2007-12-28 23:15:05 · 15 answers · asked by me 2 in Marriage & Divorce

http://img264.imageshack.us/img264/4200/n2053546381239107412ey8.jpg

which one of these girls is the prettier?

to prevent confusion, please go by the colors of their shirts (e.g. yellow or blue) so i don't wonder which left or right you're talking about.

rate from 1 to 10

2007-12-28 23:08:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband left me the day before Christmas Eve. We have been together four years and have two kids, one is his biological and the other he has raised since he was a baby. We have never spent a whole day apart the whole time we've been together. For the past two months, he's been cheating on me with a 17 year old girl that he met on a dating site. She is quite a bit less attractive than me, but she was a virgin before she met him. Our relationship wasn't alway perfect. At times I questioned whether he was the one and I often took him for granted and tried to drive down his self-esteem because of my own insecurities. He always treated me good and did everything for me until he met her. Now he went to go live with this girl and her parents and took our daughter with him. (I am a full time student and I work). Now I realize that I made alot of mistakes and I drove him away, but is it too late?

2007-12-28 22:47:21 · 21 answers · asked by Rena 2 in Marriage & Divorce

aaaaaaaaaa...my hubby has nt been faithful to me anytime,till nw ! I've profe of it!its nt any single girl bt its th CGs,he goes occasionally even nw. I loved him but got nothing in return in last 8yrs! But,best part is tht i ve 2 kids frm him who r my life nw!sm 3yr back a friend of his got closer to me and tdy our bond has become so strong tht he is doing everything to get me in his life.also to add, my kids love him as much as i do.Now we jst see our goal tht we will join 4ever.i'm happy and determined.wht do u say about my husband?to what extent am i wrong towards him??plz tell..

2007-12-28 22:41:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

- He's always mega polite when talking to me

- Whenever I offer to do something for him he refuses and makes sure I don't 'waste the effort' to get it

- Whenever he gives me hugs he gives me a really big one

- On my Christmas card and present, he wrote his name and three x's after it (like kisses). (Ok, if it was a girl then it probably wouldn't mean anything but boys don't do it that often, do they?)

- He always helps me

- He loves Ugly Betty (I'm known in my class as Ugly 'Becky')

What do you think, does he like me? Is he interested? Or am I just hoping for answers and looking too deeply into it?

2007-12-28 22:31:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Or just not speak to her for the rest of the day?

2007-12-28 22:29:33 · 28 answers · asked by Ahwell 7 in Marriage & Divorce

I haven't dated a girl since my sophmore year of high school, as I decided to focus on school. Now I'm in college, and finding it easier than high school in most aspects. I knew this girl from my high school that goes to my college, but I never thought much about her. After her boyfriend broke up with her we have begun to hang out more, and she talks to me often. Now that I've gotten to know her a lot better, I can't stop thinking about her. I want to ask her out, but she is still sad about her ex boyfriend. She always talks about him to me, telling me how much she misses him. I also feel as if she is "too good" for me, I don't have a lot of confidence in dating matters. She's told me that another guy told her how he felt about her and tried to ask her out but she nicely refused, telling me that she did not really want a boyfriend at the moment. What should I do? I don't want to make her choose between my friendship and a relationship but I don't want to miss my chance to ask her out.

2007-12-28 22:27:08 · 6 answers · asked by kirklandtp 1 in Singles & Dating

I know so many women freak about this, and I'm one of them. My Boyfriend went to France skiing and we were joking about him breaking his leg, because he did last time.

Now he hasn't texted me back, from three texts, and we're meant to be going out tomorrow. He should be coming home by now.

Do i just wait?

My imagination is going crazy, what if something actually DID happen? Calling him sounds like I don't trust him, i do trust him, I just worry too much.

Thanks.

2007-12-28 22:26:18 · 7 answers · asked by Pug Lover <3 3 in Singles & Dating

if you did was it strange or resentful?

2007-12-28 22:25:06 · 10 answers · asked by ????????? 3 in Singles & Dating

how many booty calls have you had in 2007?

2007-12-28 22:21:11 · 7 answers · asked by ????????? 3 in Singles & Dating

ive a close friend who has been quite depressed over the last year and ive spent alot of hrs listening an comforting them, luckily they seem much better now.but recently ive been down because of a run of bad luck and quite a serious personal problem this has all built up intill ive actually become ill. yesterday my friend told me that i make her feel depressed and is actually fedup of worrying about me and doesnt want to be around me whilst im so miserable. im devistated i feel kicked in the teeth after the amount of support ive given her, ive been up all night its so hurt me.i have already said im sorry she feels like that an ill stay away, she just said no i still want to be friends but to think about what she has said as shes happy to talk to me as long as it dont involve any of my problems

2007-12-28 22:11:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

interesting right?(you should star...lol)

2007-12-28 22:10:18 · 2 answers · asked by David C 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Basically.. This is the story short form.

I got 2 Chick mates, they are pretty good mates with me, and they are best firneds with eachother. Jess and Kelly.

Anyway, we hang around twins, peter and josh.. jess really liked josh and kelly knew.. but kelly still went and got with josh, they ended up going out blah blah blah.. even no kelly new about jess liking josh!!.. and now josh doesnt want anything like that to do with her, but she doesnt understand, and is so overportective with him, even no he doesnt like her.. now she knows how jess felt!.. i have feelings for Josh and peter.. but what do i do.. i like josh more, but i think i shud stay away cuz shes a best mate? but cant he live his life and do whatever he pleases?

help!!

2007-12-28 22:03:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my gf just told me that her ex licked her down under and she said he did it but she didnt want him to and she use to get beat till i beat the $*it out of him and i asked if he did anything else but it took a min for her to answer so does him licking her mean she lost hher vergenity and do you think they did more and she didnt want to hurt me?

2007-12-28 21:59:55 · 24 answers · asked by chongo89478 3 in Singles & Dating

i am in love with my best friend and i don't know how to tell him . once i told him i had crush on him and he said he had it too but we just kept being just friends . i really need help !

2007-12-28 21:50:49 · 10 answers · asked by marina 1 in Singles & Dating

My mother has got herself an internet boyfriend from America (We're from Australia). This has been going on for some months now. Mum is constantly on the net at home, stays up all night and gets up at 4am to talk to him. It's really starting to interfer with her work now too. She also plans on selling the house and leaving Dad and my younger sisters with nowhere to go, so she can go to America to be with him. She doesn't believe that she is doing anything wrong and believes she is being mature about it all. She believes she is in love with this man and that it's the happiest she has been in a long time, even though she will snap at anything. The whole situation is quite frustrating.

Any advice on how I can talk some sense into her? Thanks in advance.

2007-12-28 21:49:15 · 5 answers · asked by Alicia 6 in Family

Iam...quite smart...(i'm in the 99+ precentile rank) on our National something test..and a bit weird,,quiet..doesn't talk a lot..if anyone's the same and feels like talking with me sometime..email me...tnks..it doesn't matter what gender..

2007-12-28 21:49:15 · 6 answers · asked by AskMe 2 in Singles & Dating

.....that you can wait with???? a lot of guys have lost it, my guess is it to just get to know guys when they're quite young (in their teens) that way there is more of a chance that there are virgin guys, compared to when they start hitting 20+. or is the whole, wait till marriage thing, doesn't have to be both couple's but one person can have the personal choice of staying pure, in which, only they, not the other person, have fulfilled the rare special moment in waiting till marriage. wouldn't that be stink for the virgin because they would feel like they waited all that time, for someone who didn't wait themselves and has already done it, in other words not pure. wouldn't they rather like to lose it to another virgin?

2007-12-28 21:48:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend is totally against porn and says she considers it cheating. I don't honestly care because we are either having sex or I'm getting oral sex almost every night so I don't need it. I have been with her a year now and I haven't watched porn in about 8 months since she told me she didn't like it and she knows this. However, she feels upset that I would even consider using porn if we didn't have sex for a period of time. She knows she is irrational and that I am respecting her feelings on the issue etc. etc. The real question is there anything I can do to change her feelings or something else to help the situation?

2007-12-28 21:47:42 · 8 answers · asked by PeterG 1 in Singles & Dating

im 18 and i wanna know which of this those seven inches fit:
poor,mediocere,ok,average,above average

yes is about my penis cause (duh) i sjt wanna know how confident i should be im pretty confident always but i dnt wanna be over confident

sry for bad spelling

thanx evryone

to yahoo plz dnt delete this or my account

2007-12-28 21:43:17 · 11 answers · asked by Puertorican 3 in Singles & Dating

These emails go into quite graphic detail. I confronted both my Fiance and the other party but both say nothing happened. But in the emails, they were arranging to meet the following day at our house for god knows what. I decided to give my partner another chance because i believed him that nothing happened. Have i done the right thing?

2007-12-28 21:42:32 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings