my boyfriend and i have been friends for nearly a decade (he is my best friend in the world) and i love him like mad. we have been dating for 4 months now. we have been talking about moving back to our hometown (montreal) together in a couple of years. i am so happy in this relationship, but im afraid moving out together will ruin it. i already told him i think we should get a two bedroom so we can atleast have our own 'space' to retreat to, as hes a bit of a pig (even though he tries!) and im pretty tidy, plus i like to have my own free time away from him every now and then. is there anything i should know or consider before jumping into this? anybody in long term relationships have an advice for me on how to make it last?
2007-12-28 01:58:18 · 3 answers · asked by creepout 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I really think you are doing a good thing by suggesting the 2 bedrooms. I cannot tell you HOW MANY friends I have that have moved in with boyfriends/ girlfriends and the relationships have just gone to s.h.i.t.s. Although you two have been friends for a while, you still only have been dating for 4 months. While you know each other well, there are some parts of each other that you may not know that will surface now that you all are intimate (?) and if not intimate you all are closer on another level. I am in love with my boyfriend now and wouldnt want anyone else right now...but...I dont even want to think about moving in with him because something just happens (some/ most of the time) when couples move in and it jeopardizes the relationship. BUT, who knows? yours may work out fine. Just make sure you arent rushed into anything and do what you feel is right.
Good Luck!
2007-12-28 02:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been in dating mode for only four months; if you were moving in together tomorrow, I'd tell you to slam on the breaks and get your own place. But you're talking about moving in together in a couple of years. Honey, in a couple of years, you could be engaged or married to the guy! I wouldn't stress about it right now; wait until the couple of years pass. A lot can happen between then and now.
2007-12-28 02:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the flow! It'll work out if it is meant to. Although dating someone you have been friends with for a long time can be a bit unusual because he knows just about everything about you, and you are used to having time away! So just make sure that you are able to go out from time to time without him and have fun!
2007-12-28 02:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋