I am a 23 year old teacher, and I have a 2 almost 3 year old boyfriend. Lately, he has been pressuring me to have sex with him, though im a virgin, and never did it before. (My goal was to do it on my wedding day). I dont know what I should do? He has been really annoying because he is always trying to find a way to squeeze my breasts or unbockle my pants. Do you think its time to do it, or should I wait? Elizabeth.
2007-12-27 14:02:39 · 31 answers · asked by Elizabeth Stacy! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend is almost 3 years old? WTF? You should rephrase that!
2007-12-27 14:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by no name 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You know... although by "today's" standards... I'd say that you are too young to be having sex for your standards... There is nothing wrong with waiting till your wedding day if thats when you'd rather wait for it.... Nothing at all...
By the sound of it, you really don't want to do it either... I mean... I understand that he probably thinks by this time in his life that he deserves it from you... but he shouldn't be pressuring you like this at all... I'd say you need to talk to him about it and tell him that you are not ready to have sex... Now, there's other things that you can do with him that will make him just as happy... and depending on your definition... all you have to not do is vaginal penetration...
Bottom line... your not ready... don't let him pressure you into things you don't want to do... WAIT!!!
2007-12-27 22:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly. He shouldn't pressure you into having sex. He should respect you not get annoyed that you want to wait. If you don't want to and want to wait until your wedding night then keep it that way, maybe you 2 just arent right for eachother.
Your first time should be a time you will remember not a time where you think back and say "i only did it cuz he wanted me to" no.
2007-12-27 22:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Hrscrzy4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself... If you want to wait then do so. If he doesn't respect that then you should really take a hard look at him. The question for you would be how dissappointed would you be if things didn't work out and you gave up that part of you? Consider if there is chemistry and passion between the two of you. That is important for the long run...
2007-12-27 22:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do have sex with him that doesnt mean that youll marry the guy. You shouldnt give in because someone is pressuring you to do it. Its a tough situation and you cant resist forever either. I would say to wait to get married, being a virgin myself. Hes a fool for disrespecting you like that. Im very sorry your with a person like that, please be careful. You should let people know of his behavior and put him to shame, expose it.
2007-12-27 22:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Freddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, did you mean to say 3 years older?younger? not sure.
anyhow, you're 23. that's more than enough. in my eyes at least. I think you are missing out. seariously. there's nothing bad about it, that you should hold back.
rather do it before wedding each other, that way you learn what you like and you know if you both meet out sexualy, because that is a BIG part of a relationship. I think if my boyfriend is not on the same level as myself when it comes to sex, it would be very hard to be partners in life with that in the back of your mind.
i think at this age you are not a young little girl, nither is he a little boy. he has needs, not that you are forced to fulfill them but dont waste his time either, you know what I mean?
I think the whole marrige, love, sex all together is a big shyt ball. (by now means to be rude) it's really not that big of a deal. it's sex! enjoy it! relax. chill. go with it. flow with it. feel it. love it.
good luck.
2007-12-27 22:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think that's a pretty dumb question. Now you, a 23 year old adult, asking a bunch of strangers what to do with your personal life. That on it's own is sick.
Well, do you love him or not. And if you do what's your problem?
Man, you must have had some twisted parents :)
2007-12-27 22:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready. I know you've been with him for a while, but you're just going to have to wait. If he's pressuring you, he's not worth it. He has to have the same goal as you, or it's never going to work out. If your goal is to abstain until marriage, you should do that.
2007-12-27 22:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to have sex with this guy because it seems like he only wants sex from you. Lose your virginity to the right guy, not someone who forces and annoys you to give it up.
2007-12-27 22:09:25 · answer #9 · answered by =P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been going with him. Tell him if he wants to have sex, then he should set the date, because thats when he'll get it. Don't let him pressure you. If he wants it that bad, he'll wait.
2007-12-27 22:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is 2 almost 3 years old? Hm.
2007-12-27 22:06:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋