My last two girlfriends killed my confidence...how do I get it back?
I am a good looking guy, I am no model, but girls do compliment, and they're always surprised that I am single. It's like I don't know what to do on a date. I still flirt alot with girls, and the last few dates I've had, the girl is actually the one that's asked me out....cause of my flirting I guess. But then the date happens, and it's like I am scared to get into a relationship; I won't even kiss first, or hold their hands it's so bad. It's like I am going through the motions of dating but my head isn't there.
Is it my confidence that is down or am I just scared of getting hurt again?
2007-12-23 18:42:38 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're scared of getting hurt again is what the problem is. :/ If you know that you're well-liked and are good looking, then you shouldn't really be afraid if the girls like you. Try to believe in yourself that you can indeed date without problems..
Take care!
2007-12-23 18:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt your confidence is scarred. However, yes, it is possible that you are scared of getting hurt again. What you must do in order to overcome it is this..... Attempt to detach yourself from any deep feelings or emotions that you have/might have for a particular woman you are dating. Jump right in, do your thing and proceed; however, try to think more about yourself. Treat it as if it was a business deal.... remain completely detached (or at least for the most part) from emotional attachment. That way, if she bails, you will be able to unplug.... just like unplugging a cord from an outlet, think of it that way. Think of it as it being her loss, always. You don't lose anything, you still have yourself. As for physical attractiveness, it has absolutely nothing to do with getting a partner. Psychological studies on human behaviour point out that there are 2 main traits that attract women to men: 1. sense of humour and 2. confidence. Women place little to no emphasis on physical appearance; so throw that out of the picture. Just jump in the water with little emotion or without any. You are doing her a favor, and if she doesn't want it, unplug and forget about it; you're too important for that. Good luck buddy!
2007-12-24 02:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through heartbreak. That is how we learn to appreciate a good relationship. Never quite trying. You will never find love if you close your heart to it. Just take your time befoe jumping into another relationship. You probably let yourself get involved too quickly before. Every date is not going to be your new relationship. Find the right one first.
2007-12-24 02:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural! I am in similar boots! My heart heart's been broken twice, now I am being so careful, thinking that all guys r the same,(they are going to break my heart). Well not people are like that, just give yourself enough time to heal, and to move on, leave the past where it belongs, IN THE PAST!
And please minimize on your flirting habit, it will only land you in to trouble ( my understanding of flirting is that people don't always mean what they say.
All the best.
2007-12-24 03:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur scared of getting hurt
2007-12-24 02:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋