Family & Relationships - 28 December 2007

my boyfriend and i have been friends for nearly a decade (he is my best friend in the world) and i love him like mad. we have been dating for 4 months now. we have been talking about moving back to our hometown (montreal) together in a couple of years. i am so happy in this relationship, but im afraid moving out together will ruin it. i already told him i think we should get a two bedroom so we can atleast have our own 'space' to retreat to, as hes a bit of a pig (even though he tries!) and im pretty tidy, plus i like to have my own free time away from him every now and then. is there anything i should know or consider before jumping into this? anybody in long term relationships have an advice for me on how to make it last?

2007-12-28 01:58:18 · 3 answers · asked by creepout 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-28 01:57:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-28 01:56:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

or is it just too mills and boon ??

2007-12-28 01:56:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He left his email open at my desk, and when I sat down I see "Hi Honey!" and the email of his high school sweetheart. I investigated. It appears that for July, Aug, and Sept he has been in contact with her. She lives in CA (we're in CT) and they were planning a weekend together, talking intimate, him telling her how miserable I make him. He claims that we were going through a very difficult time. We were. He claims that he knew I was on my way out. I was until he begged me to stay. So he may have considered us seperating, but he never told me that. There were also other girls from dating websites. As far as I know he didn't see any of them, only exchange emails and talk. All this contact with the others stopped end of September, and we've been great since then (until yesterday)But I thought we were great at points in July and Aug to. I can't get the words he wrote out of my head, "when we're in each other's arms" to his ex. I feel so stupid. I feel if I stay I would be condoning it.

2007-12-28 01:54:04 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I;m confused,it makes me scared that i might not be able to get over my broken heart?

2007-12-28 01:54:03 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been talking to this guy a lot lately
and I told him today that I cant skate
so he offered to teach me
and we're going to the skating rink on monday
i am so excited that he asked me
and excited to learn how to skate finally
lol
and i know he's excited to go
why am i nervous to go?
it will be our first time with it being just the two of us
we are not 'going out'
or 'boyfriend and girlfriend'
any tips to avoid any awkwardness?

2007-12-28 01:51:41 · 23 answers · asked by Katers 2 in Singles & Dating

I had an ex bf that forced himself to have sex with me when i was 17yrs old that was last yr n I didnt bled, but I was a virgin

2007-12-28 01:51:06 · 3 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

Is it wrong to break up with a guy because he has low confidence. He is always pouting and I can tell he is comparing himself to my ex boyfriends all the time. He keeps thinking little of himself. I felt bad at first and tried to help, but now its just annoying. He is always quite and it sorta ruins my fun. Would it be wrong for me to break up with him because of it?

2007-12-28 01:50:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Boys did you buy lingerie for your girl and was it hot or not, what'll you do if she returns it.

2007-12-28 01:49:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

shes extremely clingy to me when ever she comes down to visit she grabs me does what ever she can to be with me its makeing me really uncomfortable im 17 so i think u can see why ive asked her to stop but she only got sad and walked away what do i do
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2007-12-28 01:46:00 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

about moving your wedding date forward by seven months? im toying with the idea of just getting married with our kids an two witnesses present. im not too keen on receptions as there are family issues that i cant be bothered with. i must also be the only woman on the planet who has decided they do not like the frills and fuss that comes with a wedding. does anyone think this is a good idea?

2007-12-28 01:44:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-12-28 01:43:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-28 01:42:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My father has prostate metastatic cancer, which in itself is terribly devastating. However, there is much more. My parents are divorced and he is now married to a woman who is an alcoholic, she is violent, mean, manipulative, controlling, hateful, and abusive, among many other things. She likes to cause trouble for everyone in her life and now she has decided to do that with me. She isn't allowing me to talk to my father or visit him. I don't know what to do, who knows how long he has, it could be years or days, I don't know. I am having a hard time dealing with this and don't know what to do. My father and I have had a very rocky relationship and it has just been over the last few years that we have come together to be as normal as can be. I don't think I have any legal rights to him, I would like to have some control, but I don't think that is possible. This woman is making it very hard for me to deal with this. I just need some advice, I can't seem to handle this anymore.

2007-12-28 01:42:19 · 9 answers · asked by loveandpeace 2 in Family

my best friend broke up with her longest bf of 2 years about 3 months ago. she was really sad and it hit her badly, which is how anyone would be in that situation. we just got into college (we are 16). i noticed this really hot guy and we had a lot of eye contact, and i thought maybe something would happen. he would approach me, but i realised whenever he did he would be a little too touchy feely (put his hand around my waist, carress my shoulder etc). i also heard rumours that he was trying to get with other girls, and that many other girls were interested in him. so i lost interest, because a player isnt my type of guy. then my best friend phones me and says she likes him and he tried to kiss her. i told her that he was slightly flirtatious and i didnt think he had the right interests. she got mad at me and ignored me, and i didn;t know what to do becayse i knew she wouldnt tell me about anything else that happened with him if i was pesmistic. so i shunned my previous feelings aside,

2007-12-28 01:41:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Whenever he is around his friends and I at the same time he's a COMPLETELY different person. He pokes jokes at me (sometimes incredibly rude ones), he swears a lot (he RARELY swears around me), and he just seems so much more of a "manly man".
Whenever he's around just me, he's a kind-hearted, good natured, perfect man. I understand that men feel like they need to make a good impression in front of their friends, but he's 24 years old! It's like he does a complete 180 whenever he's around his friends. It almost makes me not want to hang out with him and his friends anymore.
Also, the people he hangs out with aren't good at all. They always encourage him to cheat (which he assures me that he would never), and they all cheat on their girlfriends.
I just don't know what to do -- his friends have been around much longer than I have, and he's the love of my life... but I can't stand his attitude when he's around his friends, and I really think that they are bad influences on him. Help!?

2007-12-28 01:39:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Be honest............!

2007-12-28 01:38:32 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

busy shedules make the day exhausting and sometimes we get upset due to lack of peace of mind and overexertion.
It leads to stress.
what to do ?

2007-12-28 01:38:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-28 01:38:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My father passed away 9-13-07. His wife and step daughters decided that I should not be invited to his memorial because they do not agree with the feelings I had toward him. I loved him dearly, but he treated me badly in the end, despite my efforts at peace. I believe his feelings toward me are the direct result of my stepsisters and stepmother's false accusations about me. They accused me of horrible things, none of which were true, but since they lived with him, and I lived a state away, they succeeded in turning him against me. I was apparently left nothing in his will, but have no way of finding out, but thats not what concerns me most.
My question is this. I have NO idea where his remains are. I would like the opportunity to visit his grave, considering I was denied attending a memorial service. The only problem is that these step relatives wont answer my calls, and I believe he's buried on their property. How can I find out, and what are my rights as his only daughter?

2007-12-28 01:34:27 · 8 answers · asked by DeaRae T 1 in Family

I have been good friends with this guy for 8 yrs. We've always had a thing for each other but due to other relationships weve never acted on it. Recently though while he was deployed in Iraq, we started some sort of online realtionship talking everyday and decided to try something when he came home. When he got home things seemed to be going ok. We had sex right away for the first time shortly after he retuned. The problem is that while it was nice, it was very quick. I felt really awkward around him and we avoided each other for about a week. When we finally met up again, everything seemed back to normal and he told me he had been avoiding me because of what happened and he felt weird. Well we ended up doing it again that night, and again this time, it wasnt any better! So now things are back to being awkward again. I really care about this person and would like a relationship, but dont know what to think. Is he just using me or does this sorta thing really bother a guy that much?

2007-12-28 01:33:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

everytime i move on he suddely reappears how does he know

2007-12-28 01:30:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I went on a few dates with a guy that seemed very nice and sweet and I was attracted to him. A few days ago I was round in place we started kissing and he led me to his bedroom.

He just seemed very clumsy and nervous. He was not good at foreplay and he ejaculated about a 1 minute after I masturbated him and his penis was very small. Then he tells me it usually takes him a good 20 minutes before he is ready to go again. We did not have intercourse, He said to me - "may I enter you" and it just seemed so wrong and cold. I just asked him to give me a back massage and that was it.

He really is a nice guy and he is 35 who has been in relationships before. But that episode really put me off and I am not sure if I even want to try again.
He keeps on messaging me and sending me texts. How do I tell him?

2007-12-28 01:26:25 · 12 answers · asked by raggyann 3 in Singles & Dating

My parents were divorced when I was 12. Now, I'm 19 years old, and I live with my mom, who is now a single parent. My mom always wanted to find a new husband and live happily. She had a crush on a married man 3 years ago, and I was very angry at her, because I know how it feels to have a father who has an affair with someone, and that's why my parents got divorced. Now, my mom's new crush is a widower whose wife was dead 3 weeks ago. The problem is, this guy is from a middle class family, while my mom is a very successful woman, high educated, with a high salary job. I don't find that guy is suitable for my mom, I don't ask my mom to marry an oil tycoon either ... I just don't agree with her choice. My mom is angry at me now, she kept telling me that I invaded her love life and her privacy. I didn't mean to disrespect her at all. I just don't want her to make the same mistake.

Am I really invading her privacy? Am I wrong?

2007-12-28 01:25:18 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

When do you know its just gone too far?

2007-12-28 01:22:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

itsnt it gorgeous? http://a1000.g.akamaitech.net/f/1000/806/12h/images.theknot.com/GownDesigners/jennypackham/knjenpf07papil.jpg

2007-12-28 01:19:58 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-12-28 01:16:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am in the process of checking out these new invitations and it is a toss up between the Seal N Send Invitations(which are much easier) and the Regular Invitations.
If I decide to order the regular invitations, what do I need to purchase? They have all these things listed with the invitations that come with it.
Examples: The Invitation, Outer Envelope w/ printed return address for invitation, Lined Inner envelope for invitation, Reception Folder, Respond Card and Respond envelope Informal Note. What is all of this and what do I need to purchase?
These are not my invitations but I attached a link so you can see what I mean under the invitation and also a link for the seal n send invites.
http://www.annsbridalbargains.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns0747&sCatalogCode=WedEnsVA&iStartRow=1&lCriteria=969&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsVAa&vid=A05EB3E992
http://www.annsbridalbargains.com/CasPage1B.cfm?sEnsembleCode=CasEns00764&page=1&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=
Help!

2007-12-28 01:14:05 · 6 answers · asked by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 in Weddings

How did you cope meeting your inlaws?

2007-12-28 01:12:51 · 30 answers · asked by Ginny Jin 7 in Marriage & Divorce