im 22 and my boyfriend who is 29 say i can take controal.of it and let be the laws decition... they dont want me moving out with my bf cause they dislike him 100% and think that my anger is all from them hateing my bf ... wrong it from the comments i hear them say thing about my bf and his family and to me .... like to night my mum told me not to something in certion place and i told im going to and i was going to put back in the room were i got it from.... and she though i was being scarcastit...(spelling) and them my dad didnt like what i was saying to my mum and threated me and i went to room crying after my dad threw my bf cell (which im useing) on the floor and it take 5 mins to get it on and a nother 5 to call some one.... my bf paied 400 for it 3 yrs ago and im just using till i grt a new phone tomorrow .... now my bf says if they do any thing else more to me the cops well be called and my dad well be in jail i dont want this to happen what can i do and am i righ age wise??
2007-12-28 14:36:29 · 11 answers · asked by notsoshort23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hun, you are living in your parents home. There are rules. Even if you lived in somone elses home, there would be rules there too! You see, it is a matter of respect and trying to get along. It is not about pushing buttons to see how far one can be pushed!
Have you ever asked them why they dislike him and his family so much? I am sure they have a reason(s). You are their child and they love you. If they did not, they would not care with whom you are involved. Fact is, to make this situation turn for the good...I would suggest that you pray and ask God for direction. I know you love your Mum and Dad. I can see that they love you and want what "they think" is best for you! Why would anyone call the police on parents who may have a genuine reason for not wanting your life to go in the direction in which you have chosen? Wouldn't it be better to simply try to talk through this?
I will be praying for you as well. If you want things to change, you have many choices....pray and let God guide you and give you direction, move out and get your own place with your own rules or, choose to do nothing. I pray, you choose to reach out, in prayer, to God.
2007-12-28 14:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40 and when I visit my parents house..I still the same chores I did when I was younger. Why? because I will always be a member of this family, and they will always be my parents.
Now...the real question is why won't the 29 year old boy friend ask you to marry him? Yes, you are old enough to make that decision. But remember... perhaps parents are seeing something in him they would rather not have in a son-in-law. That might even be a clue to look elsewhere. Boyfriends become fiances, fiances become husbands... and marriage should lead to joy in everyone's heart. Not divison. Another clue this might not be the road you want to go down.
Be real careful when you choose a boyfriend over family. It takes a lot of time to repair the hurt in the family, and is even more miserable when the boyfriend is no longer in the picture, but the hurt with the family is still there.
2007-12-28 22:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still live in your parents house, then you have to follow their rules. It sucks, but that is the way life is. If you are 22 and your boyfriend is 29 then move out. You are of an age where you are responsible for your own actions, but you have to respect your parents wishes if you are still living at home. If you can't handle the rules, you need to be somewhere else. If your boyfriend is 29 years old, he must have his own place, right? Surely, he is not still living with his family. You are an adult, make a decision for yourself and stop being immature, or your parents will continue to treat you that way. No disrespect intended girl.
2007-12-28 14:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by AB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you left some things out of this story.
For example, why your parents do not like the boyfriend.
Your anger may very well be all from them "hating" your boyfriend.
Is he really good for you? Is he the type of person you want to be with? You have to ask yourself these questions in order to take care of yourself, and remain "safe".
If he's a good guy, then no reason you should not move in with him... if that is what you want.
You are an adult, so make an adult decision.. is he GOOD ENOUGH for you in your own mind?
Your boyfriend probably can't put your father in jail for throwing the cell phone...
Perhaps stop the rediculous behavior, gather your dignity, act like a LADY and do what you feel is right.
2007-12-28 14:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may desire to have asked this interior the criminal section. a number of those solutions are ordinarily offering you with emotional solutions... no longer inevitably suitable solutions. you assert you pay lease, yet do you have a lease? or have another written information? An e mail possibly that one in each of your father and mother despatched you saying how lots you have been to pay in lease and so on... If no longer (and that i'm guessing no) you're much less secure. despite the fact that the certainty which you pay lease may be used as a criminal anchor. keep all your lease receipts and evidence of paying lease. submit this question interior the regulation section and point out what state you reside in. you will get greater suitable solutions the following day for the duration of the day, whilst an mind-blowing style of bored paralegals are procrastinating at artwork by utilizing perusing yahoo solutions.
2016-10-09 08:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents have done nothing wrong. If the cops are called, YOU may get in trouble for wasting their time. The saying goes, and it is correct, "As long as you live under their roof, you follow their rules." You're 22. If you don't like it, leave.
2007-12-28 14:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by KnowItAll 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i stopped on sentence 6 becuase i could not understand what you were trying to say!!! yes you do obey your parents even if your over 18 IF youre under their roof, why should they let you go about and do anything you want if youre living with THEM? if you dont like it then get out and get a job or whatever and buy a house or rent one. if your kids were over 18 and still living in house would you let them do whatever they want just becuase their older?
2007-12-28 14:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your in their home.
I would say you still live in your parents home because you can't get a good job with the way you spell
2007-12-28 14:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by stacie387 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go out and live on your own...their house...their rules...we don't know you're whole situation...so maybe they have good reason not to like your bf...your parents have done their part...now do what you need to do...and stand on your own two feet...don't allow the bf to bring drama to your parents...boyfriends can come and go..you have only one set of parents...and they will always have your back..don't burn that bridge....Life can be painful...but misery is optional
2007-12-28 16:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by ~Jenny~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct was to tell you that you're a grown-up, and should be living on your own, but then I read your post. I don't think you can take care of yourself, because you can't even express yourself properly. Stay at home and take some grammar lessons.
2007-12-28 14:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by mare 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋