Family & Relationships - 27 December 2007

I am with a younger guy, and he totally Controls this relationship ! it makes me feel kinda crazy, because I'm the older woman. and he should be chasing after me !
Instead, I'm the one waiting for the phone to ring, and losing sleep. He visits me on his schedule. and basically dictates when we spend time together, and how much time. He controls every aspect of our relationship.
In the beginning of course, he chased after me, and sang to my music, but now tables have turned.
So tell me what I should do..?? I need step by step instructions. should I ignore his calls, start an argument and avoid him for a few days ? what will work ? I dont want to break up, because I love him, but I feel like I'm getting taken for granted.
Please no sarcastic remarks or nasty advice...I'm looking for some realistic answers to the question....thanks

2007-12-27 14:16:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm Asian American, so I'm definitely Americanized and can speak fluent English. She doesn't know much about America and isn't so good at speaking English, but we can still communicate without major problem.
I had a few American girlfriends but never had an European/German girl.

Any tips, or things to watch out for?
And none of those nazi craps please.

2007-12-27 14:12:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, here's the deal. My boyfriend falls asleep all the time. He comes to my house almost every evening after work and he'll lay there and sleep. I don't mind if he takes a cat nap but I mean he'll lay there for like 3 hours! The worst part is, he won't leave my house until late then when he goes home, he's wide awake. For example, I don't have to work this week (I'm a teacher and school is out for the holidays) so last night, he slept on my couch for about an hour and a half. He didn't leave until 12 something, then he wasn't tired when he got home, so he didn't go to bed until 3:00 a.m. then had to get up for work at 4:45! So then he came to my house tonight and slept for like 3 hours. Finally, I got really irritated and kind of snipped at him to go home and get a decent night's sleep. I apologized for snipping at him but still think I am not completely wrong for being irritated. What do you think?

2007-12-27 14:11:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We're getting married in August and having a very casual rehearsal dinner. What is typical attire for the bride and groom to be?

Links would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

2007-12-27 14:11:50 · 6 answers · asked by Why? 5 in Weddings

My mom and I just had a really bad falling out. I told her that I don't like it when she lavishes too much attention on me and that I can't deal with the emotional baggage she dumps on me. She started crying and screaming and talking about how she wanted to die because she had a bad day at work and now everyone at home was being mean to her. I told her I love her and care about her but sometimes she does things that are just outrageous and I can't deal with it, so I end up avoiding her. I told her that I didn't know how to show that I loved her because everytime I do she just dumps more burdens on me. She is too needy and never gets out of the house, and I suggested she go try a new hobby and meet some people. She wouldn't stop crying and acting like I was being disrespectful and mean. She kept saying "You don't love me, I can't feel it" and "How do I know when to talk to you and when not to?"

2007-12-27 14:11:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My dad wants to meet my friend Kyle... he found out that we love each other... he won't let us date, but I think part of the reason is because he hasn't met him yet... I want to introduce him, and show him how great of a guy he really is, but how?

2007-12-27 14:09:45 · 36 answers · asked by amber211 2 in Singles & Dating

Me and a couple friends were driving into the city for a night of partying, we live about 40 min away. Anyway as we driving one of my friends had to pee because alcohol (not the driver). So we pull into a gas station but guess what - it's just a person in a booth, no service or bathrooms!

So my friend ran around to the side of the building and past this ice vending machine. And she just went for a pee there on the asphalt, squatting behind the ice machine!!!

What do you do, if in the same situation?

2007-12-27 14:09:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-12-27 14:08:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We fight a lot, we disrespect each other, we say nasty things to each other, his family hates me, they ignore me all the time, we hardly see each other cause he works a lot and when i do see him, we are just fighting.. SO i want to know if i should leave him.. ive been thinking about it but hearing other people's opinions would be comforting.. We do not have children yet. I am 21 and he's 25...

2007-12-27 14:07:09 · 41 answers · asked by cLaU 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My friend use to go out with this girl and she broke up with him but now she likes him more than a friend but not like bf. He tryed asking her out and telling her how he feels but she says no. But everytime he like another girl and she got mad because of him liking her. But now he wants to know should he wait for her or ask the other girl he likes out?

2007-12-27 14:05:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am trying to decide where to retire to and am looking for ideas so also tell me why and what makes your place such a good place to live.

2007-12-27 14:02:48 · 28 answers · asked by THing4CSA 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am a 23 year old teacher, and I have a 2 almost 3 year old boyfriend. Lately, he has been pressuring me to have sex with him, though im a virgin, and never did it before. (My goal was to do it on my wedding day). I dont know what I should do? He has been really annoying because he is always trying to find a way to squeeze my breasts or unbockle my pants. Do you think its time to do it, or should I wait? Elizabeth.

2007-12-27 14:02:39 · 31 answers · asked by Elizabeth Stacy! 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 13:59:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 13:57:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

bought house after we got married, but only wife's name is on the title

2007-12-27 13:57:35 · 8 answers · asked by Peggy P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

even we kiss sometimes,and we can only be together in the movies or at a hotel room,but i want more

2007-12-27 13:56:10 · 44 answers · asked by Diva X 2 in Marriage & Divorce

PLEASE ANSWER!! long distance relationship??
how do you tell your ex. you still like him?
we live far away from each other.. but we had
something special :) .. we broke up because i
moved across the country.. i actually decided to..
but i regret it.. and i miss him so much! he is so
special to me.. but now he wont call or e-mail me..
except for a simple "merry christmas :D"
so should i call? or should i wait 4 him? i'm
visiting his hometown right now.. becuz i have relatives
who still live in the area... & he knows i'm here too!!
becuz my friend told him!! so .. should i wait 4 him to call?
what should i do???

2007-12-27 13:52:42 · 9 answers · asked by ♡ 4 in Singles & Dating

Like they are tricked into a seduction and don't realize it's happening before it's too late. I'm just curious to hear what women say about this.

2007-12-27 13:52:27 · 40 answers · asked by David L 2 in Marriage & Divorce

When my parents when I was three. I lived with my mum while I seen my dad every second weekend. My mum ended up finding a new man. He moved in and I treated him like my father. Over the years we started to fight heaps. My mum ended up having a child to him and getting married NOW..
My nana is a foster carer and she has had a girl that has lived with her for years. We treat her as family but my step father doesn't think she is family cause she was never adopted to the family. But I call him "dad" even though he never adopted me. He says that "when he married my mum, he took me on as a daughter". I dont think he has the right to say "she isn't your sister. I grew up with her. My dad has had family friends which I've called my "uncle" but he has never said "He's not your uncle". I think sometimes he gets jealous of my other family.

What do you guys think?

2007-12-27 13:50:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Dad is 43. Girlfriend is 37. Child is 12. Dad and girlfriend have been dating more than a year. Girlfriend and child get along very well, but child's mom is very jealous and tells Dad that son is angry about Dad's girlfriend.

2007-12-27 13:46:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-27 13:45:12 · 26 answers · asked by * *sUnShINe GiRl* * 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 13:43:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

So like we text all the time and we went out once a long time ago...adn he is coming over to my house on monday and we will be alone... but i am rele bad about talking to guys so what are so things to talk about with him... we proably wont talk that long but i am nervous becuae i suck at talking i always go blank.

2007-12-27 13:42:57 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Alright, Ive been with my boyfriend for about a year. I really do love him more than anything, and I know he loves me. There is just one problem...hes super old fashoined. So like we cant really get into kissing or anything. Hes good about that because hes a year and a half older and he doesnt want to hurt me or make me feel like Im pushed into anything. He's my first real more serious boyfriend, but I cant imagine being with anyone else. I know Im young, but I dont ever want to be with out him. I dont know how id deal with it. I can see myself with him for 5 more years easy. I am just confused, my mom says its unhealthy when people stay together for too long, especially me being 15, him 16 1/2. She says I need to 'experience' other people, but I only want to be with one and only one. Any advice?

2007-12-27 13:42:56 · 33 answers · asked by Kaylee A 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

flirting with other people not your mate is healthyfor your marriage.

this is what it said
Light flirtation with a coworker or a random stranger can spark up your own relationship

is this crazy or what?

2007-12-27 13:41:55 · 13 answers · asked by CC 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Im not in a wheel chair or missing limbs or anything majorly awkward to look at. about two years ago i had gotten into an accident and a few bad things happened i went blind in one eye i have a few small scars on my face but you have to be close to notice. I have plates in my head you cant tell unless i tell you doctors cant tell if i dont tell them. but i do have a rod in my leg and a good bit of pins threw out my body so usually im pretty unconfortable when i have been still or i am up and about for along time. The only thing if i would hold a picture up from two years ago is i gained 15 pounds its hard to run when you got a broken leg. so the question I used to not really have a problem at least gaining a conversation with a girl. I dont talk about my self unless answering a question and i dont stare. I also believe that if i want to meet a girl that i would get along with i should met them at a place i like ie coffee shop book store. What do i need to do now?

2007-12-27 13:40:39 · 17 answers · asked by kidindahat 2 in Singles & Dating

We used to like each other now he has a gf, she asked him out, he didnt ask her. He's told me it would be fun to sleep together, that he wants to kiss me& all this other stuff, he calls me babe,baby,sexy,pretty, and when we email each other he always writes xxxxx.He always says he cant wait to see me.But then there are times when he tells me he likes me a lot still more than his gf and that he's going to dump her ...but he never has yet. Is he using me or does he actually still like me?Thanks :D

2007-12-27 13:40:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-27 13:40:12 · 2 answers · asked by norfahana 1 in Singles & Dating

what is the youngest age at which you would get married? provided that you were sure the person was right, the finances were alright, you/fiance was pregnant, etc.

2007-12-27 13:40:02 · 12 answers · asked by JudyRamone 2 in Singles & Dating

secretly emails and phones a member of the opposite sex from his contact list? My husband does this and thinks he's been doing it on the sly, but I'm on to him. And I hope you lonely women out there don't fall for his hot-looking avatar -- he's actually old, fat and bald.

2007-12-27 13:40:01 · 16 answers · asked by Angelique 4 in Marriage & Divorce