He works 2nd shift. he usually gets out at 12 a.m. but tonight he called around 1 and told me that his car started acting funny and that he was going to spend the night over at his friends house. he knew that i would not be able to go pick him up because we have a 1 year old that has a cold right now and its freezing outside. the really shady part is that he told me that he needs to go into work tomorrow morning which is suspicious because tomorrow is the 24th and a lot of corporate places arent even open tomorrow. it all seems a bit not quite right to me, so am i just being a crazy overreacting wife or do you think that he is doing something bad?
2007-12-23 20:44:07 · 38 answers · asked by bubulubu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
perhaps, but maybe he wants to surprise you with something..
2007-12-23 20:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by satya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where ever he is sleeping at tonight Do they have a Home Phone that you can call him on? why can't his friend give him a ride Home. Is this the first you are hearing about this work day tomorrow. Has he done this in the past days ? Is this the first time he is doing this??? ask your self these Questions
If in your heart you feel Somthings Shady . Women know these things ,tomorrow call there at his job from another phone just see if they are really open for business.
2007-12-23 20:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hulagirl96734 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one. On one hand you want to be a trusting wife, but on the other hand...work schedules usually don't change so drastically without notice. Do you have the friend's phone number of where he claimed he was spending the night???? I would hate to assume your hubby is cheating on Christmas Eve, but I have seen worse things. Good Luck, I hope you are worried for nothing. You need to do some PI work, can't a family member keep an eye on the baby while you check things out? Better to know if he is cheating before you invest anymore in the marriage, and if you find out that he is in fact telling the truth, then don't second guess him in the future. I say you find out, sounds a bit suspicious to me.
2007-12-23 20:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a bunch of BS. Car acting "funny", how so? Staying with a friend, while wife is home with sick baby? And...going to work on day shift, on Christmas eve, out of the blue! If you and the baby were his priority then he would have found a way to get home. His priorities are else where for the Christmas eve. He's probably planning to come home for the 25th though, that way he can say he spent with Christmas with his family. He will get his cake and get to eat it. You need to confirm the info he gave you and be on the look out for other evidence.
2007-12-23 20:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by NinjenWV 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to wonder but maybe he is just being genuine... Check to see whether his work is open tomorrow that may give you the answer you need.. Although if you get too paranoid and worried over something that isn't true, it wont only ruin your Xmas, it could also push him away. The main thing is that you can trust him. A relationship is built upon trust. I know that is what everyone says but it is true.
Hope I helped xx
2007-12-23 20:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible he's gone for a night out with the boys. And it's possible he's doing exactly what he said. And it's also possible you're instincts are correct.
Call him to make sure he made it to his friend's ok, ask what time he starts work in the morning and tell him to be sure to call you and let you know he made it to work ok - also find out what time he'll be home tomorrow. Be a concerned wife, worried for your husband's safety ... at the same time, you are keeping track of his activity without being controlling. Men don't like and cannot tolerate a "controlling" woman - but they love when their wives are concerned about their welfare and worry about them. It makes them feel needed and loved - as long as it's not "over-done". We are concerned without "nagging" or "smothering".
Get well wishes to your baby - Blessings.
2007-12-23 21:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient - trust, but verify....don't confront him without good evidence.
Check his email and cell phone detailed bill to see if there is anything suspect there. Stash copies of any evidence you find for a divorce attorney should you need one. You can go to cheaters.com and install their cheater checker software on his computer - it will give you his passwords, email, IM, chat, websites he visits, etc.
Call his office in the morning and ask if they're closing early for the holiday.
Thank the friend for letting him stay at his house for this "emergency." - You could quietly mail him a thank you note. Or send him a thank you plant.
Read Divorce Busting book.
If you still want him and you have competition, you will have to be prettier, kinder, more gracious and charming than her.
Joy to you!
2007-12-23 20:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the best thing to do is to be honest with him. Tell him how you feel and let him know your fears. Distrust in a relationship doesn't just start. What has he done previous to make you distrust him? Call the the friend's house. Call him at work in the morning. Then you will know. He may be planning something nice for you on Christmas, or something like that. Rethink why you are feeling this way. Has he done something in the past to make you think this? I hope that it is innocent and I bet it is.
2007-12-23 20:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't know if you're being crazy or not... you did not say whether he has given you reason to mistrust him in the past?
i am not sure about the broken car story, but maybe since it's the day before christmas he's hoping to have his car fixed and getting you something nice for christmas? i'm trying to look at the positive side?
i sure hope things are ok... try to get some rest and deal with it tomorrow with a clear head.
i know you're wondering and probably feeling hurt... take care of YOU. xo
2007-12-23 21:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you his friends name and give you his friends # to contact him? If your concerned call him at work in the morning. If they're closed you'll have good reason to be suspicious. Better yet meet him at work in the morning. Take him some clean clothes so you have a reason for being there.
2007-12-23 20:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have gotten the number to the friends house he's supposedly staying at, that way you could check up on him. I don't know if he is or not. You shouldn't confront him, especially if you turn out to be wrong. Just keep an eye out and ask questions. You'll find out in the end if he is. Good luck
2007-12-23 20:48:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋