He left me two years back to marry a girl his parents had choosen for him.He says he still loves me and want to spend a day with me.He says he won't bother me again and that he will spend the rest of his life with those memories.He said pack a lifetime in that time.
2007-12-28 23:29:56 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's what you call a GUY. He definitely knows how to play you. THe question is will you fall for it.
2007-12-28 23:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dr D 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am currently facing the same situation, and I have very strong feelings for him. However I'm not falling for it. He left me to marry another woman and has two children with her. I agreed to meet him once after he begged me for "closure." I chose to meet at a open area where we had no privacy for any sexual encounters. He looked ever more handsome than before. I thought he still had feelings of love for me. But from this meeting I learned one thing: he probably never even loved me in the first place. He basically after his sexual gratification. Didn't care about me. Didn't even remember I used to wear glasses while we dated years back. All the while I was busy trying to hold a discussion for "closure," he was busy pestering me to bring him to my house. Even had a bottle of my favorite alcoholic drink that he put in some lemonade that he had bought for me. We sat in his car and I figured it was almost impossible to hold the closure discussion because he couldn't keep his hands off me. So I left him at the parking lot of the restaurant, got in my car and went home. When I texted him to tell him I hope he arrived home safely (he had driven 1 hour away to meet me) he kept saying how mean I am, how disappointed he is that I refused him. He sent me message again telling me how much pain I was causing him, and that he was still hurting from the "hard on." Even though I wasn't necessarily for the idea of meeting him, I am glad that I did, because I got a chance to see exactly what an ****** he was and is, and that it gave me the feeling of having gone back into the past to be with him and walk away from him. He still texts me on my facebook begging me to send him pictures of my private parts and I'm having none of it. I am proud of myself for not yielding to his demands and respecting myself as a woman.
2014-08-01 06:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to give him closure by giving him a swift kick in the nuts. He is a b*stard who just wants to play up on his wife and to mess with your head. Never allow this sort of selfish swine to even talk to you again. Also offer to telephone his wife to tell her how he needs closure if he ever contacts you again.
Best wishes to you for a Happy New Year. You deserve better than some stinking left overs from somebody else.
Cheers
Lisa
2007-12-28 23:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be immoral but who can say what's moral and what's not. But then you need to think of the consequences not only ten times but many many times. If your going to do this, will it help you in anyway? or it will only make you feel disgraced or bothered? It had been 2 years already and I know eventhough you were hurt before you already learned to accept the situation. And girl, you were able to survive after your break-up so why mess-up? It is really up to you...
2007-12-28 23:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by mitchell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very romantic and may be true but it does sound like absolute cobblers. Hes bored of having sex with his wife and wants sex with someone else and thinks you are available. His mummy and daddy told him who he had to marry for f***s sake! Hes a buffoon and a gimp! Tell him you love opera or ballet or something similar and that it would mean the world to you if you both went to see one instead of shagging and see how quickly he does a swift U-turn! What an absolute nob! Really - do not do this to your self!
TM.
2007-12-28 23:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by trkmonkee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My exhusband has tried the same thing. I just laughed at him and told him sorry but you had your chance and what makes you think that I would want you now. Some guys are just looking for a easy piece of a** . Don't put salt on old wounds . Besides he already has enough memories , tell him to get a old picture and have his way with it
2007-12-30 04:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer006961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants intimacy with someone he had real feelings for at one point. Probably doesn't have real feelings for his wife, if she was picked by his parents and not him.
It wont be closure though, it will be an ongoing thing. Even if you two were to never meet again afterwards, if he's living in those memories he'll be continuing to cheat on his wife.
Got to tell him no. He married someone else, he needs to accept that or get divorced.
2007-12-28 23:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by CSE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's in it for you? He's married! There's no future in it for you - is there?
Of course, if he is thinking of you after two years, what is wrong with his "arranged" marriage? Sound like he is looking for more than just a day.
When I start thinking about old girlfriends, there is something very wrong with my current relationship. And historically, it ends pretty soon.
Only you can decide.
By the way, if he leaves his wife for you, will he in two years ask her for closure?
2007-12-30 01:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Yoshi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do no longer do it. NO. If he can not settle for that he's not for you. intercourse at a youthful age is risky. you haven't any way of understanding in case you physique is waiting for it yet, and you do no longer p.c. to do any harm. regardless of in case you employ risk-free practices you're able to do harm. there is likewise the legal factor of all of it. that's going to be unlawful. additionally in case you do and he is going and braggs approximately it to his friends. which will in no way be sturdy the two. that's a foul theory of his and you ought to be careful! think of roughly what ought to take place in case you split up back. do you p.c. him to flow around bragging which you place out? will you have the skill it stay that down in school? What if be conscious have been given decrease back to your parents approximately this? How could they react? that's a foul theory. Please do no longer do it. rejoice with your little ones as a newborn. intercourse adjustments each and every thing. there's a reason its defined as loosing your innocents.
2016-10-20 06:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not have sex with him. Operative word here is "married". Your feelings don't matter to him because if he just wants to have sex with you to have closure that's not ok. What about you? Are you that expendable? Tell him you aren't for sale, tell him you respect yourself more than that. Tell him to have a nice life!
2007-12-28 23:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly and say no. Cut all communication with him. He is married and he dumped you for marry someone else. Someone who is not able to fight for your love, deffend the love does not deserve you.
Send him to the hell.
Tell him to have the closure with his wife.
He just wants to use you and after do you want to be the mistress?
2007-12-28 23:36:36 · answer #11 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋