he was coming home from work every night. we were everybody's ideal couple. i thought we talked about everything. then we had two kids together.things got frustrated and i did to.i started nagging a thing i didnt do before and the sex life slowly declined and we stop telling each other what was on our mind.byt all the while i still loved him and then he did the unthinkable and cheated on me.and think we could have worked it out before he decided to cheat. even though things wasnt right, i didnt go and cheat and i dont know if i should take him back.
2007-12-27 23:34:07 · 15 answers · asked by dangerously in luv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey only you know what your heart can handle. I cheated on my husband and he forgave me and we stayed together. I have never cheated on him again. BUT it still messes up things in our relationship now he has alot of issues that I can not help him with. It still stays in the back of his mind all the time.
He has to undersand that if you do take him back you will need to build the trust back and he has to be willing to fully understand that. Meaning letting you know where he is and what he is doing. Call you if hes gonna be late from work just willing to be an open book like dr Phill says.
Follow your heart only you know what is right for you and him. Good luck to you hope everything works out for the best.
2007-12-27 23:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by jcrucha44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you gone to counselling, both of you? That can be the first step in making this relationship work. Talk about why this happened becuse there was a reason and it could be something that you don't realize. Go out on dates by yourselves whether it is dinner, coffee, a movie, anything so that it is a couple. If you can't talk to each other, then write each other in a journal each day that can help too.
No because he did it once doesn't mean that he will keep doing it. Good friends of ours went through something similar and worked it out.
2007-12-28 07:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by NWIP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should take him back and stop nagging, and start a new and better life. If your sexual life declined why are you so upset with his affair? It is possible to live together very well even with a moderate sex life, and that part who needs more intensive sex can find it elsewhere. There is nothing terrible in it. Calm down, and live together without nagging.
2007-12-28 07:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
im a cheater. trust me it is not intentionally. i always try to stop but for some reason it happens again and again. when i got caught which if not often that was my same excuse. " we were having problems" he took me back and im still on the prowl. but for some reason i LOVE him too death and we been together for 6 years. dont get me wrong i do stop for a couple of months at a time. hope i helped
2007-12-28 07:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by trini 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, he won't necessarily always be a cheater - he probably won't cheat on his next girlfriend. But he will always be a cheater to you...by you giving him another chance, he knows he can get away with it without having to suffer the consequences, because you'll always take him back.
2007-12-28 07:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lillian 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are giving yourself all the blame for his mistake honey. And it was not your fault. A couple needs to learn how to get thru their problems , not run to another. taking him back is all up to you , what can you live with? can you forgive him an just go on now?
2007-12-28 07:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he will. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-12-28 07:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by faro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try marriage counseling before you give up. You owe it to your children to give it at least that much.
2007-12-28 07:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i mean only take him back if he is begging and pleading to come backkk...! and u have to let him know if he cheats on u again there ain't going to be a next time.
2007-12-28 07:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take him back.. if he did it again maybe that's the time you need to decide. You can also talked to him maybe there's something wrong with your relationship that's why he did that. It takes two to tango.
2007-12-28 07:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by _______definitely rude__________ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋