my guy is 60 i am 33, we have been dating 2 months just 2 months he told me he didnt like doing all the heavy lifting in this relationship, paying for dinner it has only been dinner and it has only been 2 months,he knows my situation & that i have 2 kids its hard i told him give me sometime he said how much time u need and all that stuff, i havent treated coz i dont want to just coldnt afford it like he can all the time. he told me i wasnt going to change i would always be like this i just thought he wasnr being fair or was he
2007-12-27 22:27:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cruel and Insensitive!!
He sounds like an old stubborned man married to his money. Just the fact that you're 33 and he's 60, apperantly has better income, and is the male figure (I'm not a feminist), and he's telling you that over a dinner??? For two months? I'm wondering why is it even lasting that long!
This guy is not worth it. Anyone on his position would more than pay someone 30 years younger than him to be with; he's too old and he will never hit it that well, and if you stay with him you'll be the one ending up taking care of him and your kids.
The way I see it, he wants too much and it is truelly his loss, not yours.
Glad he pushed you to move onto something else, hopefully someone better!
2007-12-27 22:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. He's 60 and older and set in his ways and he expects you at age 33 to spend more time with him? Surely he is not seeing the whole situation. You have children. If he wanted someone without children he should have gone for that person. Surely I can see that this relationship is not going to last too long. It's nobody's fault it's just that you two are both in different stages of your lives. Each one wants the other to follow their stage but you can't. You need to be there for those children. His children are probably grown and out of the house, he is seeking to have some fun and be free. I think you need to find someone younger who understands this. As far as paying for dinner, your kids well being comes first. You need to pay for their dinner, their clothes etc. If he doesn't understand this he is just a plain jerk.Just my opinion. Have a nice day. Love, Maeve.
2007-12-28 06:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, u need a guy closer to ur age
second, he was being a jerk
thrid, u should dump him and move on....cuz he is old and wants someone to take care off him. he doesn't want to take care of anyone he's an old man he's already taken care of some people...probably...but he shouldn't have to pay for everything...u should share but yes he was being a total jerk and if it's ur turn to pay and u can't afford anything just stay home and talk....that's the best thing to do...just talk with each other....eat dinner in...have a romantic night in.....
but still get a WAY younger guy....i mean really...60?
2007-12-28 06:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by beckie114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew the situation when he got into it. Tell him to hit the road. What do you need with a worn out old fart like him anyway. You are wasting your young years on a man that does not even appreciate the fact that he has a young girl with him. Most men his age would worship the ground you walked on.
2007-12-28 06:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have money or is he not to well off? At his age he's not gonna change much either. Where is this relationship going to go anyway?Other then south. Id stay "Friends" but look around for a kinder gentleman. Good luck.
2007-12-28 06:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being cruel and insensitive, if your having trouble financially and are having a rough time he should have the decency to understand, he seems to old anyway, I would go for a man around the same age.
Happy new year :)
2007-12-28 06:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a douchebag. a real man isn't going to put the arm on his old lady....i mean really, how much "heavy lifting" is he doing? Is he paying for your rent or dinner? Dump him and get a guy closer to your age....\
2007-12-28 06:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was being a little cruel.
But hey.. Tell him to stuff it. Your dating him and hes old enough to be your father. He should be feeling lucky.
Heavy lifting?...he calls paying for dinner heavy lifting? He should always be the one paying for dinner...
What does he was a woman half his age, and for her to pay for dinner?
You've got to be kidding.......What a jerk.
2007-12-28 06:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his walker may weigh less, and he should use it to go away. Find yourself a younger man who knows what to do with a 33 year old and her children.
2007-12-28 06:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't fair at all.You tell him you can't be paying for all the dinners.You got 2 kids at home that you have to take care of.Now you can't make him pay for everything,ya'll need to take turns paying for dinner.Just let him know sometimes you can't afford it.
2007-12-28 06:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by S3XI GURL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋