My parents are 55 and 47, they are so in love and get along so well but I think they don't have sex??

Question

My parents are 55 and 47, they really love each other, but they don't sleep in the same bed, and sometimes even sleep inseparate bed rooms.Believe me they really love each othetr and get along very well.Do you think they have sex.If you don't think so given this scenario, is it normal?

Those of you that keep telling me to mind my own business....let me make one thing clear I am only asking coz I'm wondering if when me and my girlfriend get married one day we will be like them.We are young and love sex so I'm just wondering...dad loves mum so much and that's the kind of husband I want to be to my future wife....I am not prying... Just want to know maybe those of you that are that age can tell me.

Answer 1

It's kind of weird that you are so interested in your parents sex life. But just because they don't sleep in the same bed, does not mean that they aren't having sex.
Many older couples sleep in separate beds so they can get sleep. Maybe one of them snores or kicks while sleeping, causing the other to always be tired from not sleeping at night.
Be happy that they are in love, and stay out of their sex life.

Answer 2

If two people are really in love and are happy to get along in life without sex I don't see a problem with this.

There are many couples that are in love and very happy but prefer not to have sex for whatever reason,be it lack of sex drive,medical problems etc,that's just life,for some.

If they are truly happy,I wouldn't worry yourself over this.

Sex isn't the making of a real relationship,only part of it,but not for everyone.
Sex is too over rated these days, in my opinion.

I know a few couples that are very much in love but don't ever sleep in the same bed due to one keeping the other awake at night,like snoring,fidgeting or cos one is up through the night often and doesn't want to disturb the other.

Answer 3

I think it's a very honest scenario. Let's face it, sleeping together is very romantic and nice but, in the long term, not always very comfortable if one of you snores, or if one of you hogs the duvet, or if one of you wriggles around in the night.

So, yes, they probably do have sex and a loving relationship in every sense of the word. But they are probably honest enough to recognise that a good night's sleep keeps you sane and rational and enjoying life.

My hubby and I sleep together but, over the last few days when he has had stinking cold, I have slept in the spare room since it is more comfortable for us both. And, during my hot flushes, I often go to the spare room so that I can lie on the bed without covers, whereas hubby likes duvet and blanket on top which I find too hot.

Don't worry. I think it is very honest and sensible of them to take a practical approach to sleeping arrangements.

Answer 4

If they are happy then it is normal! They may prefer to sleep in separate beds for the purely practical reason of getting some decent sleep; it may be romantic to share a bed with someone but it sure doesn't make for a good night's sleep, especially if they snore or fart, etc. And it definitely doesn't mean they don't have sex just because they don't share a bed every night.

Answer 5

sometimes people sleep in separate rooms due to snoring issues or some other type of sleeping issue, you dont have to sleep in the same bed at night to have sex. Dont worry about whether or not they are having sex, just be happy they love each other. Your life may be totally different when you get to be their age.

Answer 6

oh dear, the innocence of youth! people grow into relationships & sex sometimes becomes less important. as you say, your parents really love each other, so whether or not they still have sex is of little or no importance. the problems arise if one still wants it & the other doesn't! they've obviously come to an arrangement that suits them & it's perfectly normal. while we're young, sex can be the be all & end all, & is the most important thing in a relationship. thankfully, relationships grow up. diane.

Answer 7

My husband and I are both 45. We have sex all the time and would never consider sleeping apart (I even slept in his hospital bed when he had to stay overnight). We are very happy. We have the type of marriage that works for us. Whether or not your parents are having sex, It sounds like they have found the type of marriage that works for them. Be happy for them. When you get married, you should strive for the type of marriage that works for you and not anybody else. Good luck.

Answer 8

What is "normal" anyway? I am sure they have something sexual they do but maybe one of them snores or moves alot at night, keeping the other one awake. Try asking them gently with respect why they don't sleep in the same bed. You never know until you ask.

Answer 9

Why do you have to know. It is very private. Maybe they have come to a point that they just enjoy each other's company and that is what really matters most. Sex is just an added benefit. If they are happy just by being together,then thank God!

Answer 10

I really wouldn't worry about what is going on between them in that respect. In fact, do you really want to know whether they have sex or not?
If you have any questions, the best people to ask are them! Even if that is a little embarrassing.
To be truthful, I don't really think it is normal for them to be sleeping in different rooms. Although I have heard of that tradition occurring within different cultures.

I hope that you find this helpful =^.^=!