How do I stop my husband from drinking alcohol and wasting time with his useless friends?

Question

He has some friends who are totally useless, they call him out to drink! there is nothingelse they call him for. I dont like them. they are not even to his standard.
I have tried telling 2 of his friends about what happens when he come home from drinking, they told me- dont worry we wont call him out anymore which lasted for 1 week only and after that they keep calling him out.
I just dont understand why he has to go out and drink with his friends. I have tried to stop him by blackmailing him to choose which he wants.. his wife or alcohol.. but still after few days he is back to drinking.
Can someone tell me some trick that i can use on him.

Answer 1

Well, I don't know a trick potion that you can use, nor do I believe in tricks, bc they don't work. You tried to play a trick and tell him that you would leave but you still stayed. So lets go forward. In my opinon, you can't control another person. So don't try, you expressed how you feel about it, and he doesn't care to change or care to respect your feellings, and that is a fact, so you should just move on to something that may work for you, (I would suggest you leave for a short time but I don't think your ready for that) What happens when he comes home wasted? DO you help to bed? Do you clean up his mess? DO you still have sex with him? If so change your role, Prepare him a place on the couch to sleep on the nights he comes home drunk, If he makes a mess let him clean it up the next day, Absolutely no sex for at least a week, and be consistent, you have to show him that you don't like this behavior with your actions not just your mouth and then if he persists, you may have to re-evaluate you guys relationship.

Answer 2

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How do I stop my husband from drinking alcohol and wasting time with his useless friends?
He has some friends who are totally useless, they call him out to drink! there is nothingelse they call him for. I dont like them. they are not even to his standard.
I have tried telling 2 of his friends about what happens when he come home from drinking, they told me- dont worry we wont call him...

Answer 3

It sounds like you love him and this may sting a little, but only he can change if he wants too. My best suggestion is if you have a freind or someone you can stay with that he does not know, or money enough to rent a room for a few days, just pack up and leave when he goes out next time. No note, no number, no food in the fridge, no coffee to sober up. Let him stew in his juices for a time, then give him a call and say "what the hell is it going to be?" and go from there. Best wishes

Answer 4

Pack his stuff and put it out in front of the door and tell him if he wants to go drinking take his stuff with him. Then he can go when he wants too and he can also stay at his buddy's house and let them take care of him and his sht. My question is what does he do when he gets home?Does he hit you or is he just down right rude and crude with his mouth?Either way you don't need this crap.You can do better.He isn't the only man in the world and there are some men who actually give a sht about us women.

Answer 5

Sorry! There are no "tricks" to pull to resolve drinking issues! He needs to get help soon, AA, Al anon, etc......and he'll proceed down this path until HE wants to stop. You can't control this situation with feminine wiles. This seems to be the beginning of a bad situation, get some counseling on the subject and ask your husband to seek help! The last resort is obvious, you have to leave! Sorry!

Answer 6

Been there; done this---He will not change unless you leave...and mine still kept drugging and drinking. You are only hurting yourself; and I can bet you money, he has had an affair or two on the side while intoxicated...most drunks do.

Talking and threats will get you NO where. Your only course of action is just that: ACTION. Get out.
Why would you want to live with a smelly drunk anyway?

And remember: "Actions speak louder than words"~~what are his saying? Kick him right out with his beer can in hand...he will just go live with one of his drinking buddies, and then you will really begin to learn of all the evil deeds he has done.

I can also promise you, that you will be happier.

Answer 7

You can't make someone do something they don't want to do. They more you try to stop him the more he is likely to carry on drinking. Complaining, nagging and criticizing is one sure way to destroy a relationship. I am assuming he was a drinker when you married him and he has had these friends for a long time. Either accept him the way he is or move on.

Answer 8

His friends are part of the problem and you instinctively know that alcohol is the main thing

Google your local Al-Anon meetings and check them out. They are brilliant at helping you sort out a potential difficulty with a partner or family member who drinks too much

Seriously: Google your local meeting today and phone them and speak to them. They WILL help you and ease the burden

Answer 9

Divorce my dear
it happen to me and after I divoce him all his friend drop him now they are married with family of their own and he is a bitter old man who every 11/2 try to tak eme to court for child support even Kidnapping eventough the children are with me and I have custody both my lawyer and the judge thing that alcohol did something to his brain
your husband need to grow up
and I am afraid you can do nothing about it, only him can fix the situation

Answer 10

I am sorry, there is no trick. He either wants this marriage to work, or he wants to play. As hard as this is to hear, you're best bet is to leave him. He'll beg and plead to come back, but remember, he did not want to stay in the first place.
Find someone who is into you and a relationship that makes you both happy.
You deserve someone to treat you with love and respect.