.....that you can wait with???? a lot of guys have lost it, my guess is it to just get to know guys when they're quite young (in their teens) that way there is more of a chance that there are virgin guys, compared to when they start hitting 20+. or is the whole, wait till marriage thing, doesn't have to be both couple's but one person can have the personal choice of staying pure, in which, only they, not the other person, have fulfilled the rare special moment in waiting till marriage. wouldn't that be stink for the virgin because they would feel like they waited all that time, for someone who didn't wait themselves and has already done it, in other words not pure. wouldn't they rather like to lose it to another virgin?
2007-12-28 21:48:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, why is everyone assuming i'm a virgin, it's a question! a discussion!
2007-12-29 10:15:11 · update #1
try thinking for yourself and not for those who lost it already or are thinking of losing it when opportunity comes. When you lose it, and finally decided the guy wasn't worth it, could you take it back (or even pretend it didn't happen)? The point is, men can pretend to be virgins or otherwise, there's no way you can tell PHYSICALLY. And even if you do find out the truth, it doesnt hurt them that much, would it? unless you'd dwell on it and ruin whatever relationship you'll have with a non-virgin.
As to us women, we should hold out for as long as we could. When it happenes, there's no way you could take it back, and the repercussions will take it's toll more on our personal emotions rather than on the people around you. People may or may not judge you for losing it early on when it wasn't right, but the one who decides as to when the time is right is just youself, and when you find youself regretting your impatience, it's just you who would suffer the insecurities. No oen can tell you or let you down but your own freaking self, so, just don't do anything silly unless you're mature (sane) enough to know and realize that all you have left to blame in the end is yourself
2007-12-28 22:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by eluded one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i mean yeah that would suck if you were the virgin and you were married to a non-virgin. but i mean, if you loved the person you were with i think you'd disregard the fact that they're not a virgin anymore. people make mistakes you know? i mean, if you were the virgin in the marriage, would you rather lose it to someone you loved (who wasn't a virgin) or a complete stranger who was a virgin? i think it's more of who you lose it to rather than making it a fair deal. the latter would be very dificult in today's society
2007-12-28 21:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by carrotco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remaining virgin is completely your ego and self satisfaction oriented confidence and it is not conditional as you feel. It is sacred concept to remain pure till the only one accepts you for ever. This myth is continuing since thousand of years and will remain for another same period. Remember, it is an Honor to remain pure and virgin and it is up to you to spoil it for the sake sex act for your partner & once it is lost lost for ever. You need not to bother at present what and how your partner would be, take care of self now.Best of Luck.
2007-12-28 22:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen. I was going to wait with this girl then she runs off and loses it to someone else, real nice right? Haha, well anyway, yeah I'm 18 I'm still a virgin.
2007-12-28 22:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by R.S.P. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u look that way, it is kind of sucks coz the virgin.... but the thing is its your or the person principles.... if the person believe that she should wait till marriage to do it, the the person set the boundaries for themselves not for other.... and i don't think whether the guy is a virgin or not but whether the girl manage to follow her principles...
2007-12-28 21:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Innocence isn't meant to be kept. don't go looking for pure people, because chances are you won't find any, and when you do, you'll find that saving yourself wasn't worth it in the end. don't make a big deal out of nothing is all i'm saying.
my first girlfriend was the epitome of pure, and it killed me to find out she wasn't a virgin. but after looking back, i realize it's not a big deal, so go out and have fun.
2007-12-28 21:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they would, no one says you have to wait till marriage anyhow. As long as you both mutually love each other then it's fine.
2007-12-28 21:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is greater effective to maintain your vow of virginity for 2 motives a million it exhibits you may save your be conscious and a pair of no count what a guy/woman will say to get what he /she needs ,they actually needs to be the 1st.
2016-10-02 12:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by brandl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So really you are saying, you will only love someone for their virginity.
I can just think of the words a man would be described as, if he were to confess to that.
2007-12-28 21:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok i dont get it .. do you want someone pure? if not, just tell him how you feel, and that you want to stay pure untill u get married, or marry a religious dude, that might work.
2007-12-28 21:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋