even we kiss sometimes,and we can only be together in the movies or at a hotel room,but i want more
2007-12-27 13:56:10 · 44 answers · asked by Diva X 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes he really loves me because he gave me a card to his private bank account so i can be comfortable we do alot for each other,it jus piss me of when i cant spend holidays with him
2007-12-27 14:16:41 · update #1
he even took me to meet his grandmother in the nursing home who has alzheimer and renal failure so its not like i am a fling or anything
2007-12-27 14:19:52 · update #2
a lady told me to wash his draws in blue soap and he will leave his wife for me
2007-12-27 14:29:37 · update #3
i was inlove with a married man also, and i showed him what he had to look forward to being with me and well we are married now and we have 2 kids, so i would tell him how you feel and try to relate on a emotional level and not just a sexual level, talk about him alot, ask him questions, nothing about his wife that willl make things awkward. but about his past his family etc. email me if you need more advice. byslie221@yahoo.com
2007-12-27 16:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Niccole 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It is sad when we fall in love with a person who is already with someone else. What you have gotten into is very complicated, I do not think this is a very good man and no matter what you tell me will change my mind. He is married and he is should not be with anyone else other than his wife. I hope and pray they do not have children together. If they have children you should break it off with him out of love for his children and him. If he does not have children then you need to think long and hard about what your doing and is he really a good, honest, kind, loving, sweet, man? If he is then all you can do is hope and pray that he does the right thing if he wants to be with you and that's for him to divorce his wife. It is not fair for her to suffer the heartache, pain, and deceit of her husband that she loves cheating on her with you. You I hope are a good and noble woman. I hope you would not actively seek him out and try to force him to divorce his wife. The fact is as long as you are having sex with him and being there for his emotional needs, he will never leave his wife. You will always be the other woman. That is not fair to you and you deserve much more than that. If you would like to be friends with him that is fine as long as that is all. You should let him know that you respect yourself to much to be his mistress, which whether you chose to admit it or not, you are. He needs to be a man and stop acting like a kid in high school. He must make up his mind about what he wants. In reality he is paying you money to keep quiet and for sex by allowing you money from his secret bank account. I mean you are not a prostitute! Yet he is kinda treating you like one. He needs to be a man and make up his mind. If you allow this to go on you will never and trust me I know, never have him as your very own. You need to stop this until he makes up his mind what he wants more. You and your love and faithfulness or the woman he is with now. I wish you the best, I do not agree with what this *** is doing, and I do not think you should be involved with him, but if you are in love and really love him you will make sure he really loves you by making him make a choice. If you let him keep this up I swear to you, that you will get your heart broken and you will always be the other woman.
2007-12-27 15:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want more, but he has already chosen someone else. He can't be faithful to that person and he plays with you. If he then changes his mind and choses you, don't you think that it is almost certain that he'll discover that he can't be faithful to you and find another person to play with?
He may be fun - but he is breaking someone else's heart doing it. Not knowing her makes it okay for you to do this?
Do you want your heart broken?
Don't you really want more? Don't you want someone that is respected? You are setting yourself up for a lot of hurt for a very long time if you stay with this guy.
You'll be the girl who broke up his marriage. You'll be the girl who has a husband that is a cheat. You'll be the girl who will be always wondering if he is cheating on you.
Set better standards for yourself. Don't hang out with cheaters. Don't settle for the guy chasing after you for sex.
Look for someone that makes you smile, that you can introduce with complete pride to your family, friends, and anyone else. You will be forever happy that you made the hard choice to choose a nice guy. You are worth a nice guy - but only you can make that good choice!
Make a decision today to choose good things for you! You are worth it!
Good Luck!!!
2007-12-27 14:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by JJ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HOWDY!!! Aruna S,
Drop him like a HOT potato. Since he cheats on his wife he more than likely cheat on you.
I know because in 1974 I went through a similar thing and the woman that I was with said she would get a divorce and marry me. I got a BROKE HEART from it. She stayed with her husband. I'm glad because I would be wondering when I was away from her, is she cheating on me.
Drop it while you can, you are on the way to a real broken heart. GOOD LUCK!!!
I married a different woman in my town in 1988 and she is very good to me. I am real glad that the other thing feel through. I trust my wife and I know she does not cheat on me. She is my one and only one. I think you would want a man like my wife, a man that you would not even think that he was cheating. That is the type person you want I am sure.
GOOD LUCK!!!
STAY SAFE!!!
Bulldog
2007-12-27 14:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by BULLDOG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the worst of the worst. Don't set your limits in life being second hand merchandise. Married men's love on-call women. Your relationship will never be more than anything but sex. Why would u want someone that cheats. He'll do the same to you. This will be someone you'll never trust. Start a fresh relationship with someone that you deserve and deserves you. You're worth it. Stay Blessed.
2007-12-27 14:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Leave married men alone. Their wives are at home suffering and you are aiding in that. You should hope that you are not in his wives shoes one day. Imagine yourself married to the man of your dreams and some wh**e come around and screws your husband.. Think about that.
What should you do you ask? Ask God for his forgiveness and sin no more. And ask that man why he is doing this? Does he not love his wife? Or is he just using you? You are a stupid girl. Get out of this now please. Because I am sure deep down you have more self respect than this. At least I hope you do.
2007-12-27 14:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why are you doing this to yourself? Do you have any respect or any self respect??? Why would you put yourself in a position like this over a man you can't have? You are living in a fantasy world where he will leave his wife for you and be yours forever. Sorry sister, that's not how it happens. And this guy your with is a major pu.s.sy. If he is so unhappy in his marriage, why doesn't he leave? He's a fuken coward that's why! I have no respect for women or men like you two. And NO NO NO, there is no excuse for this kind of bs. If guys wanna dip their sticks in every hole that comes along then maybe they shouldn't be married, the same goes for women. I hope one day you find the man of your dreams and he cheats on you. It would serve you right. Does this man have any children?? I hope not because he's a sad case and risking a family over a piece of a.s.s. NOT TOO SMART!!! LOL
2007-12-27 14:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Move on. Stop allowing yourself to be the other women. You're helping this man comitt adultery on his wife and you will never be anything more to him then a booty call.
Honestly, why stick around and get your feelings hurt. He's with you for the sex.. but he's still married. He only wants you for one thing and nothing else, he wants sex no strings attached because he's married and now you're falling for him.
Save yourself the trouble and let go, it's not good to be a home wrecker and you would not like it if the situation was reversed.
2007-12-27 13:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Grow up, and get as far away from him as you can, sweetheart!
This guy sounds like a real smooth operator, as well as serial cheater.
Believe me when I tell you, that he has the ability to cause you pain and heartbreak which you, frankly, cannot imagine.
I hope that you are not so desperate, as a woman, for attention and affection, that you are willing to have your feelings manipulated by an unfaithful, lying, married man.
Just FYI,what you are feeling is not love, it is merely "infatuation." LOVE requires TRUST, and COMMITMENT.
Good luck,
~WOMBAT
2007-12-27 14:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep loving him. If you love him you won't do anything that would be bad for him. In other words, don't mess up his life by being with him anymore. Let him and his wife be happy (or not - that's up to them). If something happens to his relationship with her that causes him to become single again, you will have been a good influence in his life and he would be more inclined to be with you then. You need to leave him alone now.
2007-12-27 14:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If a car was broken down on the side of the road would you drive it away because the owner wasn't in it? He belongs to someone else just like that car belongs to the owner. Just because it is broken doesn't give anyone the right to drive off with it.
2007-12-27 14:13:20 · answer #11 · answered by Still The Sweetest Girl Ever 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋