I went on a few dates with a guy that seemed very nice and sweet and I was attracted to him. A few days ago I was round in place we started kissing and he led me to his bedroom.
He just seemed very clumsy and nervous. He was not good at foreplay and he ejaculated about a 1 minute after I masturbated him and his penis was very small. Then he tells me it usually takes him a good 20 minutes before he is ready to go again. We did not have intercourse, He said to me - "may I enter you" and it just seemed so wrong and cold. I just asked him to give me a back massage and that was it.
He really is a nice guy and he is 35 who has been in relationships before. But that episode really put me off and I am not sure if I even want to try again.
He keeps on messaging me and sending me texts. How do I tell him?
2007-12-28 01:26:25 · 12 answers · asked by raggyann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably has not had much experience, at least with sexual activity since you say he is a perfrect gentleman. Also, his request of "may I enter you?" tells me he hadn't been in that situation before. You say he has been in a relationship before, is that based on what he told you, or you knew the girls/women he dated & they told you? I think he made it up, because he's probably a virgin.
2007-12-28 01:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest but polite and firm.
Tell him that you're sorry but it's not going to work out. Let him know that he is a nice man but you don't feel any attraction for him and he deserves to have someone in his life who feels that way for him.
This is a case where you need to make a clean break. Anything else would be leading him on and giving him false hope that you will change your mind. Tell him to please not call or text you any more. Do not respond to his calls or texts after that.
2007-12-28 09:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave him just yet, you can change that if you have the time and patients. You will have to make him feel comfortable out of the bed before you make he comfortable in bed. The small thing, well there is no helping that, unless your a firm believer in the size doesn't matter, its the motion in the ocean. ----May I enter you--- I don't ask, but what a perfect gentlemen
2007-12-28 09:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. If he can't perform any better than that, he needs to have his ego destroyed for his own good.
Don't waste your time on him, there's plenty of us out here who can perform. Yeah, I know, you want a guy to be nice too, but nice only is so boring. You deserve a guy that's exciting and fun. Don't settle for less because guys like me and some of the other guys I see answering your question....we don't settle. Oh, we're 'nice', but we're exciting too.
2007-12-28 09:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by The Icon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him for Ten Thousand $Dollars when he say no then you tell him this relationship is not working! If you're too nice to do this then you can always be honest, I'm sure he heard it before.
2007-12-28 09:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him straight up. 'I don't want a relationship with you.' Sometimes people need to be hit in the head with the full truth in order to back off.
2007-12-28 09:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal♥of♥Iris 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run Forest, Run! He may be nice but unless you want a truly boring and unsatisfying life in the bedroom....RUN!!
2007-12-28 09:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him about how you think, be honest, who knows, maybe he's also testing you or what..but whatever it is, just give him a chance since he is a nice guy...
and how about, try to teach him, it'll be fun, u could dominate him...
2007-12-28 09:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by hp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and say it. Let him have it. He outta be ashamed in the first place. He knew what he didnt have down there.
2007-12-28 09:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by LOVELY25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to buzz off! Direct ? yes, but it's better to do it that way.
2007-12-28 09:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋