How can I talk some sense into my mother?

Question

My mother has got herself an internet boyfriend from America (We're from Australia). This has been going on for some months now. Mum is constantly on the net at home, stays up all night and gets up at 4am to talk to him. It's really starting to interfer with her work now too. She also plans on selling the house and leaving Dad and my younger sisters with nowhere to go, so she can go to America to be with him. She doesn't believe that she is doing anything wrong and believes she is being mature about it all. She believes she is in love with this man and that it's the happiest she has been in a long time, even though she will snap at anything. The whole situation is quite frustrating.

Any advice on how I can talk some sense into her? Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I tend to agree with Joy.
However, I also think your mother is being very irresponsible. If a person is not finding happiness within their marital home, they shouldn't seek another mate without first trying to reconcile things with his/her spouse. If things can't be fixed, she should leave before she starts another romance. Has she left your father in the dark about all of this? How will he feel when she suddenly leaves, when she never gave him the benefit of trying to work things out? Also, why is she putting you in the position of knowing all of this, you are her child not her friend and advisor.
Sweetie, I think you should talk to your father, make him privy to the underhandedness of your mother. It may hurt him to know, but in the long run, it's a much better thing.
Good luck and Blessed Be
~Dawna~

Answer 2

Like mother, like daughter? Your mum is seeking a deeper life on the internet and so are you. This is a serious question and while you may get a well thought out answer from someone who is qualified to answer, this is actually a question you should be asking a pastor, rabbi, school psychologist, even a trusted teacher. You deserve a tangible person to see face to face. So does your mum.

I agree that your da doesn't seem to come into this picture. Are you able to tell him what is going on and ask for help? He deserves to know and not just have yer mum abandon you all all of a sudden!

Family Counseling would be great. Perhaps if you started with your minister or teacher they could recommend someone and give you suggestions on how to approach your da so he could suggest it.

I am praying for you all, dear one. It would be good for you if you started praying for your mum and this guy on the internet. If I was in your position I think I would be scared and mad. These feelings if not expressed can lead to resentment and hatred. A famous organization says that to pray for someone against whom you have bad feelings is to create a change in yourself. After all in the end, the only one any of us can change is ourselves. You cannot force your mum but you can be open and honest. Walk through the fear and into the life. It will hurt but it will be shorter pain than keeping quiet and only talking to strangers online.

Answer 3

mom is the adult why do you think she will listen to you are us for that matter you are painting half a picture we dont know the whole story as to how dad treats her and where is dad when mom is up at all times on the internet sounds fishy i just hope the man shes on the net with has been honest and up front i have seen some cases work out some didnt i ve had peoples tell me once they met there internet dates they were very deceive

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Your mother is missing something in her life, and it sounds like your father is not making her feel wanted or loved the way she feels she needs. I would suggest family counciling maybe she will realise that she really does have a family that needs her.