about moving your wedding date forward by seven months? im toying with the idea of just getting married with our kids an two witnesses present. im not too keen on receptions as there are family issues that i cant be bothered with. i must also be the only woman on the planet who has decided they do not like the frills and fuss that comes with a wedding. does anyone think this is a good idea?
2007-12-28 01:44:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it is a great idea, i wanted to just have my daughter and his daughter at church (undecorated) and go out to a nice restaurant after wards. But had a big, nice, do it your self wedding, I planned everything and I wound up very tired, very broke and very stressed, Take a nice vacation or honeymoon and don't forget to have some one take pictures, congrats, have fun
2007-12-28 08:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
NO....you are definitely not the only one on the planet with this idea. With all the stress of wedding planning...who needs it?
I think what you want sounds great! I had a small wedding (30 years ago) with about 75 people there, but I always wished that I would have done something more simple. Back then there were not as many options as now....everyone just "went with it" because that's all we knew!
I would do as you WANT! You will be happy in the end. If your fiance is fine with it, then I would go for it!
I hope you have a beautiful day and a happy marriage!
2007-12-28 06:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT the only person who hates all that stuff, I am totally with you.
The only way I was able to stay sane at the reception was by doing our own thing. We didn't have a reception line, we didn't go around to each and every person to thank them for coming, we went against "Tradition" in many ways. If anyone was upset about it, I never heard a thing. We ate, we danced, we drank and if people came up to my husband and I, we talked to them...otherwise we partied with those who chose to party with us.
I refused the bridal showers and all that other cr@p women want to do for you. I am not into it.
In this question, I will go with all the others who often give the stock answer of "its your wedding, do what you want!" Those who don't like it will get over it.
You could always do what movie stars do and invite a whole bunch of those closest to you for a "dress up party" and get married right then and there....and then tell others who ask why they weren't invited that it was spur of the moment!
2007-12-28 04:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, this is exactly what I would do if I got married. I couldn't be bothered to go through the whole organising thing not to mention the money it costs. Marriage is between just two people and it is what they want that matters - not what other people think. Personally, I would just get married as you wish (just the kids etc) and then pick a pub/venue and tell your family if they wish to join you at such and such place you will be there from x time - all are welcome, if you want to come, come. If you don't, don't!
Have a lovely day whenever it is!
2007-12-28 01:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you , your fiance, and your kids are game for the idea, then go for it. Just make sure that you talk to anyone who has been already involved in the wedding and let them know what you're doing. If you don't want the fuss of it, then just do it how you want. Good luck.
2007-12-28 01:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should listen to your heart and do what's best for you. I had a couple of people at my wedding that I now later regret. They did some stuff and I got very depressed in the weeks afterwards because of the way they went on. I wish I hadn't invited them now.
It's YOUR wedding and YOUR day and you deserve to have a happy one that's free from trouble or nastiness.
Good Luck â¥
2007-12-28 01:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not the only women on earth that doesn't like the huge wedding idea... i think its a great idea to do what you want. what makes you happy is the most important thing. if you have a huge wedding your not going to enjoy it more than likely..... and you will have thrown a huge party for people that don't appreciate all the details and hard work that goes into planning an event like that.
2007-12-28 02:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lipstick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to get married with just our parents, our siblings, and a couple of friends. However, the mother unit swears we can't have our friends and not have the rest of the family. Unfortunately, I must bow down to her will.
Go for it! Escape the drama of extended family members and the stress of planning every little detail for over 50+ people.
2007-12-28 03:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anouk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not the only one who hates frills and fuss.. if you want to avoid the family drama.. then by all means move up the date of the wedding. My friends (professionals).. mothers (His and hers).. basically became momzillas when it came to their childrens wedding. They told the moms they didn't want an elaborate ceremony, and there was alot of mud flung on both sides... so they decided to get married down in the u.s. virgin islands in february.... well the moms found out the plans...and my friends up and decided to move up their date to christmas of this year.. and took their 3 kids to vegas.. and got married. HA! Heads are gonna roll when the momzillas find out.. haha.. I wish you much joy. :)
2007-12-28 03:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is what they two of you want to do it then do it. If you don't want all the fuss then don't have it after all its your wedding and you must do what makes you and your husband to be happy
2007-12-28 20:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋