We'd known each other in the past and been close friends, there was some kind of unexplainable bond but it never went any farther than friendship even though we might have cared much more than that.
Life went on, I'm out of a relationship for over a year now, he's in one currently...we hadn't talked for a couple of years but now we've been e-mailing about twice a week regularly for several months now. He's mentioned his girlfriend once or twice, basically to tell me he has one; but past that doesn't breathe a word about her.
We don't talk on the phone, and haven't seen each other, we don't flirt with each other - but there is this real connection and like, emotionally intimate feeling to our e-mails.
He's always been a pretty gaurded guy, and runs deep anyway, and it was implied that something about me freaked him out emotionally in the past and he didn't act on anything.
I haven't crossed any boundries and won't. He says his girlfriend knows he has female
2007-12-23 18:42:50 · 2 answers · asked by Cedar_2006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
friends and trusts him, but I don't know if I get the feeling that he's told her that we write each other like we do.
He opens up, and then clams up, and it's this back and forth thing going on. Part of me thinks he needs some time to sort things out and that he does still care.
My heart is like waiting for him, whether I like it or not. I just wish I knew if it's helping or harming. He was in love with me once, does that go away? Why is he still writing me. Should I stay put and be there for him as a friend and if that's how it stays then I'm blessed and if it goes farther I should be so lucky...
2007-12-23 18:48:42 · update #1
He doesn't talk about the past. But he hints around at admiring the person I am, or like qualities I guess. He's very encouraging. Honestly a good friend. Sometimes I think it might me more, like once I was kind of in a snippy mood and it came through in an e-mail and he picked up on it and was actually hurt and asked about it. I hadn't expected it to bother him but it apparently did very much.
2007-12-23 19:16:58 · update #2
He is guarded because he has a gf, and is not sure of his feelings about you. I would just stay in the "friend" zone while he is still with this girl. You don't want to mess with his head, or allow him to do the same to you.
2007-12-23 19:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, that he just has something that he needs to think about or decide, and he isn't able to face it himself. So maybe he is trying to find you, from his past, someone that he can trust, and talk to. Someone that he can tell anything and everything to. But thats just a possibility :D. Just look at your conversations. If its all pure friendship, complaints about life, jokes, fun, I would think its ok. But I guess, if he talks a lot about 'old times' or stuff like that, maybe he is trying to start something with you. So, my best advice, either try to look at your e-mails up till now and see what you decide, or try to get some kind of emotionally intimate conversation with him, which I don't really think can happen in e-mails.
2007-12-24 03:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋