Family & Relationships - 28 December 2007

i found out that a girl i know was hit by her father. shes 19 but still no one should ever be hurt by their parent like that. the girl took it hard, ran out of her house, to her friends, and broke down. but her best friend calmed her down and shes now sleeping. why do people do that to their children though? its just wrong. i would never hurt my children like that if i ever have any. and i would never let my husband do it if i ever get married.

2007-12-28 15:13:41 · 3 answers · asked by Princess LovAngel 4 in Family

when i was really little my dad was a horrible alcoholic and my mom divorced him, he went through re-hab and was sober for a long time then on christmas my sisters and i went to his house and there was beer in the fridge, and this means he drinking again doesnt it? i dont even want to go ober there any more is that wrong? and my step mom will leave him to save herself, she has been a recovering addict and she will leave him. i just dont know what to do i just want to scream i dont want him to drink and i dont want him to die and i just dont even want to go over ther please help me!

2007-12-28 15:11:40 · 9 answers · asked by miss madi 3 in Family

We met online and did talk dirty I must admit.

We met again 2 years later and he said he has been looking for me since, but he rarely calls or texts me.

He is always saying that he thinks I am not attracted to him, or that I don't like him, but he can be too touchy feely for me sometimes and I told him I like to talk things slow. Again he says he thinks that I am not attracted or like him.

He has also asked me to start watching sports with him, talks about us in the summer, blah lbha blah

I wanted to test him so I asked him to sleep with me, he said "maybe someday".

We haven't fooled around or anything.

2007-12-28 15:09:54 · 9 answers · asked by Okay Hero 2 in Singles & Dating

My dad is always bugging me and my bro (twin) and is always yelling at us for no reason.
He yelled at me when my bro and i didn't even mess with the connection upstairs, my cousin and my bro spilled soda on the floor and suddenly yells at them and tells them they are stupid kids, he even watches movies on the computer and got a virus on my bro's laptop and my old computer that i gave him.

He is always acting like he is the smart one in the house, and i can't even yell back or fight back he always thinks he is the head honcho of the house.

He always stays up late watchin movies and tv and is ******* stupid cranky in the morning which i hate.

My mom and my bro always go to school and my mom goes to work while he just goes to sleep, eat and watever he does around the house.

He also yells at my mom when she doesn't take money.
My mom tricked to see if he would take money out of the secret hiding spot and he did, he says he didnt and just starts up and fight and damn its dumb

2007-12-28 15:07:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He is 16...doesnt want to work and doesnt want to go to school and is rude and disrespectfull to everyone in the family. What should we do?.....all he does is eat and sleep? Help? any advice would be good?

2007-12-28 15:03:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my friend told me the other day that me and my boyfriend look odd together. i dont know why, but it bothers me a little that she said that soo now im a little insecure about it. it shouldn't matter, but for some reason it does, soo i just need opinions.
do we look cute together?

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2007-12-28 15:01:19 · 20 answers · asked by =) 3 in Singles & Dating

i am married and i got married 4 months ago...he dosnt say i love u and he hardly kisses me and when he wants sex he practically jumps on me and when i want to he says he dosnt want to...he also calls me names..he calls me from hoe to **** to even b**ch...he says he is just joking around when he says it and i have told him more then a thousand times to stop....i told him when u "joke" its funny the first few times but after that its not funny anymore and it hurts...i love him and i can't leave him cuz divorce is something i am strongly against...he was never like this when we were dating...today i was dancing to some music in the privacy of our bedroom and i was goofing off and he told me to stop and that i cant dance he also tells me i can't sing when i sing to fav. song....will u guys give me some advice please....idk what to do...im done crying...i am at the point where i am ready to sleep on the couch (because its his bed and he dosnt have to do anything he dosnt want to do)

2007-12-28 14:58:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well my bf jake and i have been going out since december 17 and i havent told my parents about him yet... i dont talk to them about that stuff so how do i bring it up to them?? im going to a party w/him in january if that helps you any...i told my mom about the party and who was going but thats all... so how do i tell at least my mom that i have a bf...
thanx bunches!!

<3himlots!!

2007-12-28 14:57:05 · 9 answers · asked by SamanthaAnn 3 in Singles & Dating

All my friends live in town, where I go to school, which is like 30 miles away from my house. Everyone is out going to movies, parties, and just having fun while i'm stuck here because my parents are always working and i cant drive. I never go on vacation or do anything, pretty much all i do all day is watch tv and go on the computer. Except for the U.P., i haven't left the state since 4th grade (im now in 8th). How can I make my life more exciting?

2007-12-28 14:57:04 · 10 answers · asked by Katrocious 5 in Friends

2007-12-28 14:52:00 · 24 answers · asked by ames 3 in Singles & Dating

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I get told I look like I'm 15 or under not exactly 18. I turn 19 in a week though. :[[

2007-12-28 14:50:46 · 38 answers · asked by Helen 1 in Singles & Dating

I asked this question the other day, and only got a few real responses, I'm going to ask again, hoping more people read it and give their story.

What does your marriage mean to you?

Be honest with yourself, what does it mean to you? Why did you get married? I ask you this because i have found myself having to face that question recently. And as simple as it may seem, you would be amazed how far you will have to go to prove it, if you see it too late.

While we are being honest here, I have treated my wife poorly for 3 years. I ignored her, and I took her for granted. Many people, my therapist included, blame the fact that I suffer from PTSD for the fact that I push my loved ones away. While I know that this accounts for some of my actions, not all of them can be counted towards my PTSD, I still hurt my wife, it was me, and not some mental disorder, that caused the pain. I'll not go into details, but trust me, I took my wife for granted and while I would never lay a hand on my wife, it was still an abusive relationship. The only difference is the kind of abuse, ignoring the woman you love and asking so much of her with giving nothing in return can sometimes be just as hurtful as a physically abusive relationship.

At the beginning of the summer, my wife was stationed overseas on a 1 year unaccompanied tour. This means that my son and I were not allowed to go with her to this station. After she left, a lot of issues came out that she never brought out when she was here. Angry words were exchanged, and we had our share of bad arguments. I was unaware of it at the time, but after this big argument, she cheated on me with a guy she knew there. I would never excuse such action, but I can honestly say, I never gave her much of a reason not to. It hurts now that I know this. Now, Christmas has just passed. My wife came home for Christmas, but more to see our son and her family then to see me. She and I have spoken and act civil, but there are still problems. I have worked out much of my issues and am working on dealing with all of them, but there is a long way yet for me to go. My wife stays across town at her parents' house, she has stayed with me here 1 night, and my son usually sleeps there with her. She stayed here the night of Christmas Eve, and I was happy for that, but it wasn't the same. We talked that night, and that is when I confronted her and asked her and she admitted to having slept with another man, and it kills me to think of that. In the space of 3 and a half years, I took a loving marriage that had all the potential in the world and destroyed it. I will admit, there was wrong on both sides, and what she did was not right, and it kills me to think she will be going back for the last 5 months of her tour and she will be there with him. We agreed that we would work this out, and most of that will come when she gets back and we go to her next station, but I don't know how much she feels that is true, or how much she cares to work it out. She promised that so long as I don't screw up between now and June when she returns, we will both move to her next station and work things out from that point on. My marriage could be over, and when it comes down to it, I have no one to blame but myself.

I am asking this question, not to get advice, but to give it. How much does your marriage mean to you? Guys, stop, get over your selfs and look past your stupid pride, and take a real honest look at your marriage. Do you tell your wife you love her every day? Do you tell her she means the world to you? Do you call her for no reason, just to say “I Love You”? Do you remind her every day why she married you? And tell her that you are lucky to have her? Ask yourself what your marriage means to you and what you would do to keep it. If you are honest with yourself, you know if you treat your wife how she deserves to be treated, and you know what is coming if you don't. Don't let yourself get in the way of your marriage. Stop, take the time to tell her what she means to you, your marriage may well depend on it, because you never know when it all about to fall apart. And when it falls apart, you'll be lucky to try to hold the pieces together.

Remind her why she married you, and tell her that you love her, she deserves to hear it, even if she knows.

2007-12-28 14:50:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I been traying to separate of him a lots of times but i always back, Im beautiful and Im lowyer, nice person but with a **** relation, please help me....
Apologize my redaction but Im in Mexico...

2007-12-28 14:48:06 · 1 answers · asked by Zereb 2 in Singles & Dating

ts like the best years of my life im not living ot the fullest and i should be but i have moved alot and had to make new firends at every school i juss feel like im not an average kid i stay home all the time and play world of warcraft or play xbox live when i could be out doing something better but its like im not a normal kid because u see all these other kids going to parties and the movies and having fun taking myspac epics acting crazy and juss hanging out it juss seems i can nver do that stuff idk wut to do give me some advice i mean i play sophmore j.v. football and i have no problem talking to girls but idk wuts up

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2007-12-28 14:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-12-28 14:45:53 · 3 answers · asked by zarmeena k 1 in Weddings

2007-12-28 14:45:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

ok i ask this guy a simple question (well what i think is simple) and he just avoids it!

2007-12-28 14:44:15 · 20 answers · asked by sweet and hyper 1 in Singles & Dating

and its not one of those "who cares what your friends think" kinda things. because i think he is too but the dreams are changing my mind!

2007-12-28 14:43:03 · 5 answers · asked by Famous_ina_SmallTown 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-28 14:42:12 · 3 answers · asked by kristinabby 2 in Family

I don't drink as I'm an alcoholic. I've been sober about 14 months. I find that when I am around people drinking I get uncomfortable particularly if everyone is getting drunk or if I'm around people drinking for more than three days in a row. I don't like having alcohol in the house either and my husband's drinking makes me tense. I don't get "tempted" uncomfortable, just uncomfortable. However my husband happily drinks and thinks that I'm being a control freak for getting uptight about it. Like the other day he'd had 5 glasses of wine at a function and even when I said I would like him to stop he had another 2. He's also been drinking every day for the last 8 days including when we were on holiday with drinking family members and we got home and I thought yay, no alcohol today then he has a beer cause he's "thirsty". Am I a control freak? Should I be trying harder to accept the fact we live in a drinking culture? How can I sort my prob with husband and also not feel like a killjoy?

2007-12-28 14:37:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am 38 yrs. old and have been married to my high school sweetheart for almost 20 years. My husband is 39. We have a 17 year old daughter and a 8 year old son. The problem is my husband just doesn't seem to be interested in sex anymore. It's not that our sex life was boring or at least to me it wasn't. I was always up for anything. And I don't feel like I'm unattractive. He isn't any more tired or under any more stress than he has been in the past. I've tried to think of all the reasons he might not want to have sex with me and can't come up with any. If anyone has any suggestions or ideas please let me know. Thank you for your help.

2007-12-28 14:36:37 · 23 answers · asked by morgant2008 1 in Marriage & Divorce

im 22 and my boyfriend who is 29 say i can take controal.of it and let be the laws decition... they dont want me moving out with my bf cause they dislike him 100% and think that my anger is all from them hateing my bf ... wrong it from the comments i hear them say thing about my bf and his family and to me .... like to night my mum told me not to something in certion place and i told im going to and i was going to put back in the room were i got it from.... and she though i was being scarcastit...(spelling) and them my dad didnt like what i was saying to my mum and threated me and i went to room crying after my dad threw my bf cell (which im useing) on the floor and it take 5 mins to get it on and a nother 5 to call some one.... my bf paied 400 for it 3 yrs ago and im just using till i grt a new phone tomorrow .... now my bf says if they do any thing else more to me the cops well be called and my dad well be in jail i dont want this to happen what can i do and am i righ age wise??

2007-12-28 14:36:29 · 11 answers · asked by notsoshort23 1 in Family

Theres a guy thats in love with me for 2 uears. he keeps on repeating me how much he loves me everyday .. the problem is that the feelings i have for himare not the same as he has for me. i dont like him and even though i tried to make my self start doing it i dont get nowhere.. my parents like him and keep on repeating me how good he is and that i should be with him but i just cant. i cant change the way im feeling. how can i make him move on without hurting him? what is the right way to do it?

2007-12-28 14:36:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my boyfriend came home with a cell the other day and told me that one of his friends gave it to him for x-mas. so when i called the guy to thank him for it he said he never gave him a phone. i called my boyfriend and he said his friend is lying but i found texts on his phone from a girl saying why did you turn off the phone, i miss you, ect... what should i do? hes making me feel like an idiot. hes saying its all in my head but i know something is up.

2007-12-28 14:35:20 · 10 answers · asked by sarca1313 3 in Singles & Dating

my ex-husband has physical custody of one of our sons and i have the other one..well we both have joint legal custody of both the children...he wants to leave the state he lives in and let my son live with his friend in the state he is leaving..he told me i have no say in this because he has physical custody of this child..i told him yes i do ..so is he allowed to leave my son in the care of a friend of his to live while he resides in another state and i also live in another state...if he does leave my son with this person can i have him taken out of this home and sent to me since the father doesn't want him to live with him...

2007-12-28 14:31:20 · 13 answers · asked by pebbleshny 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel that huge chunks that made me who i am have gone and have left me a shadow of the person i used to be. can i find myself again or am i gone?

2007-12-28 14:31:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Don't say stuff like "it depends on how long you went out" or something like that.
I'm just asking, how hard is to get over someone your really liked/cared about?

And teenagers:
How long did it take you to get over some1?

2007-12-28 14:30:24 · 16 answers · asked by ♥ღαsнℓэч vαиэssαღ♥™ 4 in Singles & Dating

Often I hear girls say that it would be so much easier being a guy because of blah blah and guys say that it would be so much easier being a girl because of blah blah.

that's all easy to say, but do you honestly believe that? Are there any guys who think that you have it easier or any girls that honestly think you have it easier?

2007-12-28 14:26:51 · 32 answers · asked by pieninja 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-28 14:26:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-28 14:24:06 · 15 answers · asked by itsme.agin 2 in Family