when i was really little my dad was a horrible alcoholic and my mom divorced him, he went through re-hab and was sober for a long time then on christmas my sisters and i went to his house and there was beer in the fridge, and this means he drinking again doesnt it? i dont even want to go ober there any more is that wrong? and my step mom will leave him to save herself, she has been a recovering addict and she will leave him. i just dont know what to do i just want to scream i dont want him to drink and i dont want him to die and i just dont even want to go over ther please help me!
2007-12-28 15:11:40 · 9 answers · asked by miss madi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
first of all, was he drinking the beer? My mom was an alcoholic (past tense b/c she's no longer alive) and she was sober for the last 15 years of her life. My dad drank beer and always had it in our house and she never touched it. Perhaps your dad had it in the house for those of you coming for the holidays or for guests. If not, try to support your dad by helping him find help again. I know that my mom was an addict to many things and now she's not here anymore and I miss her daily. Please remember the time we have w/ our loved ones is never promised tomorrow and try to help him all that you can. I'll keep your family in my prayers!!
2007-12-28 15:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by *~Cam's Mommy ~* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a very deep breath. Calm.
When you are calm... Ask him about the beer- it may not have been his. Was he drinking when you were there? Have you seen any signs that he has been drinking- other than the beer in the fridge?
If so - talk to your Mom. Then insist that he go to AA meetings regularly - or you will not see him. Insist on there being no alcohol in his home. You need to stand firm - it's called tough love... and it's tough on all parties.
If you can honestly say - perhaps he's not drinking - and he says the beer was a guests who left it - ask him to not have alcohol in his house as it bothers you. Again - stand firm.
Remind him you love him... and mean what you say.
I'll pray for you.
2007-12-28 23:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by NanC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father. Your step mom knows what is in the refrigerator. Perhaps they are having guest or is using it for cooking. Don't jump to conclusions without asking. Drunks usually relapse. There is nothing you can do to help him. You, however, need to be attending Alanon. Ask your mother or step mom to take you, you can look up meetings on the web. You need to talk to other kids about how this makes you feel, they can help you.
2007-12-28 23:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still your only father, and you need him in your life, but be careful if he's drinking again, and get support through by attending Alanon
2007-12-29 06:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by sugarpie2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first aim sorry to hear this sad story, but this is still your dad and you need to encourage him to stop drinking even though u don't want to go see him. Believe me if u stay with him and keep on encouraging him he Will stop very soon. And try t be More stronger about it.
2007-12-28 23:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by beast 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to ur dad. tell him that the beer in the fridge is makin u nervous. tell him ur just thinking about his health and try to work with him to help him stop.
2007-12-28 23:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you can just write it in a letter, a phone call anything. but maybe you telling him will be just the little push of encouragement that he needs. not doing anything and avoiding him wont help either of you.
2007-12-28 23:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Cecilia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bring Him to the church..perhaps can seek a Pastor to pray for him ..and who knows...miracles happen in the holy place!!
2007-12-28 23:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by tea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it isn;t wrong that you don't want to go over there but i mean i don;t just shut him out he really needs you right now. he needs a family to lean on for a little help and advice. right?
2007-12-28 23:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sami 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋