2007-12-28 14:24:06 · 15 answers · asked by itsme.agin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, lets just say he doesnt like my mother and is very blunt about it
2007-12-28 14:29:52 · update #1
we have been married for 4 years and off and on him and my family have not gotten along, he has been disrespectful and he is vocal and judgemental and believe me im not saying my family isnt but, im stuck in the middle and the kids deserve a good christmas and my family has just asked that i stop by with the kids for an hour or so..needless to say he is ticked off and said im not thinking about him..what do i do
2007-12-28 14:37:31 · update #2
I think you did right, let the kids see their grandparents and have a nice time there.
It sounds like he is the one who needs to s**k it up and behave right. I don't blame your mother for not inviting him. Why should he be rude to her, he doesn't have to live there.
2007-12-28 17:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact is, your husband probably knows that whatever he said ticked off your family. Just because your family and your husband have issues with each other doesn't mean you should suffer for it. That's not right.
Like you said, the kids deserve a good Christmas and to see their relatives. Drop by for an hour or two, but spend most of the day at home with your husband. Your husband should suck it up and realize that when he married you, he also married your family.
2007-12-28 15:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you should not go if your spouse is not welcome there. The Bible says that a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife, so she is your main companion that you have to depend on in this life and you should not go anywhere that she is not welcomed. If they love you then she should be allowed to come just for the love that they have for you.
On the other hand, your wife may have some real issues and your parents may have a right to be offended by her. But if you have decided to stick by your wife's side despite her shortcomings then you should not go to your parents house even though their gripe with your spouse is valid.
2007-12-28 14:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by kc_nupe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother in law and his wife isn't invited to my in laws for the holidays or ever anymore. She is verbally abusive to him and trashes the family. I told him as long as they are married she will always be this way with the in laws. So this year for Christmas eve he spent with the in laws with out her, and spent Christmas day with her family. If they want to act like jerks then they can sit at home alone. Your children shouldn't suffer because your husband isn't nice to your family. You shouldn't either! I hope you continue to visit your family!
2007-12-28 15:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would your parents "uninvite" your husband/wife? Need a little more info to make a decision.
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EDIT: Saw your note about your husband not liking your mom. Still not sure who to side with. I can't stand my fiancee's mom because she's mean and disrespectful to him (her own son). So I can see both sides. It's a tough situation.
2007-12-28 14:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Pooty Pootwell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's think about it. Your parents, depending on their age, will probably be around for another 20-40 years. Your spouse, however, will be, most supposedly, the person you will have to deal with for the remainder of your life.
The question is, who do you have to deal with the longest?
2007-12-28 14:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i think you need to have a pow wow sit down with all of them.
Explain to them that this isn't fair to you or the kids.
tell hubby if he can't be nice then you can't be married. Find out what his problem with your family is.
Eveyrone needs to be nice.
2007-12-28 14:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you and your spouse are going through a divorce or he did something absolutely unforgivable to them, then no....I wouldn't go. If they just don't like them, I definitely wouldn't go. I would tell them they could jump off the nearest bridge!
2007-12-28 14:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, thats cruel, your family had you with them their whole lives...Thats your woman or man, u stick with them, wherever they go, u go, especially on a holiday! Ur parents have a family of their own and now u have a family too.
2007-12-28 14:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. unless it is your spouses fault. You and your husband are suppose to be a family and stick together.
2007-12-28 14:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by littleme836 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋