My husband cheated on me a few years ago. That was the greatest shock of my life. Until now I can never forgive him. I always thought that divorce is the right choice for me as I don't love him anymore. I stay because I don't want my kids to suffer but I suffer more stay in the same house with him. What should I do?
2007-12-28 23:48:01 · 17 answers · asked by tiara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it go. You cant live that dream anymore. There are so many opportunities to give your children as a single mother. Dont let someone who makes you miserable stand in your way of being happy. Your children NEED to see you that way.
2007-12-28 23:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Headiedoll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you feel. I am going through the same thing you are right about now. I stay with my husband for the sake of my kids and I was the one that suffer as well as my kids. We was sleeping in separate rooms and trying to do the room mate thing but I wasn't happy at all. So I just left about 9 months ago and I feel so much better. I think you should get the divorce I think you will feel alot better. If God didn't put the two of you together sometimes it just want work. Just pray about it,but always remember you have to be happy as well as the kids. If you are not happy the kids want be happy. If you need to chit chat more just email me. DIAMOND30302003@YAHOO.COM
2007-12-29 09:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. My circumstances were different, but I stayed 16 years in a marriage because of the kids. If you think you are keeping your unhappiness from the children, you are wrong. You have every right to feel the way you do about his unfaithfulness, but are you certain no love is left? Are you certain he no longer loves you? Time does heal wounds, and maybe deep down there is just a little spark that could regrow with a little help. (counseling for both of you) If no hope exists, leave him and find some happiness in your life. You deserve it and have been hurt enough.
2007-12-29 07:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce. You suffer staying in the marriage. You ever think your children may also suffer too from staying in relationship. My parents got divorce when i was young. I didn't understand but when i got older i saw they were better off and more happy. Your children will see that as well.
2007-12-29 07:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Robert W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him and he takes care of you forgive him and don't get divorced. It sounds like you don't love him anymore because he cheated but we both know that's not true. Once a couple gets married they are no longer in love. Look at all the married couples you know are any of them truly in love!??!? Or do it for your children!!! Why you ask? That is easy. Once you get divorced and meet another man he will cheat on you too and maybe worse like beat you!!!
2007-12-29 09:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Cheaters keep cheating. Questions to ask yourself: Do you have a place to go? Are you able to support yourself and your children? Do you have friends or family willing to give you emotional support, and support your decision?
Sorry to say, but all marriages were not meant to last. If you don't love him anymore, Leave. Save the kids the heartbreak of growing up in a dysfunctional household. Move on. You'll thank me for this advice later. Good luck to you and the children.
2007-12-29 08:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids need a happy cohesive environment. If you are not happy how can you expect them to find happiness in their life? Try a separation - your animosities towards your husband might be the reason you say you don't love him anymore. "For the sake of the children" is not always the right answer and in the long run could cause your children to have animosities towards you.
2007-12-29 08:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sidelines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can't just stay with someone u dont love anymore just for the kids. When they grow up and u explain y u and their dad didn't stay together they will understand, it may hurt them now but they'll get through it. They still have a right to see their dad.
2007-12-29 08:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Chloe.L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce, but do it maturely. My parents divorced when I was 12, It was so hard. I suggest you talk to your kids during the entire process. If you do choose to go with it, PLEASE dont keep your children from their father, threaten him with the children, or talk bad to them about their father. Even though it may be true, whatever you have to say, dont say it, to them he is their super hero, and really it scars a person if you talk like that. Also I dont suggest you get into a relationship quickly after the divorce, give the children time, at least a year. It may be hard on you, but remember that dating affects them aswell.
2007-12-29 08:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by angelprincess146 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to forgive him or you can't move on. You will still be miserable even with a divorce if you can't move on. It is very hard to forgive someone, but it is even harder to live with bitterness and hate. The kids feel it too.
Forgive and Forget
2007-12-29 08:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋