Alright, Ive been with my boyfriend for about a year. I really do love him more than anything, and I know he loves me. There is just one problem...hes super old fashoined. So like we cant really get into kissing or anything. Hes good about that because hes a year and a half older and he doesnt want to hurt me or make me feel like Im pushed into anything. He's my first real more serious boyfriend, but I cant imagine being with anyone else. I know Im young, but I dont ever want to be with out him. I dont know how id deal with it. I can see myself with him for 5 more years easy. I am just confused, my mom says its unhealthy when people stay together for too long, especially me being 15, him 16 1/2. She says I need to 'experience' other people, but I only want to be with one and only one. Any advice?
2007-12-27 13:42:56 · 33 answers · asked by Kaylee A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I met my wife when I was 14. We're both 37 and we're still together and happy about it. Just my own data point. I know some that got together that have worked out for just as long and I know some that haven't. It isn't about your age (both of you) it's about you.
2007-12-27 13:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother is right.
A relationship is not something that springs up overnight or in a couple of years. You have "puppy love" written all over your emotions about this boy friend.
Date hundreds. Kiss NONE. Stay a virgin (unless you've already been popped). In which case don't do it again.
Along the way Mr. Right will come and the both of you will live happily ever after. Yes, it happens in real life too not just in the movies. You need to work at it. Don't get serious about the "first guy" that makes you see stars! There are 7 females for every male so he's not dumb. He's going to play the field until Ms. Right comes along. Especially if you say he's old fashion. We old fashion guys go through at least 20 or 30 gals before finding one that we don't mind spending the rest of our lives with. Took me 8 years, hundreds of gals but the one I picked has been with me 42 beautiful years. Listen to Mom. She's right, again.
You are NOT Ms. Right for him. Deal with it. Go date someone else today. Different one tomorrow. A couple more this weekend. Two or three by New Year's Eve. Enjoy life. It's too short to be "tied down" to one person. Once you get over this "puppy love" thing life will be so beautiful.
2007-12-27 13:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is right to some degree. I mean you are young and if you surround yourself with only one person then you risk not gaining the life experience you would have otherwise gained. That might make you some what resentful later in life especially if things don't workout. He seems to be a good guy, though. All, you can do is follow your heart and try to do what is best for you. Life is day to day after all we are not promised tomorrow, so live for today and try not worry about 5 yrs down the road trust me you will be there in no time! Although, my fiance's sister has beening dating a guy since she was 16. The guy is 2 years older than she. He was going to college while she finished high school. We thought for sure she would continuing her dance career instead she chose to go to a party university to be with him. Mean while he transfered from a University where he had a full scholarship for Baseball to the party university. She and him have been there a yr and half with him they live together, always work at the same jobs, and go to school together. I think since their first 2 years they were in school and lived at home with parents they didn't get past the infatuation stage and somehow god bless them they are still in it. Lucky for them and bad at the same time. When you give up what you like and friends to surround yourself with one person I think it is very unhealthy.
2007-12-27 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by LivingMyReality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you feel at this moment in your life, go with it. I am 25 and just got married 6 months ago to my "2nd serious boyfriend" whom I started dating when I was 19. My mother always said the same thing about "experiencing" other people, and if that is what you decide at some point in your life that's fine, then you'll experience those other people. But for now, if you are happy, which sounds like you are,. I wouldn't even think twice about it. I strongly believe in the cliche of "if it's meant to be, it's meant to be." You're 15, just enjoy what you have with your boyfriend and your current situation. In my case, it was true that you don't have to "experience" too many people to find true love! Be happy!
2007-12-27 13:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by cdpk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this sounds familiar my son at the age of 13 net a girl 12 they started dating and though i am old fashioned i probably had the same conversation with him as your mum had with you my son know is 19 and they are still together he loves her to bits she thinks the world of him and while sometimes they argue they always make up so my dear if you have found mr right you stick to that and dont let anyone else tell you different
2007-12-27 13:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by robert S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are very few couples that survive the 'only one' situation. Most people live to regret not experiencing others before they marry or decide to live together forever.
I have to think back to the girl friends I had growing up; I guess I had about six or seven girl friends before I got married the first time and then four more before I married the second time.
You are too young to tie yourself down to only one guy, you need to live life and do things on your own if only to prove to yourself that you can stand on your own two feet.
When he graduates from High School you will find that you both will go in different directions. You will have time to do things on your own and grow inside.
2007-12-27 13:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by THing4CSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a freshman in High School I dated a junior guy for about 2 years and I was sure I wanted to marry him, but later learned that it was just lust not love. You haven't fully developed into the person you are going to be yet. I know how wonderful it feels to have a boyfriend, but you need to learn who you are and be independent before you decide. Good Luck!
2007-12-27 13:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kari S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're fine, i had a boyfriend who was 18 while i was 16, so a year and a half isnt bad at all. i think its wonderful that he doesnt want you to feel pressured. that shows how much he cares. and if you want more from the relationship, just tell him. and if even then he wont go further, then just wait. he's being a good person.
2007-12-27 13:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Simple Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK ask your self these ? do u want any one else? dose he want anyone else? if the two of you love each other with all your hearts,would die for one another and you cant picture ur life with out hI'm then you need to follow your heart , stand by him because im sure he's standing by you and most likely if your mom is tellin you this than she dont like him but just remember its not what other people think or how they feel its how the two of you feel good luck & i hope you follow ur heart
2007-12-27 14:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by aen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember feeling the same way over my first love. . . I think the relationship will probably play out and one day you will find that you love the next guy even more. I know you don't want to be told your mom is right, but she knows you best!
2007-12-27 13:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋