My father passed away 9-13-07. His wife and step daughters decided that I should not be invited to his memorial because they do not agree with the feelings I had toward him. I loved him dearly, but he treated me badly in the end, despite my efforts at peace. I believe his feelings toward me are the direct result of my stepsisters and stepmother's false accusations about me. They accused me of horrible things, none of which were true, but since they lived with him, and I lived a state away, they succeeded in turning him against me. I was apparently left nothing in his will, but have no way of finding out, but thats not what concerns me most.
My question is this. I have NO idea where his remains are. I would like the opportunity to visit his grave, considering I was denied attending a memorial service. The only problem is that these step relatives wont answer my calls, and I believe he's buried on their property. How can I find out, and what are my rights as his only daughter?
2007-12-28 01:34:27 · 8 answers · asked by DeaRae T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would have gone no matter what, but had no idea where it was held, no announcement, it was hidden from me. I agree that I wont find peace by visiting his remains, but would still like the opportunity. Thank you for your responses, I will check with the Legal Adviser and my City Clerk.
2007-12-28 01:48:00 · update #1
First, I'm very sorry for your loss.
You need to contact your lawyer about your rights. If your father is buried on property now owned by your step-mother, you cannot go on the property without her permission. Where I live, private property burials are still done and it's not that uncommon.
As for your father's will, if he left you anything then the executor of the will is legally required to contact you. However, that doesn't mean that he/she did, especially if the executor of the will was your step-mother. Go get that lawyer honey.
2007-12-28 01:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First so sorry for your loss of your dad and you should have gone no matter what anyone said.
Are there other people that you could ask? Also you can call the cemetaries to see if he is buried there.
As far as anything legal too much time as passed to contest any will. It has already been probated - 12/13 would have been the 3 month deadline. You can call a lawyer for a free consulation to see since you are so close to the 3 monthtime period
2007-12-28 01:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Private property burials are almost non existent. But just call whatever funeral home took care of things, and ask where interment was, and they should tell you. It may also be listed in the obit in the local paper, assuming it was published.
As far as rights, it depends on his wishes in his last will if he left one. If he didn't, you would have a right to at least a part of his estate, but only an attorney could answer more on that question.
Good luck on your quest.
2007-12-28 01:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by oklatom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong but I don't believe you can bury human remains on your property.
Secondly, you could check with the local cemeteries, as the keepers usually have a list of names and locations of the deceased. My guess would be that your stepmother buried him locally. I don't know if the Town Hall there keeps records of those things, but you could try that also.
I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you are able to resolve this.
~Dawna~
2007-12-28 01:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to mourn the death of your Father and find where he is buried.His wife and step daughters cannot be judgemental in their actions toward you no matter what happened previously.It could be that you were trying to protect him from himself.You must continue with the quest he was your flesh and blood.You have Legal and moral rights and trust you will continue to fight for them.
2007-12-28 01:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by realdolby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His will should be public record, check with the city clerk where he lived. As far as his remains go, that's not your father, and you wouldn't be visiting him. I'm sorry for your situation, but its over and done and you can't change it. Your father made his choices in life, and his wife made her choices after his death, visiting a grave will not bring you peace. Talk to your minister about this.
2007-12-28 01:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact the funeral home in the area and ask where was his body send to be burried. Explain your his daughter if need be show your birthcertificate as proof.
2007-12-28 01:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONSULT THE LEGAL ADVISOR.
2007-12-28 01:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by indrajeet d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋