should I be ashamed?

Question

I had an ex bf that forced himself to have sex with me when i was 17yrs old that was last yr n I didnt bled, but I was a virgin

Answer 1

You have nothing to be ashamed of.

Your first time was rape. You need to talk with someone about that. Stop having sex until you have dealt with your issues about the rape. Until you learn to get past the bad feelings about your first time, you are not going to enjoy sex as it was meant to be.

As to not bleeding your first time. Not all females are born with a hymen. And some of them break during rigorous exercise or through horseback riding. If you don't have one or you broke it another way, then you won't bleed your first time.

Answer 2

not every girl bleeds. I never did. It doesnt make you weird or unnatural. You need to try to get past what your ex did to you (and tell someone what happened!) because if you dont get over it, then your ex-boyfriend won. I would strongly consider therapy to work through your emotions.

Answer 3

no but u should tell somoeon what ur ex did b4 he does someone else like that. its ok if u feel that way. u should tell someone