I am 18. untill 16 I use to have many friends, always somebody to hang out with and I was really popular. I have moved far away right after my 16th birthday because my dad got a job in another state. I was really sad to leave my life behind, I have just started to date at that point, I was at the top of the world. the first year after leaving I made no friends. I was so sad for leaving that I refused to make friends, it just seemed pointless. But after comming back the summer when I was 17, on vacation, I realized that people did not miss me as much as I missed them all. I got over it now, but I have regrets now. I still did not have a girlfriend, you know, just somebody to hang around with and to care about. My family is really nice and I do well at university. this keeps me going. I met a few new people, but its not nearly as fun as before. I hang out with these people just not to be alone. I have become shy and rearly come up to girls, and when I do it doesnt go well. WHAT DO I DO?
2007-12-23 23:24:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know pretty much what you're going through. When me and my friends hit high school, I went to this catholic all girl school, while they all went to the town's public high school. I would be depressed that i didn't have them around, and refuse to socialize with anybody at my school. Finally i started seeing them again, and i realized that their lives went on just fine without me. My current boyfriend actually told me how they just didn't even care about me after i left. Well, i started to branch out at my school, and become my own person, and not just attached to my friends. Things are better if you just take those chances and meet those people. You need to experience some rejection, really. From what I'm reading, i think you'll do just fine =]
2007-12-23 23:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept that unfortunately your father ruined high school for you. But now you are an adult, in college, and things will never be quite the same again.
But you can't go moping around whining about what could have been. Make the most of university, which should still be a lot of fun. Get well qualified and get a good job. Then you can afford to live wherever you like, for as long as you like. You'll be able to make the friends you want, and won't have to worry about your family relocating you against your will.
You ask how to change your life, I think the only real answer is acceptance of the past, and a resolve to make something positive in the future.
2007-12-24 07:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I can understand yr feeling, You may be a very sincere guy with the feelings for your friends etc, yet you do mention they don't have the same as you ? that's part of life, be realistic, after all you this is not the end of every thing, take advantage of where you are and give your self and others a chance, and look forward for the best rather than have a hang over, good luck mate
2007-12-24 07:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by GT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to join some social clubs and organizations that interest you. There you will meet people with similar interests to be able to start friendships.
You stated that you thought it was pointless at one time, that is why you are where you are right now. You didnt make any effort and probably kept to yourself. People sensed that and gave you your space.
So now, send out a good vibe and just get back to being you.
2007-12-24 07:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone that leaves home has this problem..".out of sight , out of mind", for the people that you left behind. no one does this on purpose, it just happens. its a part of life, to lose who you are when you go to college. having a girl that you hang around with is more important to you than you think...as she could be your future wife, mother of your kids, or god mother to your children. you have it good, you just need to see the forest , through the trees... i think you dont go up to random girls out of fear your best friend will leave you hanging, like your old friends at home....so my advise, keep up what you are doing, as far as being yourself, dont change who you are to fit in, cause you dont have to ....stay true to yourself and everything will be alright
2007-12-24 07:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by lisaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of your 2008 New Year's Resolutions as to what you will need to do in order the change your life. Once you have accomplished that task, check it off your list.
2007-12-24 07:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Louise Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost same as you..You see, to change oneself takes a lot of effort,hardships, and sometimes, failure..Well, its your own choice to still continue with that kind of lifestyle...But trust me, whatever changes you make, when its for a good reason, there must be no hesitations to undergo this challenge...well at first place,that's Life
2007-12-24 07:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by joan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay who you are, Focus on things you like to do and as you go out and do these things you will met people. which makes it easy then you'll have something in common to share and talk about.
2007-12-24 07:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by amentcw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can change your life cos you have just taken the first step by asking how you can change it. hope that everything works out and that you have a great 2008!!
2007-12-24 07:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Loli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid g/f or b/f activities and concentrate on your studies and extra curricular actives should be part of life.
2007-12-24 07:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by baboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋