I can't stand my sibling! What do I do?

Question

Hey everyone. My story with my sibling is a really long one so I'll try to shorten it. My sister is nineteen and still acts like she's 5. When we were kids, she treated me terribly and beat the crap out of me all the time. She gave me two concussions and my parents just don't seem to give a damn. :| Now we go to the present, she gets pregnant and has a baby.

She couldn't go to school so she comes back and moves in with us because my parents are too 'nice' or something. They didn't think about me and what she used to do with me. At the most random times when I'm trying to be the nicest, she turns into a complete biatch and makes me want to knock her lights out. I might seem like an asshole, but really I'm not. She's ALWAYS giving me reasons to hate her! I've even told my parents upfront that they need to kick her out before I try moving out, but they just told me: "She's our daughter why do we have to kick her out." Uh, they have another one too! That person's me!

What do I do..?

* More insight on this. I always do my chores before she does and ALWAYS do my fair share. When I forget, she goes ***** mode and just bitches and complains about what she wants until she gets it.

Answer 1

Hi...

Well, the first thing you might want to do is realize your sister is a miserable person. If she treats you badly on the outside, realize how crappy she must be on her inside.

You cant change her or help her, but you can change your attitude toward her, since you have to live with her right now... if she's mean, just smile and tell her you love her... or ask her if she feels better now that she got it out.. then turn and go do something else, as if you are unconcerned with her bad mood, etc..

Keep yourself occupied doing things you like to do, as well.. this will keep your mind off the way she is acting/behaving. And remember it's not your behavior that's bad, it's hers. Be thankful you do not act like she does... lesson learned, also.

I'm sure you feel your parents don't think about you. But i am sure they do. I am a mother too, and i'd like to say that all of our kids are different. Maybe your parents look at you as the stronger one, and her as the needy one? That doesn't mean your parents love you less.. they just look at you in a different light (as a more capable person, probably)

If you feel left out or used, ask your parents to listen one day soon, and tell them how you feel "i feel left out", "i feel mistreated by my sister", "i feel i'm treated unfairly"... you can also ask them what you can do to make your relationship with them better? (this might give them some food for thought). ask them if they would get back with you later on what they think... don't let them talk right then. let them digest what you say. and if you don't now all you feel, write a list first.

Your parents might just realize you need a little more support and care.

I sure hope things work out for you, hon... Your best bet is to take care of YOU and your life.. do what makes you happy and set your sister's bad attitudes and behaviors aside. There comes a time in our lives when we must realize that accepting others at face value is about the only thing we can do.

then move forward. hugs

Answer 2

Seems to me like you are overlooking one very important person in this picture and that is the baby. No matter what your sister does or how she treats you, if she does indeed act that immature I can see why your parents are unwilling to kick her out.
She could be jealous of you, hence the reason she is so mean and nasty or she could just be that miserable with herself that it spills over on to you.
Try to keep your distance and don't allow yourself to sink to her level, do your thing, be the best person you can be and make sure you do your part in making sure that baby has a good life!
As for your parents not giving a damn about you, I am sure that they do, but once you become a parent, you will find out that you will love your kids, no matter what they do, even to each other, cuz that is what parents do. I am sure your parents realize you are by far very different and I am betting they know you are stronger then your sister is or ever will be.

Answer 3

Hey,

I went through the same thing with my sister (who's five years older). She had this compusive need to control and belittle me. I was living at home with my parents (she lived there too). I would go out and have fun with my friends. I was very popular and had a lot of friends calling the house. My sister would tell my parents that I was having sex with this guy and that guy (I wasn't). My parents sided with her and I ended up staying in the house most of the summer as punishment.

Eventually, my sister ends up pregnant and disappointed my parents tremendously. I never understood my siser's behavior for years and then we both grew up.

She confided to me that she was jealous of me and wanted to hurt me in whatever way she could. We laugh at it now, but it was really hard.

I think you should talk to your sister (heart to heart). Let her know that you love her (you do) and you want to be close with her.

Good Luck

Answer 4

i was in that same situation just a over a yr ago but my parents did nothing bout it so i moved out and in with my then bf who's now my husband and his mum.When she moved out they wanted me back but 2 weeks later she moved back in. My sis does all types of drugs and drinks, uses them for money....whatever she can get out of them. I have had trouble with my health because of them cause I am so stressed out bout it all i now suffer from panic attacks. They are showing me that they care for her more than they do me and I have given up on them and i'm on 21. My doctor told me to move on as i was putting my health in real bad risk and that is now what i'm doing. i only really talk to my little bro. It's sad to know that more parents are doing the same to others.

Answer 5

whatever happens, you can't change the fact that she is still your sister.You know, siblings come to that situation..even me with my brother, there are times that i felt secluded because it's like his the only child my parents have, but i didn't realize how much my parents love me in a DIFFERENT way.may be it's hard to extend some patience and love to them but we must do.if you know that they are wrong you must help them to correct their mistakes and talk to them sincerely.
someday you'll see how much they care for you.


and remember
*just always pray at night..*