When my parents when I was three. I lived with my mum while I seen my dad every second weekend. My mum ended up finding a new man. He moved in and I treated him like my father. Over the years we started to fight heaps. My mum ended up having a child to him and getting married NOW..
My nana is a foster carer and she has had a girl that has lived with her for years. We treat her as family but my step father doesn't think she is family cause she was never adopted to the family. But I call him "dad" even though he never adopted me. He says that "when he married my mum, he took me on as a daughter". I dont think he has the right to say "she isn't your sister. I grew up with her. My dad has had family friends which I've called my "uncle" but he has never said "He's not your uncle". I think sometimes he gets jealous of my other family.
What do you guys think?
2007-12-27 13:50:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're 100% correct. Not that you'll ever change his mind. Some people have this thing about how families are defined. If you act like a family, you're a family.
2007-12-27 13:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your step dad is very territorial and a little mean. Why not call this foster child sister. Why would he purposely try to make her feel like an outsider, considering this foster child has probably felt like one most of her life. Why not embrace someone that has been with your family for 6 years and encourage them to feel like a TRUE part of the family. This poor child doesn't have a biological family and he wants this kid to never forget it. I don't understand that mentality. I would want to make that child feel loved and protected and safe. He obviously does not want that child to feel that way and that is pretty scary
2007-12-27 22:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to anyone who they accept as family when they are not really family. If there is a close friend or another figure you look to then it is up to you how close to family that you accept them to be. My aunts ex husband will always be my uncle for the way he was with us when we were kids.
2007-12-27 22:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that blood is thicker than water, but love is thicker than blood. Follow your heart. If you love someone and consider them family, then they are your family. I have an older sister that is no relation to me whatsoever, but my whole family considers her family.
2007-12-27 22:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by mssandrar03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is wrong to judge and tell you what to feel.
a sister doesnt neccesarily mean they are blood, its a bond you form as to what they are to you. if she feels like your sister and family then she is. maybe try and explain how you feel to him, people get raised to believe and have different opinions. you should explain to him how you feel about it and hopefully he will understand. yes he was wrong but i think personally you should more so focus on trying to help him understand than trying to be the person who is right. you play that game and someone is bound to get hurt.
2007-12-27 21:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i mean what age is this guy he's so immature he should really grow up he's completley wrong,i believe you can pick your family just like you can pick your friends.just say if she aint my family then your not also... whats this guya problem, just ignore in your oviously more of an adult then him.good luck take care....
2007-12-27 21:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes so wrong i no how you feel
2007-12-27 21:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by miss.juicy<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋